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I think I'm worrying myself sick about passports and bussles. Didn't celebrate 21st birthday. Stomach still not well enough for Tequila. Damn it.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, sc Saturday, December 31, 2005
Where to start... My mother wants to invite a bunch of people we don't know and theres only 130 geust alowed at the reception hall.I also had all my bridesmaides picked out when MOG anounced that SIL would be able to come to the wedding from the other side of the country. I have to make her a bridesmaid. I don't mind doing this exept for now MOG is concerned there is more BMs than GMs. She also has a baby. Now Im a bitch, because I do not want a baby in the wedding party. FH family questions my choice to get married at my grandmothers church. A seventh day adventist church. They also seem more concerned about ther stupid dogs then the wedding. I am concerned because the rehersal takes place 2 days before the wedding. This means that SIL will not be able to atend it. I also cant seem to get away from work latly and am falling behind. the wedding is it 3 months, and my bridesmaids are of little help to me. If I had to do it again I would just elope!
bitch face
Saturday, December 31, 2005
When people tell me how gorgeous my ring is, I am always gracious and thank them and then compliment them on their engagment ring. Deep down, I want to gush about the beauty of my gorgeous, colorless, nearly flawless diamond. I'm such a self-centered brat.
isn't my ring GORGEOUS?
Friday, December 30, 2005
Got a GORGEOUS diamond & ruby (my birthstone) ring for Christmas but later freaked out on the BF cause it wasnt an engagement ring. I am evil and he is slow.
PrincessBrideZilla
Friday, December 30, 2005
I actually considered getting a white hoodie and embroidering "Future Mrs. _____" on the back (ala Jessica Simpson). Seeing this typed out makes me queasy.
Must take it down a notch.
Los Angeles, CA Friday, December 30, 2005
Too much wine on Christmas and told the boy 2 carats or nothing... such a bitch, I will be forever single for this bratty outburst
big mouth
Friday, December 30, 2005
Not a confession; just wondering - why hasn't the Cavalcade of Bad Bridal Fashion been updated in months? Believe me, the new issues of bridal porn are filled with hideous dresses that bear too much resemblance to those that were worn in the 1980's.
Just making a suggestion...
Wednesday, December 28, 2005
This was from my buddy's wedding, but it's pretty good, so what the hell? Couple of months before the wedding Bride To Be gets all hot and bothered because...gasp...my buddy's parents were getting a SHORE HOUSE instead of giving them the money! They got a shore house every year for fifteen years! So, when the invitations came, my buddy's parents' names weren't on them! When pressed for an explanation, my buddy got "I don't think your parents are contributing enough to this wedding!" Can you imagine? And yes, JS, schoolteacher in South Jersey, this is you I'm referring to.
JS_Hater
Tuesday, December 27, 2005
Went to a wedding yesterday at the same place we had ours; DH and I spent the whole time talking about how much better the room looked with OUR decorations, how many more people danced to OUR band, etc., etc.!
Still the Bride
Tuesday, December 27, 2005
Been dating for over 3 years and have lived together for 2 1/2. THough not engaged we fight over details alrady, he has nothing to say about the rings that I like other then that he hates the commas. For some reason he thinks that we are getting married in his home state of Monatana, I am from NoDak, and that is where we live together. No I WILL NOT plan my wedding 8 hours away from where I live...plus aren't you supposed to get married in the brides home town? Plus pretty positive FMIL HATES me! BUT BF can't see this. :( So stressed already..but for some reason can't wait to see him take a knee. Boys are dumb, but I love him sooo much!
why so impatient
Sunday, December 25, 2005
The boy doesn't like gold. The boy doesn't like silver. The boy says titanium is too "fancy" for him. It all seems a little weird to me, and I'm having a hard time looking at these $15 stainless steel rings he would love. I guess because I know how bloody much he's spending on mine... *sigh* But if he loves it, he deserves it. Bugger the money. I'll close my eyes and pay with credit card when I find one I can get him to agree to. If it's $15 or $1500, so be it. Silly picky boy. :)
cheap-o
Tuesday, December 20, 2005
Does anyone think it's wrong to want to go ahead and spend all my cash on clothes and stuff for me? That way when I'm married I won't have to ask if we can spend "our" money on luxuries. In a way this sounds really fair to me. He doesn't have to think about all the money I'm blowing on bikinis or whatever and doesn't have to pay the bills for it. Plus, it's my money and I can do what I want. On the other hand I know that he is really trying to save so that we will be stable until I get out of college. Hmm. I am paying for the wedding all by myself!! Is it wrong of me to want to splurge every last dime so that I have nothing to contribute fiancailly? Thinking before I buy.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, SC Tuesday, December 20, 2005
Had a nice lunch with a friend who I hadn't seen since I was a BM in her wedding or since I got engaged. Was sure nice to see photos of her 500 sq ft apartment and show her photos of my new 3000 sq ft dream home. Was sure nice to see her .5 carat diamond against my 1.70 carat ring.
She's my friend and I love her. I'm just a bitch.
Bitchzilla
Monday, December 19, 2005
So here I am. Again....stressing. Why can't I let it "roll of my back"? The f***ing wedding party keeps asking me to go look for a dress with them. Hello does anyone know how much I have doen with no help what's so ever? The Mother is suddenly poor and can not afford flowers which is the one thing I agreed to let her do. Now I have to make my own bouquet. Why don't I just skip the flowers. That should piss everyone off!
I hate being selfish and hate people that are selfish but why can't anyone jsut take care fo what they are supposed to? HAs the groom and his party looked for tuxes? NO! Has FH found out about the license?
NO Do I ahve to do it all? What is with men?
Thank God I am organized! The other day I ahd a breakdown. 20 minutes of sobbing. It felt good to be incoherant and just get it all out.
Thanks for goingbridal.....it helps to vent!
..../I have spoken
FL Monday, December 19, 2005
We got married 3 months ago at the courthouse, we are having a vow renewal (we hate calling it a wedding) when he returns from Iraq. I'm finally sending out annoucements with the Christmas cards.
just a late notice
Monday, December 19, 2005
i have a few:
first, fh's cousin got engaged several months after me, but is getting married a month (to the day) after us. the family has $$$, but it pisses me off that now my gifts/money will be less because it's being split in such a short time.
i can't make up my mind. i have 6 months left until the wedding and i don't have a dj or an officiant or flowers or a photographer. im'a procrastinator and now i think it's finally going to catch up with me.
fmil wants me to include my fsil "in some way" ummm. obviously i don't like her and i don't care. if that was me, i would feel like a loser if the bride was being forced to include me (she's not a little kid, either- we are the same age!!)
also, fh's family is not paying for anything, but they ALWAYS have suggestions on where we should have it and what we should do. and, when i tell them things i have decided, (the ceremony/reception site)- they roll their eyes or ask if i'm sure.
I am starting to hate my in laws already..
fh wanted to elope, i should have just done it- i hate wedding/wedding planning!!!!!!!!
wh y won't these people leave me alone?
Sunday, December 18, 2005
Now that I am engaged I am totally letting myself go. I used to buy a new outfit every time I saw him just to get his attention... now I look like shit all the time. It's not that I don't have the money, either. I've got more of my own money than ever before and I look worse than ever. What the hell is wrong with me? I'm becomming my mother.
Miss Frumpy
Friday, December 16, 2005
So here it is the holidays. Ho Ho Ho and all that crap. Can I please have a f***ing day off from planning? I am doing it myself and am almost done but if one more
"friend" asks me to tell them everything I will be in jail.
The FMIL is still living with us. Can not stress enough to her that she has to get her own place or her son will never have sex again.
It's funny...every time I leave the room she talks to him in a hushed voice. Hello! what on earth do you need to tell him that you think he isn't telling me. If she tells him one more F**ing time "don't tell (your future-wife)" I am going to bitch slap her, then spit in her face, and strangle her.
So the caterer I have decided is a bunch of stuck up crabby bitches that need to get laid. Why do I have to pay half my budget to a place that wouldn't design the menu? I designed the entire meal after repeatedly saying "NO SEAFOOD" and repeatedly seafood was all over the menu. Think about your guests and what they want...um...I will fire your ass if you don't stop being a mother. My guest will be eatting happily and if they want seafood they can go to Red Lobster. Don't make me smell fish when I am already uncomfortable in a pushup bra and heels! Give me a break! Did a man create bras and heels? Did a man create wedding's?
Anyway.....all of a sudden people are coming out of the wood work because the menu is that good. Not that I created what is on the menu I just picked it all out of prior menu's the caterer had shown me.
The cake is dreamy but small which is fine by me.
And my dress will not be in until two weeks before the wedding. AHHHHHHHH!
Happy Holidays to all of you! Take some time for yourself before me all go "Mental"!
Why can'tI speak up/I have spoken
FL Friday, December 16, 2005
My dress is great, but the damn seamstress that altered it was a peice of work. I should have ran when she started a conversation with "So I was looking up how to do a bustle on the internet..." Now everythings crooked, the bustle looks weird and it takes a puzzle genius to get the thing done up. (Oh, and lady, I know they make bustle hooks painted WHITE so don't tell me they don't.) Also, my entire family is giving me crap for having the wedding in the winter and some are refusing to come (including aunts, uncles, and grandparents). My mom, who moved to arizona after I moved out, wants to have an additional reception there (like hell I am, we only know 15 people there, tops) so people can go to that instead of traveling to my wedding. My bridesmaids and/or family apparently aren't throwing me a bridal shower, and I'm not sure if I'm getting a bachelorette party, either. The deadline to RSVP has passed, but less than half have replied. My future MIL still wants us to send invites to assorted aquaintences ("you'll get a good gift out of them!!" I DON'T CARE, LADY!) And this is off-topic, but my parents totally forgot my birthday last week. And they still haven't wished me a happy birthday.
getting married blows
Thursday, December 15, 2005
My parents do not undertand that I DON'T CARE who they get to do the damn bridal portrait because the ONLY reason I am doing the stupid thing is because THEY want me to. Then they say "You're going to have it up at the reception, right?" Hell no I'm not going to have it up at the reception--why should I? I'll be there, IN the DRESS. You'll be able to see it better on me, in the flesh. So then it's "Well, why are you even HAVING a portrait made?" You've got to be fucking kidding me.
pass me a razor blade
Thursday, December 15, 2005
I just got engaged. The size of the diamond is about half of what I wanted it to be. I want to trade it in for a bigger one before we get married. Why didnt he just wait until he could buy me the right ring before he proposed?
All I want to do is talk about my wedding. I am on the net all day at work on wedding sites. I have picked my bridesmaids: My MOH is depressed because she just lost her job, I dont think she will be a good MOH. My bridesmaid is going through a divorce (her husband cheated on her). My other bridesmaid is going through a depression because her married boyfriend will not leave his wife. Im tired of hearing about their depressing lives.
Nobody wants to hear me talk non stop about my wedding plans. Boo hoo..!!
soon to be bridezilla
New York, NY Thursday, December 15, 2005
I need to sack my bridesmaid. She is too high maintenance, I want to do it NOW, but i need to think of a good lie to let her down reasonabley gentley. But thats not the bad thing. I dont want to just sack her, i want to stay friends with her so she will still be on the guest list and I still get a gift from her!!!!!!!!
Hal
Wednesday, December 14, 2005
He has not even proposed yet, but I know its coming (he asked my parents blessing and my mom has a huge mouth) I kept hinting at how nice christmas is and even told him all I wanted for christmas was a ring. Today he told me not to get my hopes up cause he doesn't have the ring yet, and I cried. Why am I such a brat already? What the hell is wrong with me? I never even wanted to get married EVER before we met, now I want it to happen at christmas so I can announce it to my whole family and show off some diamond ring which I always said I didn't want. Man I am worse than the grinch, I need to get over myself. I suck.
soon to be bridezilla
MN Tuesday, December 13, 2005
Wanted to elope, my man didn't. FH is a procrastinator so if I want to marry him at all, *I* have to plan this damn fiasco. Mom bitches about how few people I'm inviting, how little I care about whether the napkins match the BM dress, and pretty much hates the museum I booked. WTF, if I'm planning and paying for the circus, don't get pissed because I won't pay for something I don't care about...I'd rather buy a house than pay throught the nose for flowers and favors and overpriced crap in white with ribbons and lace hot-glued to it!
Disgusted with it all
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
My wedding was a few years ago. Darn near perfect except for the so-called Best Man who refused to show up for the rehersal, demanded we pay for his tux (just before the wedding so there wasn't time to replace him), wanted us to rent him a car to drive to the wedding AND a hotel room and then practically dry-humped my hubby's cousin during the reception. Not to mention that the S.O.B. owes us $3,000 but when asked to pay it back he said, "sue me".
Now the best-man-from-hell is getting married. One word for his upcoming nuptuals, TACKY. They're obviously in it for the gifts. We've had three notices about where they're registered, despite the fact we haven't talked to him in 2 years. Did we go to the engagement party? NO! Are we going to the wedding? Yes, according to my hubby. I am only agreeing to go so I can eat HIS food & cause him to spend some $$ for a change. I'm intentionally waiting to send the response card until the last minute and will be searching for the world's tackiest wedding gift (no more than $10) which I am buying only because I won't walk in empty handed.
I hope his wedding is a flop!!!
Still Fuming
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
I am so glad we live on a totally different continent than my FH family. I think if his children came to the wedding I would choke them after poinsoning their pudding! my confession? I HATE MY FH's CHILDREN!!! THEY ARE SPOILT HIDEOUS UP THEM SELVES NEED TO BE TAKEN OUT BACK AND SHOT BRATS!!!
there, i feel much better now.
Hal
Monday, December 12, 2005
not really a confession im totally freaked out right now my wedding is 8 weeks away the dress shop orderd a 20 (im an 18) a 22 came in and they are now telling me they cant alter my dress it will ruin it. how can i get a refund any options i have no qualms going to davids and buying a dress off the rack at this point!
stacey <email>
rosehaven, md Monday, December 12, 2005
I cannot take the wedding crap anymore.
If I hear my mother say, one more fucking time "I would SUGGEST that you do this, because if you DON'T..." (Emily Post will DIE, or the Queen will vomit, or George W. Bush will Bomb Canada, or the Yankees will win in 2006, or your father will go into deep insulin shock, or I will slit my wrists, or whatever) I will shoot myself.
The Man is, of course, having a grand time. He is the bride. He actually said to me tonight, "You'll be so happy, in the end, that our weddding was (where it's going to be)". WTF? Would he like to wear the white dress?
He actually pitched a fit about having my only brother as a groomsman. Now, what would he like me to do about this situation? Yes, my brother is a loser. That is painful for me to admit. I would like to have a suave and successful brother, not one who is 30 and still lives with my parents and works part time and smokes pot all day while watching porn in the bedroom that used to belong to my younger sisters, and therefore is decorated with late-80's era Cabbage Patch Kid wallpaper. But what the fuck would you like me to do about that, darling? Launch WW3 in my family over that? I'm already the Scandal of 2006 for marrying a non-Irish, non Catholic hippie California boy and not having a Church wedding, therefore cinching my spot in Hell.
I hate weddings. Hate them. HATE THEM. I hate my own wedding. This could not suck anymore. I wanted to elope. This is why. Weddings should not be about crying. I thought these were supposed to be fun. Well, they're not. They're fucking stupid. And silly. These are for vacuous little girls who have nothing else to do.
I just returned home to New York after visiting my family in Boston for wedding planning. Can you tell?
Thank God for Ativan.
Queenie
Sunday, December 11, 2005
My friend who is the groom will be jumping off a cliff into the arms of bridezilla next summer. I feel bad for him. He has no idea. Bridezilla disrespects him constantly, never does an ounce of anything but eat & drink & get fatter. Hope she'll be able to fit into her god aweful dress. Or not. Whatever.
When all of your friends (male & female) tell you that you need to think about your relationship because they can see how misrable bridezilla make him...maybe that's not a good sign & he should get a clue.
It just sucks that he can't see that she plans to cut me out of his life (along with other people) she feels is not up to her "standards." And the fact that I've got a hoo-ha doesn't help either.
I hate her. I wanted to like her. But I just hate her now.
Hisfriendwithahooha
Sunday, December 11, 2005
I'm thinking about hypenating my new name with my old one. It actually has a nice ring to it, but the real reason I want to do it is because it will bug the shit out of my fiance's super ultra traditional family every time they see it. I know it's evil, but I can't stand them!
secret_zilla
Sunday, December 11, 2005
I am getting married in April, since none of my bridemaids have any money I thought I would be nice and put their dresses on my CC. Well that was stupid on my part only 1 of the three are close to paying it off. I gave them a deadline of January to pay it off since I had no interest/no payments until then. We got the dresses in May and my MOH still has a lot to pay and I have not heard a thing from her since October. She has not paid me anyhthing since June. My FH's sister is a brides maid (to bury a hatchet) and she has not paid me a thing yet! Not one dime! Now that it is December and Christmas coming up I do not think I will be seeing any money from them by Jan. I had 4 BM's but 1 dropped out because she is so self centered that she did not like the way the dress looks on her. F'em!
Bridemaids suck!
Charlotte, NC Sunday, December 11, 2005
My FSIL doesn't like me because I chose to go to my local state college while she went away to a very expensive & presitgious school. Sorry I didn't want to throw my family further into debt. Now my family's paying for 95% of the wedding because FI's family has no money while she makes six figures. I don't like her at all, she's stuck up, rude, and hates her own family. Geez, I can't WAIT to call her my "sister"
going_crazy
Saturday, December 10, 2005
I didn't want my insane, selfish mother to ruin my wedding, and since my fiance and I live 700 miles away, I lied and told her we were "eloping", and not having a wedding per se, so that's why no family was invited including her.
The truth is, we had a beautiful, small, elegant wedding with our dearest friends in attendance. We had the time of our lives; the absolute wedding of our dreams, with no family drama or crap.
I am blissfully happy.
happychristy
Saturday, December 10, 2005
Somehow my ex's parents found out I was getting married and they or shall I say she had the balls to ask when she should expect her invitation, yeah right over my dead body, listen lady I broke up with your son for MANY reasons, you being one, no way I am going to let eat my cake and drink my champagne. God help me!!!
nottabridezilla....YET <email>
cocoa, fl Friday, December 09, 2005
When I got married for the first time...had anyone been married more than once? I felt it was a farce and I was only doing it so my daughter would have a name. I even went so far as to not let my Dad give me away. If I had to do this over again, I would have at least explainied my actions to my dad. He is gone now and we never discussed it.
Daddy's Mighty Mouse
Friday, December 09, 2005
I considered adding more people to the guest list in hopes I would receive more gifts. The invitations haven't gone out yet and the thought still crosses my mind. I'm an evil, evil woman.
ashamed
Wednesday, December 07, 2005
I'm not even engaged, but my BF has told me for a while he pictured us getting married. He's jokingly suggested we should elope. But lately he's depressed and stressed with work and his family and he doesn't make those little jokes anymore, or talk about what it will be like when we live together. This makes me really sad. I'm 26. I want this to work.
confused23423
Wednesday, December 07, 2005
SO I'M FIFTEEN AND MY FH IS 44. WHY IS EVERYONE GIVING BE SO MUCH HELL ABOUT THIS ENGAGEMENT? I DON'T CARE THAT HE'S OLDER THAN BOTH MY PARENTS. AHHHHHHH I FEEL BETTER.
NOTTOOYOUNG
Wednesday, December 07, 2005
OK, "ooh, I want to hear all about your wedding!" means you want to hear about MY wedding, not that you want to tell me all about YOURS. If I wanted to know, I would have asked!!!
Still in the Spotlight
Sunday, December 04, 2005
Married in June, plotting divorce in December. Not all have happy endings.
Was happy now I'm sad
Friday, December 02, 2005
FMIL has started crap, again. The fiance let everything slide, again. Christmas is the end of the line. I need my house back.
Only one member of bridal party is assisting me with planning and she is annoying because she wants the best man.
Best Man is now officially only trustworthy person in entire wedding party, and not wanting a relationship.
Caterer's deposit is in the mail. Why do I feel like I should of held on to it?
Wedding cake to be ordered Monday.
Am looking forward to creating a bridal ashtray because I know I will be smoking my brains out and drunk.
Still haven't put together the f-ing bags of rice for people to pelt me with. Stupid f-ing traditions.
Now the holidays are here. So much for the diet. I almost died. Can't enjoy my down time because I am too busy thinking and rethinking everything. Why is every decision so vital? What if I am making a mistake? I love him, I look forward to children....maybe it's just cold feet and nerves cause I am the older one.
Bridesmaid and best man should never have f-ed because now neither can bring a date! HA HA!
Why can't I speak up/ I have spoken!
Friday, December 02, 2005
I seriously hope that one segment of my extended family decides not to come to my wedding. They are total white trash and will embarras me by acting like bigoted trailerpark idiots in front of my new In Laws. I also hope that everyone leaves the kids at home, to the point where if they RSVP that they are bringing thier little monsters, I want to send them back mail telling them I'm sad they can't come.
Godiva
Friday, December 02, 2005
Well, I now know the result of the fight between my hubby and I that took place on our wedding night. See my previous posting and reason for fight.
I'm now officially pregnant. F*&;K.
Bad Katie
Thursday, December 01, 2005
Wedding Plans Ruining Your Relationship?
Are wedding day preparations causing undue stress in your relationship? Having second thoughts about getting married?
If you are NOT married yet, have a great story about an extreme wedding planning conflict (fiancée, bridesmaid, etc) and are available to be on the December 7th show, please email david_zack@paramount.com or visit drphil.com.
Thank you.
Dr. Phil : Weddings <email>
Los Angeles, CA Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Oh I am horrible but I am seething at the many members of husbands extended family that didn't have the class to RSVP for the wedding (come on people check a box & send in the damn postcard!)& didn't even acknowledge our wedding with a card! I hand made those damn invitations & I hate that they went to people that couldn't have cared less justbecause "my cousin invited me to her wedding 7 years ago".
pissed off in white
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
My MOH is driving me crazy!!! Again, the "I cant fit into my dress" whine while she is chowing down on a cheeseburger and fries. Then she says she will throw a shower but has been MIA. My mom has to pick up the slack, and when she does, my MOH b*tches saying "I could have gone to costco the night before and everything would have been perfect." Mind you, she had not even sent out any invitations and it was less than 1 month away. Finally, she is totally unsupportive and I think plain jealous, but continues to talk about how all these guys are calling her and that she puked for 6 hrs straight from going out the night before. I wish I had never asked her but, oh well, at least I can find secret pleasure in the fact that she will look horrible in her dress.
PenguinBride
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
I'm marrying a guy 15 years older than me who is rich and f*cking HOT. Hehe, I'm gonna retire at the ripe old age of 24!
ILoveDiamonds
Monday, November 28, 2005
My future in-laws said they were going to pay for half to have a nicer wedding. But now my future father in-law wants to cut down the list, even though the magority is his family. About to go to vegas and not invite them. Bye Bye Dicks
about to go to vegas bride
Sunday, November 27, 2005
why is it so hard just to put the f***ing bridesmaid dress on? it's not my fault that there fat hogs and they have low self-esteem. they had over a year to do something about their lard. F*ck
frustrated with everyone
Sunday, November 27, 2005
Beware for bitch MILs-Mother In Laws! They all just want to meddle...it gets worse once you're married. Now I just think up ways to annoy her back.
Pink
Sunday, November 27, 2005
Perhaps you should try making duct tape wallets~ I've heard they are a hot commodity.... you could always go w/ grilled cheese sandwiches outside of concerts.... Hell, I'd do it w/ ya.....
Friend of the margarita
greer, sc Sunday, November 27, 2005
Wish I was marrying a rich man. I think I'm more cut out for a "just for fun" job or a "I sell my handmade purses" job.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, sc Saturday, November 26, 2005
I am getting married in July of 2006 to a man 18 years older than me. Can u say SUGAR DADDY? LOL. I am 21. He is 39. He's not the worlds most attractive guy, but he has a good job n I'm sick of living with my parents. I lied to him and told him I was pregnant to get him to propose and then had a "miscarriage" once we were engaged. HAHAHAHA. I lie to him all the time but he has NO clue. Oh well. Congratulations to me.
Laughing All The Way To The Altar
Chicago, IL Friday, November 25, 2005
Friend! Thank you very much for litening to me. You are such a good friend to me. Meant to tell you that FH finally finished the guest list and the music list is almost done too. I'm relaxing a little, now that Christmas is on the way. Happy Holidays to you, Sweetheart.
Pass me the Margarita <email>
Greenville, sc Thursday, November 24, 2005
All I ever wanted was to get married. Now that its over (its been 2 months), Ive become a bridezilla. I thought my fh was having an affair with his female colleague. Hes barely talking to me anymore, but undergoes a major change when shes there. So I became depressed and started depriving myself of food, which I still do, untill I disappear. Let her have him, since he doesnt love me anymore.
Being married sucks
Thursday, November 24, 2005
So another day, another stressor.
I have been very relaxed about my bridesmaids and their attire. The only I picked was the color they are to wear. They can wear pants, dresses of any length I even said wear nothing I don't care. You think that would make them happy? No, come here, see this dress, what do you think, I have to have it made, how much does it have to be, what shoes......OK.......make a decision! I have enough on my plate with the Father who doesn't want the ex-wife/mother involved at all an the step mother that has her own daughter to fuss over but won't leave me alone and the FMIL in my house!
I usualy try not to be selfish or feel sorry for myself but I had planned a huge day for two months for all my friends in the bridal party to come with and see me try on gowns..did any one show? Of coarse not. So wear what you want.....but don't make me go to another David's Bridal EVER!
Another thing that woke me up from a sound sleep last night.....my mother is always late for everything. Late by atleast 1/2 an hour if not more. How do I get her the wedding on time with out completely losing my own mind? She will be late to her own funeral.
Why does my father send such mixed signals. He has always wanted me happy and married....and now that I am doing exactly that he has to question my Fiance. Leave it alone. Let me be my own person for once.
Why does everyone ccome out of the woodwork and demand an invitation to the wedding. Hello....if you don't get one you don't get one. I can't feed everyone in the free world!
OK. I feel a little bit lighter now having got that off my chest!
Thanks for "listening"
why can't I speak up
FL Wednesday, November 23, 2005
My fiance's grandmother is driving me crazy. She wants us to go to church, she begs us to go to church, we need church, church will accept you, church will love you, church will make everything perfect,church, church, church.......how can I get her to drop it and leave us alone. This isn't the dark ages! Being spiritual vs. religious is ok, too! I fantasize about not inviting her to the wedding because I know that she will act dissaproving the entire time because it is outside and not in a church. And as if that isn't enough.....My Fiance's mother lives with us. (Am I an idiot?) Everyone else has told me that it is not going to be work out having her live with us until she finds a place of her own. "Do NOT allow it to happen" they all have said.....but no I said sure, it's ok.....now I don't even remember what it is like to cuddle with him much less kiss him because of her constantly being there. If we argue we become "kids" and she tisks at us...would it be so bad to throw her out?
I confess to fantasizing about him not having family. I confess to thinking frequently about Las Vegas and how much better it would of been. I confess not enjoying planning the wedding. It's too much to deal with three mother's, all of which think the other is stupid with no class!
Why can't I spreak up?
Fl. Tuesday, November 22, 2005
My friend (Pass me my Margarita) is getting married in April and so far she's totally not a bridezilla...matter of fact I prby wouldn't mind if she turned into one a little bit :) I just wanted to let her know that. Margarita- you can vent to me whenever you like!
Friend of the Margarita
Greer, SC Monday, November 21, 2005
So really, I just want people to listen to me and listen to what I WANT AT MY WEDDING!! What I want for favours and what songs I wanna play, all the while polishing my ring until it blinds them alllll!!...for real....
I_need_attention
Canada, Sunday, November 20, 2005
When we first got engaged, my parents offered to pay for the wedding. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and we're very close, but I had misgivings about this from the start. Still, Fi and I are poor grad students and would have to wait a while if we paid for it ourselves and no way could we afford the big cathedral wedding my parents are giving us, so we accepted their generous offer, and I told them that I knew they were busy and I would plan the whole thing if they wanted, but I needed them to give me a budget to work with. Being a poor grad student, I happen to be good at budgeting. Well, they hemmed and hawed and couldn't decide on a budget, so they never actually gave me one. Then they started looking around. My mom looked around at different reception sites and then booked a few tours for mom, FI and I to go on. The one we fell in love with is a nice local museum. No one told me how much it cost, my parents dealt with the whole contract part, but I had a hunch it was expensive, so I asked several times if they were sure it was okay. FI and I really liked it, but if it was too much, we would be okay having it somewhere cheaper, I said. No, no, they insisted. It's a little expensive, but it's worth it. Next, Mom, bms & I went to look at dresses. We looked around and I fell completely in love with a silk shantung Watters gown. Not exactly a Vera Wang, but still a little pricey. I told Mom I loved it but was worried it was too much. "Whatever it takes," she told me. I went back a few days later to try it on a second time and still loved it, but had misgivings about the price. She told me it was a beautiful dress and I looked stunning in it and it was worth it. Okay, I said, if you're sure. So now I'm looking for a photographer. Dad said he'd look for one, but hasn't done it yet because he's been swamped at work, so I figured I'd help him out. NOT a good idea! None of the photographers I looked at were under $3000, so I told my dad what I'd found. I said, "probably there are cheaper ones, but I don't know where to look." So Dad completely flies off the handle at me and starts screaming that this wedding is already completely out of control and over budget and these photographers are just trying to rip us off. It's not like I booked a photographer! I was just trying to tell him what I found. So I said that no one ever gave me a budget and I had no idea what the museum was costing because no one had told me and if he wanted we could just cancel the whole thing. He said they'd already laid out half the cost of the museum so they were committed to that. I said fine, well, it's not too late to cancel the dress. I'll do that now and find a cheaper dress. He said no, the dress was beautiful and totally worth it. So I started crying. I said it wasn't fair because no one told me how much I could spend on anything, they just kept saying okay, okay and now that I'm trying to find a photographer I'm getting yelled at because they're expensive. So then Dad started yelling at me for crying, but then he felt bad about it. Too bad for him, I'm still pissed and thinking about eloping with FI and saddling them with half the cost of the museum and the embarassment of explaining why my wedding isn't actually taking place as planned!
Irked
Saturday, November 19, 2005
I love you, Rinae. Sorry. I was so mean.
Lots of love, sincerely me.
sincerely me
Saturday, November 19, 2005
It seems that everything is coming along beautifully with the planning of me and my future-husband's wedding planning. Almost everything is in place - all we need is some invitations and some favors! Wooohooo!
I have my matron of honor, my future-husband has his best man, we have the place and the priest...
The one thing that really worries me is that my dad's mom is going to ruin the entire thing by inviting her side of the family. I said I wanted IMMEDIATE family and friends - not extended family. I wish she would just swallow her pride for once, and quit trying to show off just because she believes that she and her family are so much better than my mother's side of the family. If they came, the term "class" would be thrown right out the window!
We're having a non-alcoholic wedding (mainly because it was cheaper to rent the hall that way), and I'm afraid that they would get us in trouble by smuggling in alcohol.
Plus, some of the younger children on my mother side (including an uncle) have asthma and cannot stand cigarette smoke, and if they did there would be a huge cloud of it. Plus, everything would smell like cigarette smoke, and I most definitely do not want that.
One of my main concerns is that these people shouldn't even be around kids, much less raise them. Who knows what might be said/done, and I don't want to have to kick anybody out; or have to call the cops on somebody.
I honestly do think my worries are legitamate here...
Well, anyway, goodbye...
Hoping Dad's Mom Won't Ruin The Bash
Columbia, MO Friday, November 18, 2005
Ok I love my Mom but she is "helping" with the wedding details & is driving me crazy! She is the nicest woman in the world & is not trying to force me to have anything her way but she is forcing me to worry & fret about things I don't need to think about right now. She calls every other day & only talks about the wedding & keeps me on the phone for 2hrs at a time & will not stop talking even when I say I have to go. I mean I really appreciate that she is helping but she is out of work and this is all she's doing right now. I do work & have other things going on im my life to think about. I can't, nor do I need to, worry about every little detail right now. My wedding is almost a year away! I want to worry & stress & make decisions on my own time, not someone elses. I also want to enjoy planning my wedding & really haven't been able to yet. I think we are doing well, we have the reception hall & DJ already booked & have done research on the church & photographer & dresses. I know everyone says it takes a year to plan but I think we are doing ok. I do not need to worry if the hotel we book will have a shuttle to the church & how many people will go on it! Wow, I could go on and on but I won't. It felt good to vent.
Festivechaos
Edison, NJ Friday, November 18, 2005
Dear Soon-to-be Stepkids,
No, dear Stepdaughter, the junior bridesmaid gown that we bought for you to wear at our wedding (plus the shoes, the matching purse, and the jewelry) will not be leaving our house to go to your mother's house. I don't care that you want to show it to your girlfriends who live in that neighborhood and your mom - GUESS WHAT?!?!? - your mom had her chance to be married to your dad and she FUCKED IT UP by cheating on him with guy after guy (of course, you don't know these details because your parents have not gone into detail about their divorce). And dear Stepson, no, you will not be permitted to invite AJW to the wedding, as we do not have a relationship with his parents - in fact - his parents are friends with your mom. There will not be any friends of your mother's at OUR wedding!! To make it worse, said AJW's mom actively ENCOURAGED your mother to cheat on your father and divorce him! Some day you kids will find out just what an adulterous whore your mother has been.....but rest assured, she is not going to see anything that has to do with OUR wedding and her so-called friends are not coming to OUR wedding.
Queen of Everything
San Diego, CA Friday, November 18, 2005
Bridezilla, that was me!
I still feel very ashamed and find it hard to believe what I did.
Did I enjoy my wedding day? NO! Well, bits of it, I married a wonderful man.
Whose fault was that, mine, mostly, and my bridesmaids didnt help with their extra gift to us either.
When did it all start to go wrong? About a month out from our wedding day, my work colleague managed to break his ankle, meaning I had to cover him for a 10 day field trip, and that meant that I would get back the night before the wedding. Normally I enjoy field trips, its a great part of my job.
Mad panic to re-organize everything two weeks early so that I would just need to arrive and then be able to do my wedding day stuff.
So weekend before my trip, two weeks to go, I began to get my Bridezilla, trying to arrange practice, bridesmaids, final dress fitting, hens night, do two lots of packing, one for the field trip, one for the honeymoon. I began to stress out, and then guess what arrived! At least it wasnt so bad now I have been taking my pills every month.
Head away on the field trip on Tuesday, I hope all is ready. Wednesday morning, time for next Bridezilla moment. I need to restart my pills, but can I find them, no Hunt high and low, I know Ive packed then. Horror though, what set of packing did they go in? Im sure my field trip, but nagging doubt hunted for several days, but still no sign, too late now.
I was dreading the prospect of telling my Dearly Beloved (DB) he will need condoms for our wedding night.
Field trip worked out great, brilliant results, but I get back a couple of hours late. Totally worn out but happy. Get back and find my pills as I unpacked, I did have them, arrgh!
Slept till 3 am when phone goes, ARRrrrr.. My old uncle John is calling from other side of the world, he forgot about the time zones. Hes really sweet and a very good family friend, but now 83, so we chatted for about an hour.
I was then woken by my bridesmaids with breakfast in bed, both with a false sweet smiles. They had something planned for me I just got the impression to be weary
My bridesmaids are sticking to me like glue assuring me that everything will go smoothly
So off to the salon for my makeover, thats where the sprung their gift, they had added a Brazilian wax to the list for the day. It took me a bit to realise what it was, and I was very dubious about having it done. But they were very insistent, and bullied me into it. I understand that different people react differently, and the deed was done, but I totally regretted it after, as I could hardly walk or anything. Bridezilla, here I come!
It took a while for the painkillers to work.
Home and lunch, freshen up again, time to get dressed, and time for next Bridezilla moment.
On all my field trips, I have always lost weight, but not my last one I put it on!
So, my torsolette goes on, its a bit tighter than before, on outside hooks, then the other underwear, stockings etc, then the big moment, the dress.
Well the dress simply would not zip up, no way! We tried and tried and tried, mum helps out, not go, then my Gran arrived, too one look, and she knew what to do.
She got out a long ribbon, asked me to put my hands out in front, and the tied them up, and she told me to be quite and do what Im told! Next she hooked the ribbon over the top of the door and pulled me right up, so I was on tiptoes. She then gets my mum to tighten the torsolette all the way to the inner hooks. Now, that was very tight! They got my dress back on again and were able to zip it all the way up. Then they let me down.
The effect was stunning, Id admit that, but I really had to be careful, as my breathing and movements were somewhat restricted.
Final touch-ups, and then I was ready.
Nice ride to the chapel, but then the painkillers began to wear off, feels like a bad case of sunburn, and I now beginning to realise exactly how tight and restrictive my torsolette really is.
The walk down the isle was very slow, I was trying very hard not to wince with each step.
DB notices all is not well, in spite of my reassurances that I am fine! My bridesmaids were busy smirking.
Service goes well, I managed not to faint, but I do feel a bit dizzy if I move too quickly.
Photos, I cant smile, hope the guy can fake them for me, Bridezilla strikes again.
Reception and dance. Im too sore to dance, but I have to dance. DB keeps asking whats wrong, I keep replying nothing. He trying to be helpful and sweet, saying how wonderful I look, it makes me want to puke! (I felt like a stupid woman). Danced some more, felt dizzy again. I longed to get out of the dress and torsolette. Im being a real grump! Caught one bridesmaid in the bathroom, Im really annoyed with them. Told her how much it hurts. Anyone got a shotgun? I want to kill my bridesmaids!
Finally time to go, we head off, its a three hour drive, I feel exhausted. Weve booked a nice chalet by a lake in the mountains. DB drives, I wanted to find someplace to change, DB wants to get there as soon as possible, hes looking forward to tonight.
I remember we will need protection, manage to get some from a gas station while buying us drinks.
I suffer in silence, DB is trying to coax whats wrong out of me. I decide I cant face the prospects of the night, not with what my area feeling very sore and tender. I dont know how to tell him. I know hes been looking forward to our first official night together, and its been four months since we last spent that sort of time together.
We arrived at the chalet, it wonderful, except Im still very grumpy and sore. DB wants to carry me inside, I give in. I need a visit to the bathroom, DB goes to get our bags. I cant face pulling back on my briefs, so kick them off. Head out again, DB wants a quick shower to freshen up. I have a chance to change, at long last!
Time for another Bridezilla moment.
The zip! I cant budge it, it being totally awkward. Im getting totally frustrated. Then it gives a bit, just a little, then it really jams. Ive manage to catch my sleeve in it; my arm is twisted up my back. I go round and round and round, getting dizzy again. DB seems to be taking a very long shower now I need him. (Not really).
It takes DB about 5 minutes to free my arm, then about another 10 to get the zip to run down. I feel totally helpless.
I hang the dress up as DB heads towards the bed. I turn and walk towards DB, I need him to remove the torsolette, but hes ogling at me, Very nice he calls. I realise he is watching my crutch with a wolfish grin. I turn so he can unhook me, but he puts his arms around me.
His hands didnt stay put! One went up to cup me, the other went down and found very sore and sensitive skin. I exploded!
I dont recall much of the next few minutes, but we tussled on the bed. I wanted to break every bone in his body. I was of course at a big disadvantage. Attacking your naked husband wearing nothing but an over-tight torsolette and stockings is not recommended. I simply ran out of air, and he was able to subdue me. Then hes on top of me, and he whispers to me, I cant resist you any longer.
Im powerless to stop him. It hurts like hell, Im kept thinking God! I m a stupid woman, I really asked for this.
I then remember I need him to put something on. Now, before its too late. They in my purse, over on the dresser. I also realise that there is now no hope of stopping my DB.
The next minute or so seems somehow surreal, it didnt hurt anymore, it just felt really weird and exotic.
He took of my torsolette after that, that was somehow a big release for me, I cried and we cuddled, we talked and talked, we were both ashamed of our rough and ready treatment of each other.
Im happy to say that the rest of the honeymoon went a lot smoother. The Brazilian worked out fine in the end, I just wouldnt recommend it for you wedding day.
Im now just waiting to see if anything did happen on the first night.
Now, is it just me, or are there a lot more twins about?
Bad Katie
Friday, November 18, 2005
I hate, hate, HATE my FH's dog. Hate it. I wish it would run away and never come back.
CatLover
Canada, Wednesday, November 16, 2005
Well at least the hillbilly would have a ring right? Thats more than you have now HA HA! Mine is sapphire with 18 diamonds and GORGEOUS!
Sapphire chick
Monday, November 14, 2005
Hey Rinae, you sound like such a snob, I hope fh gets you a cz. You'd probably think it was real! HA!
sincerely me
Monday, November 14, 2005
I am livid that my FH has not gotten me an engagement ring yet. We are engaged and set to marry this April and he still hasn't gotten it for me.
He has set a personal deadline for himself that is December for the engagement ring and hopefully he will follow it. Luckily, the ring is from a very upscape jeweler and not Wal-mart or something cheap.
"Hey, my fiance got me this great ring from Walmart aqnd proposed! He's also my brother! Hyuak!"
No.
Also, my FMIL is doing the flowers and I pray to god that they are OMLY flowers and not junk parts like baby's breath and greenary. I do not want the bundle of roses that I hold in my hand to look like a botanical garden!
Rinae
St. Louis, MO Sunday, November 13, 2005
I'm not a Bridezilla but I was the maid of honour to one. The first time all the bridemaides and the bride had gotten together was also the night before the wedding. So we all went out drinking. When we got back all the girls (except the bride) were in the bathroom primping. We weren't in there for more than 10min when all I hear from the living room is "Well maybe we shouldn't get married then!" We all rushed out and saw the bride on the phone. My friend had called her fiance, drunk, and tried to talk to him about her sister. He said something stupid (he was drunk too) and then hung up. She was freaking out on us the rest of night because we wouldn't let her near the phone. It didn't get any better the next day, as my friend kept picking a fight with the groom, who was hung over. After that I just wanted the wedding over.
Don't drink and Wed
Canada, ON, Sunday, November 13, 2005
OK. So, I really actually wanted to put a wedding annoucement in the paper, and I decided that the $150 they wanted was too much, so I didn't do it.
And I was fine with that - til I saw a co-worker's last weekend.
DAMMIT! I should have done it. But now, it's way too late to do it, and grr...
The good news is that her photo is NOT all that flattering. Hahahaha
Regrets Only...
Friday, November 11, 2005
People have started buying us Christmas presents from our registry!!! I'm so so excited about Christmas with the wealthy inlaws! Everyone should have an engagement that goes over Christmas and both birthdays! Greedy greedy me. Update: Everythings going great. Still need to put some things together before April. I've taken a break from planning while doing an internship. I refuse to wait until the last minute to do anything. I'll keep you posted, because I know you all care soo much. ;) I really enjoy reading ya'lls stories though.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, SC Friday, November 11, 2005
I have changed my wedding date three times for her it was always something that is crazy this is the final date and i dont care what happens.
mydamnsisterinlawgetsonmynerves
Friday, November 11, 2005
My husband's family is absolutely crazy, and they have no manners at all. My famly traveled over 1000 miles only to be brushed off my my in-laws. Southern hospitality?!?!Not in his family. Not to mention that my MOH did absolutely nothing to help with the wedding except aggravate the hell out of me about everything. I don't care how the hell she did anything for her wedding...this was MY wedding and I want what I want. My mother and I ended up setting up everything by ourselves about 4 hours before the ceremony was supposed to start, then MOH shows up and expects everyone to cater to her. Sorry you are all wrong honey, that was my day and I was being catered to, after all I deserved it for having to set up everything. After the ceremony MOH did not do ANYTHING to help clean up. My best friend and mom helped me clean up and even take trash to the dump. God forbis should MOH be expected to lift a finger. Oh...did I mention that she is now my sister-in-law....this should be an interesting marriage. Girls, please make sure that you choose someone who you know is going to support you for you MOH, if not it will stress you out BAD.
Newlywed
Friday, November 11, 2005
I cried because my mom wouldn't pay for the dress that I fell in *love* with, which was $3,900. I didn't throw a tantrum, per se - it was more like, "Okay (sniff) Mom (sniff) I guess this dress is too expensive, and I'll (sniffle, sniffle, gulp) choose something else (small sob)." She caved and got me the dress, but I felt really guilty afterwards. But the dress WAS really, really, really pretty, and on my wedding day even my mom was glad we'd gotten it, so it all worked out.
spoiled_rotten
Los Angeles, CA Friday, November 11, 2005
I told my fiance that his cousins could not be in the wedding because they did not have their sh%$t together. They did not have their tuxedo, or even a plane ticket to get to where we were... some how that made me bridezilla?
Amber <email>
Toms River, NJ Thursday, November 10, 2005
Anyone who does not spend enough time (according to me) admiring my ring, is off the guest list.
I'm serious.
AdmireMeDammit
Canada, Wednesday, November 09, 2005
I finally had it the other night. I was promised those chair linens from the guy at my hall, but he got fired, so I will have to pay for them.
We went to the tasting and I found out how much the linens would be, and they weren't TOO expensive. Our parents are footing the bill for the wedding and reception (they've got it, we don't). We never asked either, it was offered to us.
I found out how much FMIL hated the linens, so I tried to be open about it, and took a look at the chairs without them. They were hideous. So during dinner, I mentioned that I still really wanted the linens. Everyone (including FH) was against it. FH was with me on it, until he realize his Mom didn't want them. Fine. This is the only thing that I have really had a problem with. I had a few drinks to, so I really let them all have it. Yeah, I was being a spoiled baby, but give me a break! If I am not complaining about anything else, and all I want are the f-ing linens, just let me have them! Finally, my dad told me he'd pay for them. I offered myself, but that wasn't the point. They were so quick to put in their opinion (how UGLY they thought they were) and not even care that this was really my fiancee's and mine wedding.
NOT a bridezilla
chicago , il Tuesday, November 08, 2005
I just told my FMIL to f@$# off becvause she thinks she can control our every seconds because I am marrying her baby. well guess what eveil women he's no longer a child, he doesnt live in your house, and what we want to do for the holidays and our wedding is our choice. so shut the F$!% up b!tch! I hate her I hate her I HATE HER!!!! I wish she would get run over by a stray school bus on her way out of work that way I don't have to listen to her b!tch because she can't wear her pengiun tshirt and holey jeans to our formal wedding. gahhh!!! someone save me from my misery!
fh has a circus for a family!
Monday, November 07, 2005
I'm obsessed with looking at my ring. I catch myself staring at it constantly--especially when I'm driving and the light catches in it and it sparkles. (One of these days I'll probably get into an accident because I'm too busy admiring it to keep my eyes on the road!) And when I wash my hands, I make sure I wipe off any water marks--not to mention fingerprints, throughout the day. When I'm in meetings at work, I'll keep my hands on the table and gesture a lot so people will notice it. And I clean it before going out or seeing friends just to make sure it's sparkly. I've been engaged for 6 months. I thought the novelty would wear off...apparently not... Mind you, I've been married before. I never looked at my other ring this much in the 8 years total I wore that one. I just think this is the most beautiful ring EVER! Of course, it pales in comparison to the commitment it respresents with my incredible FH. So I feel guilty. Something like worshipping a false idol? What's important is what it represents, but, damn, I can't help but admiring it and showing it off!
Marrying the GOOD Husband
Monday, November 07, 2005
Well I thought that my wedding would be great. Whateeeever! My MOH who is my husbands best friends wife (yes, I was being polite to ask her) and has grown to be one of my best friends, did absolutely nothing for me. She threw a fit when she was to pay for her own dress. The BM who paid for my husbands attire when he was his best man (because he had no job)expected us to reciprocate the tux fee. The tux my husband wore at their wedding cost 57.00. The one I chose for my wedding was more, and he didn't even offer to pay the difference. They didn't throw us any party, nor did they plan one. They didn't want to pay for it. My family shucked out a bunch and are totally the best 2 sets of parents in the world. The worst...of all...the MOH and BM have no problem telling everyone how much they did for us...I wish they would have told me, because I missed all their efforts.
missbreeze
Wenatchee, WA Monday, November 07, 2005
Don't wast your time and money on a wedding for everyone else do what makes you and him/her happy if its going off alone or a big deal you be just as married when your done just make sure you want a marriage not just a weddinng
beentheredonethat
Monday, November 07, 2005
I am in the first stages of planning and my mother has decided to plan my wedding. NOT! She has been fired along with allof the bridal attendants SHE selected. For some reason she wants to invite all 30 of my first & second cousins to be in the wedding. I never planned on having a large bridal party. I have since hired a weddingplanner....I forgot my mother was paying!
Beautifulbride <email>
Fort Washington, MD Sunday, November 06, 2005
I am a recently wed woman who had a very modest registry, and a modest wedding. That said, my registry was about 99% completed.
I have a nemesis - an old coworker who used to be a friend but then turned on me - well, she's getting married next week, and nobody has touched her very ambitious registry.
And that makes me happy.
It is a little sick that I'm even checking her registry, but you know, we all have our little quirks...
Schadenfreude Frau
Saturday, November 05, 2005
After telling my daughter that we would simply laugh at those things that would inevitably go wrong on her wedding day, I sort of freaked out at the reception hall. Thankfully it was before guests arrived. My other daughter and I went to check things out at the last minute and discovered plastic doves on the cake. My daughter had ordered only fresh flowers on the cake and they were really big and tacky - six of them. EEkk! After using the f word, loudly, a few times, we removed them. Now,I usually NEVER curse in front of my kids and it was also a first for me to curse like that in front of the very sweet, soft-spoken MENNONITE caterers. But I was under stress. We later sprayed the doves with glitter, attached ornament hooks and gave them to the couple as a gag christmas gift. The caterers sort of avoided me the rest of the day and I tried to do penance by overtipping them, but I still felt bad.
frenzied mom
Saturday, November 05, 2005
Same thing happened to me,until finally i freaked out! my hubby 2 b was very understanding...not to mention my rents payed for our suppers. but his rents didn't care, 2 tell the truth i think they wd have been happier if they didn't have 2 come...not 2 mention the fact his brother was an A*@ !!!!
i feel u Physcho Bride to be
Friday, November 04, 2005
My parents got a divorce about 24 years ago. My dad and I have not had that great of a relationship and this woman that he married 20 years ago and I still do not get along. My mother also remarried to a wonderful gem (not really). I know that the traditional thing to do is to have your father walk you down the isle. I understand! But my step-mother whom I will call satin has said some very mean things to me growing up about my mother and other things. When I looked for my fathers support in all of this he took her side. We because of this I have not been to his home in over 7 years. I have talked to him and her as well however this situation has not been forgotten. My father wants to be in the spot light for everything and nerver lets the outside in on family problems. Like we are the Clevers or something. Well my confession is that I never needed him before now why have him walk me down the isle. Let me sit with his wife and watch like every one else and if he has a problem with that, he can get up and leave. He did not pay for the damn wedding! Is this wrong of me to do???
Damned
Thursday, November 03, 2005
What the f... is going on.. I am getting married in under six months, but i feel i am the only one doing anything...my fh says ohh it will all come together...I am in tears all the time stressing out that maybe he isnt as keen as he first was when we were engaged. I asked him is this the problem.. then he says it will all be ok.... not if i dont arrange all the details it WONT . He hasnt finalised his groomsmen yet, which means i am on hold as to how many girls i can have, which is unfair i feel gggggrrrrrrrr . His parents dont care about anything, as long as they dont have to foot the bill for any of it... but want to tell us how many to have in the bridal party and how many of their friends and family must come and where they must sit...f... them all.
Physcho Bride to be
Thursday, November 03, 2005
Get this my maid of honor calls me this morning and asked me what kind of shower do I want. She said, I am not doing the surprise thing, I and not sending out invitations. No one responsed to the engagement party I through you. I am just going to call a couple of people we know. And tell me what day you want it. Well I am thinking I didn't ask you to through me engagement party on 4th of July weekend and give people 3 days notice. Don't invited just people we know becasue this is a small wedding (80 People) and those people you have invited aren't invited to the wedding.You might want to invite the ones on the guest list. They talk about Bridezilla what about Maid of honorzilla! I called my other Bridesmaid and told her needed to take over!
Taken Back
Wednesday, November 02, 2005
the key to happiness...
never been a bride... don't be a bridesmaid
ALLKNOWING ONE
Tuesday, November 01, 2005
I was very glad when my now bf soon fh decided to be a part of the planning. NOW i take it back. Because now he even wants to change the color scheme. Yeah, and he was the one who wanted to run off and get married!
involved
Monday, October 31, 2005
SIL and her DF were both in our wedding last summer (and she pouted all the way down the aisle because she thought the order was messed up and she wouldn't recess with him). Their wedding is next June, and preparations are underway. I saw a paper on MIL's coffee table, and I was listed as a bridesmaid, but DH (her brother) was not listed on the groom's side (which was half blank). At SIL's birthday, her best friend said to me, "We're going to be in the wedding together!" But neither SIL or MIL has said anything to either of us. To be honest, I'd be perfectly happy to choose my own dress (especially if I'm PG by then), and sit with my husband in the congregation. But what's with not talking to us about it at all? Or it just being me and not her brother? She's got the common sense of an eggplant...
Bridesmaid?
Monday, October 31, 2005
This is not about me. My husband and I pretty much eloped and are just now, 2 years after being married, planning our "renewal" ceremony for everyone to attend. However, unfortunately, my behavior is being entirely guided by a former bride. My behavior is, "Be nothing like this small minded, terrible person." She asked me out of her wedding, for some personal issues that I could have understand. I didn't empathize or sympathize, but I wasn't going to hold it against her.
However, then she walked around, telling everyone that she had never asked me to be in the wedding in the first place. I guess this means I had just assumed I was in the wedding. Stupid twit. So, basically I am trying to be the nicest "new bride" I can image.
Her new husband doesn't have a job at this time. I hope their wedding debts, of which I know there were quite a few and for a wedding that wasn't quite the social event of everyone's season as this bride had imagined it to be, run them into the ground. Man, that is mean.
Varuna77
Monday, October 31, 2005
i'm a sad cow i need to get a life, i'm sooooooooooooo jealous of you girls that are getting married , coz i'm a spotty ugly cow
LIZ
Sunday, October 30, 2005
We've been married 2 months and a week, and we're in the process of making an offer on our dream house. Husband just went down to our apartment leasing office to see what kind of damage it'll do to walk early. I suspect he's going to hit the ceiling when he finds out.
I love him, and I love being married. Buying a house, however, sucks donkey balls. Can't wait til it's over.
Honeymoon's Over
Saturday, October 29, 2005
It all begain with the dress. The wrong size and the wrong color. I dealt with it and requested alterations to fit in it. Changed the color of reception to match the pink in dress and carried on like a trooper. On tuesday Oct 18th my fiance gets a call and they destroyed the dress. I leave for vegas on thursday. I did not wait for the last minute-they did! So now I have 3hrs to find a dress and get it the perfect size and hope someone can alter it in a day. Mission accomplish. I'm now at the point of just telling the bad wedding gods to "BRING IT"
Bachlorette party I am left sitting with my maid of honor in the hotel room. She was the only one who remembered it was my party. Other girls went to hang with my fiance and friends. Called him and heard them laughing in background.
Following day find out one of the friends went back home because she was to ashamed to face me after acting like she was the bride to be.
Next we didn't have enough tables at reception, so grooms family was left standing there. Those who didn't rsvp sat at a table and didn't offer them a seat. We figured it out with a makeshift table with no decor. "BRING IT"
A so-called friend at the reception decides to give my husband a lap dance, while I was away. Same friend didn't rsvp or leave a mother f ing card. Glad I could accommodate all your needs.
So many things to list-so little effort left.
My wedding ended up being the best wedding ever-so if any of you inconsiderate mother f-er want to try to f--- with me again. "BRING IT"
I am the one laughing in the end, because I've got the man you all have been dreaming of.....
"BRING IT" STONS OCT22
tempe, az Friday, October 28, 2005
I love my wife.
lovinghusband
Friday, October 28, 2005
Even though we've found out that we really only have 6 months to write thank-yous (time's up in January!), we've said "we have a year" so many times that we've convinced MIL and that's what she's telling all her snooty friends! Hallelujah!
MIL on board
Thursday, October 27, 2005
Well everything went great...except for fbro...he went totally wacko and wouldn't even spk to anyone or pose for pics....what a j*@k....to top it off he never even gave us a card
agh finally a MRS
Thursday, October 27, 2005
We had asked a lot of mutuall friends to the wedding and my husband had wanted another friend added to the list. The problem you ask....he's friend is a complete jerk who happens to cheat on his wife of 10yrs and NO ONE will tell her.....so I got the invite ready....and it just happened to disappear....wouldn't you know we didn't have any left!
barely married
Thursday, October 27, 2005
This stupid Rock on my finger is messing with my mind. Two days ago (before the Rock came to live with me) I didn't want any bridesmaids, a buffet, speeches or a dance. But the Rock whispers to me and tells me I won't be happy without them. It sits there, glinting out a message in morse code... "you need butt-bows... you need butt-bows... it's your special daaaayy..."
Bridebrain
Canada, Thursday, October 27, 2005
My wedding is less than two weeks away and I hate my future mother in law. Until a week ago she was totally against the wedding. She was constantly bad mouthing me and telling my fh that he can't marry me, hello he's 27 I think he's capable of deciding what he can and can't do. Now she's trying to make all the decisions for the wedding, almost every thing is done and she's trying to add all kinds of crazy stuff that we don't need. Our wedding is pearl pink and white and now she's trying to add black , she's not helping to pay for this wedding so she needs to back off. Besides after everything she said about me I'd rather she not come at all but somehow she expects me to act like it didn't happen at all
pissed in PA <email>
Wednesday, October 26, 2005
I think the name says it all, don't you? He's been with a couple of different guys before, but swears he was just out of his mind and drunk. We've been engaged almost a year and I think the only reason he's popped the question is to get his mother and her homophobic, douche-bag boyfriend off his case about why he's not married yet.
my fiance may be gay
Wednesday, October 26, 2005
I cryed a little yesterday when I got a letter in the mail from my florist. I opened it thinking it was my receipt saying how much I still owed after my down payment 2 weeks earlier. Turns out it was a bill for the full amount I owed, due in 5 days! I just signed a contract 2 weeks ago and I left a down payment! My mom is calling them tomorrow to straighten this out. I can't believe this place. Is that normal? I'm pretty sure the florist said that the full amount was due at the wedding. Ug. This is SO strike three for this damn florist.
Wedding planning sucks.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, SC Wednesday, October 26, 2005
I "accidently" went into my boyfriends e-mail and know when he is going to propose asd well as the size and shape of the ring. This is probably the only moment of glory he is going to have for the whole rest of the wedding process and I couldn't even give him that. I feel bad but I love knowing that I am going to get proposed to in less than a month!
Can't stop snooping <email>
Canada, Tuesday, October 25, 2005
OK. I work in New Orleans - in construction so I'm expected to work non-stop. My office doesn't understand that I'm still getting married and have a wedding to plan. How am I supposed to drive an hour to work, work 10-12 hours AND plan a wedding?
Ungrateful Daughter
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
My guy's ex-wife sent me an email so when I replied I made sure that the address of our wedding website was at the bottom of the reply. She's a nosy bitch so I knew she'd look at it--she's doing everything she can to screw up my wedding so I hope I at least screwed up her day.
???
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
Couldn't my parents have given their divorce a little more thought? They divorced about 20 years ago, but couldn't they have at least thought about how difficult their divorce would make my wedding? Couldn't they forsee the problems they were creating for their only daughter? You know, if you have a problem with the other's new spouse and don't want to be in the same room as them, get over it. It's not my fault that you got divorced and remarried weirdos. Suck it up for ONE DAY! AUGH!
put me out of my misery
Monday, October 24, 2005
Okay, gals. I've watched this board for OVER A YEAR now. I can say, truthfully, that I've run the gamut from hopeful acceptance to murderous rage about my pending nuptuals. I'm 2 weeks away now and it feels like it's finally over...I'm happy. Mainly because I really, truely, no longer give a fuck about anyone else's hang-ups about the wedding. we have heard everything from: "how you can you possibly NOT invite my 3 month son" to..."I don't want whatever flowers you picked for the corsage (even though I haven't seen them yet); I just want roses." I AM DONE!!!! THIS IS OUR OUR OUR WEDDING!!! YOU HAVE BEEN INVITED TO JOIN US. IF YOU CANNOT JOIN US IN BODY AND SPIRIT---PLEASE STAY HOME!!! Ladies: your day will be fabulous. I promise. Just make a last minute pledge w/your FH to say "F- it" to anything your not 100% satisfied with. Love and kisses, TL
1&done
Monday, October 24, 2005
I can't wait to show my shiny new 1-carat diamond to my friend who just got married and was all happy about her 3/4-carat diamond. Haha! I'm a bitch.
Rich Bitch
Canada, Monday, October 24, 2005
The best thing about the wedding: IT'S OVER! I am so stupid to think that if you ask people (nearest and dearest friends and family) to do stuff and they agree that they will follow through. I am so stupid to think that you sign a contract and you pay the people that they will fulfill their end of the deal. I am so stupid to think that you send someone an invite and response card that A) they will respond B) they will show up like they said they would. I am so stupid to think that people know and understand that it is socially inappropriate to come to a wedding and not give a gift. I am so stupid to think that his tacky family would tone it down for one night. I am so stupid to think that FH would follow through on our agreement that having any wild bachelor or bachelorette parties the night before would be a really bad idea. I am so stupid to think that people would understand that it's my day and I am stressed enough so that calling my cell or hotel room would not be a good idea. Some things I have learned: I am stupid and naive, I would never do this again, I would not wish this on my worst enemy, I can only count on me. Some things that were perfect: my expensive cake, my flowers, my photograper. Married life: ask me in six months! My advice: ELOPE (secretly) Good luck ladies!!!
Big Bad Bride
Indianapolis, IN Monday, October 24, 2005
A Viennese table is a table with pastries of all kinds. Which reminds me that since the wedding is a thing from the past, I've been stuffing my face like there's no tomorrow. I got nothing else to do, no more planning. No more depriving myself to fit into that dress. I have to go back to the gym fast!
Viennese table
Monday, October 24, 2005
What's a Veinnese table?
Tracy
Monday, October 24, 2005
ok my wedding is creeping up soon 33 days left.I am now a bridezilla.two weeks ago we started planning a bridal shower.I dont even want one but his mother insisted to have one and it has to be catered to invite all of her damn friends that I dont even know or let alone invited to the wedding. She is such an ass. My mother cant stand her and I can see why< the woman is such a stuck up snob who has no money doesnt even own a damn couch and tried to make my mom feel like shit during the planning because my mom was going by what I wanned and only considering covered dishes for food.His mom is crazy and I think she is prostituting to pay for all of this and I am being dead serious when I say that.She is still bithcing about the damn guest list. I thought my sister was going to punch her out when we had the meeting.Boy I am so excited for the shower and wedding It will be the next Royal Rumble if his mom starts her shit again.And to top everything off I am not having a bachlerett party because I just found out that I am 2 months prego (NOT EXPECTED). My hormones are crazy I am throwing up all the time.And whiolr I am prego and sitting home the nite that I aws supposed to have my party my FH will be having a good time getting drunk with all of his single groomsmen.And I swear if there are strippers there and he doesnt come home that night I will call the whole wedding off!!!!I am sitting out on my fun he should to I didnt get myself prego.. He is so inconsiderate
betty
Sunday, October 23, 2005
a big fuck you to my dh's cousin! we went to her wedding last september, drove 5 hours, gave her $100 gift ( they live out in hick central, PA- so that was one of the bigger gifts they got)... so we invite her and her dh to our wedding this june- doesn't send back the response card- i had to ask her mom if they were coming.... doesnt even send us a card or anything!! i mean come on! we did all that for your wedding, at least send us a card for ours!!! NO MANNERS WHATSOEVER!!!
junie05
Saturday, October 22, 2005
My problem is that I can't make a decision. The planning was slow going at first, we had a long time to plan. Now, with 8 months left, I don't have anything planned. I am afraid that I will change my mind but will end up paying double for everything. I know it's pissing my bms off, but I keep changing my colors, dress styles, flowers. I can't decide anything!!! Maybe it's because I wasn't a "normal" little girl. I never even THOUGHT about my wedding when I was little. Of course, everyone (coworkers, distant family) asks me how the planning is going. I just lie and tell them it's going "fantastic". ugggghhhh.
indecisive bitch
pa Friday, October 21, 2005
I'm very tired. FH is not doing his part, instead is spending his free time dreaming about starting his own restaurant. Really bad timing, too. I am realy struggling with money this month. I sent the photographer a check and the next day all this stuff popped up. I guess that's just the way it is sometimes. FH and I are supposed to go house hunting (renting) this week. I need to pick up my dress from the shop, too. I get some time off in a few days though. Sorry Lori that you will hear about it twice. Please stunt-gun me if I start to irritate you about my dumb wedding.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, SC Friday, October 21, 2005
No babies here either, God willing! Amen.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, SC Friday, October 21, 2005
My getting married does not mean that you will be getting grandchildren/great-grandchildren any time soon! Shut up and let me enjoy my marriage. I refuse to have children just to make you happy.
No babies for me
Los Angeles, CA Friday, October 21, 2005
here's my vent/confession
does anyone feel extremely uncomfortable registering for gifts and sitting back and letting somone else take care of all the shower details??
i keep getting yelled at b/c i am buying gifts, putting the favors together etc for my shower, but i don't want to just leave everything for my bm's to do. i understand that they have lives... and don't have unlimited amounts of time & money to waste on my shower...
so i feel bad and try to help and then i get yelled at, and then i feel worse! you'd think they'd appreciate my help!
don't get me wrong- i'm soo into getting all the gifts- i've been the guest all too many times and payback will be soo sweet... but why can't i help! it is my shower and i want it to really nice for my guests
the helpful bride
Friday, October 21, 2005
My FMIL decided at the last minute she wanted to extend the reception with a pointless Veinnese table. Gimme a f*cking break lady!! My whole f*cking bridal party is leaving early....there won't be a single guest who stays til the end of this 6 hour reception!
What a useless thing to do! Stupid bitch.
Useless FMIL
Thursday, October 20, 2005
I pretended I was getting married 'cos I wanted presents. Everyone only found out like a week beforehand.
Catriona Byrne
Wednesday, October 19, 2005
Mine is more of a bridal complaint than a confession. Our D.J. sucked - cutting songs off in the middle, taking too many requests instead of playing all our list. My cousins came dressed like sluts and danced like hoochies. My husband's ex showed up (though we thought she wasn't) and totally snubbed me-no congratulations, no hello. She didn't stay for dinner, which I totally want to send her a bill for except I'm never speaking to her again (even though she's part of the "friend circle"). My waxists left my brows red and scabby (thank god I had a great make-up lady). During the day after brunch, my husband's family treated me like a waitress. But everything else was beautiful and a day to remember.
wa-wa
Wednesday, October 19, 2005
The dumbest part is having to insist that people at work (where we go by Mr. X, Mrs. Y, etc.) call me by my new name, which even I don't pronounce 100% right, and everyone else says like the name of a state that's similar (but with another syllable), and I JUST WANT MY OWN NAME BACK.
Miss my Maiden Name Too...
Tuesday, October 18, 2005
So it's certainly not up there with all of the posts... but none the less. My FMIL decided that the lavender color I had selected for the flower girl's dress wasn't right, and instead chose and bought an off-white dress (which I still haven't seen) and will probably not go with my ivory dress. As my revenge I cancelled the individual picture with just me and the flower girl. Small time petty - but I'm sure it will tick off FMIL.
crazedbride
Tuesday, October 18, 2005
I miss my maiden name. I saw my new name on the company phone list today, and it just looks sort of generic.
Maybe I'll grow into it.
Mrs. E
Monday, October 17, 2005
i'm getting married in 6 days. I've got a dress. Now I'm considering looking for a new one because all my bridesmaids are thin and beautiful and I'm not. And i'm dragging one of the hapless thin, beautiful 'maids along in what can only turn out to be a disastrous, tulle-and-satin sleigh ride into insecure bride hell.
yarg <email>
noneya, ma Monday, October 17, 2005
I last wrote of my wedding drama on July 10th. Hard to believe how much time has passed. My Father has since been a huge help with everything. (I should have known he'd come through.) I am currently planning the wedding of my dreams. I am not an extravagant girl. Looks like it's all gonna amount to a little over $8,000.00. I can compltetely admit I have the worst case of bridal OCD ever. I have so much done it's crazy. The Venue, The church, The Caterer, The Photographer, The Limo. It's all coming together. I must say the bridesmaids have done good at times and fallen through at times but ultimately I am happy doing things on my own.
Still Waiting
Sunday, October 16, 2005
Rarrrrrr I R BRIDEZILLA! I haven't even officially started planning my wedding but some of my friends are nagging me about it. I said I didn't want to plan it yet, and they'll ask me who is. I say I want no bridesmaids, they say I have to at least have a maid of honor. I say I don't want my father to give me away, that niether of my parent's are invited to my wedding and that if they really wanted to go they should have thought about it before. Then I get the well it's not their decision. If they had *decided* not to abuse their kids hey I'd be happy to invite them. They were lousy excuses for parents before why should I act like they were great parents at my wedding. Don't get me started on the flower girl. I don't want some brat throwing flower petals around. I decided back in 2002 that I was walking down the aisle alone. I pretty much don't feel obligated to go with anything traditional. FH did go with me to try on wedding dressess after all. If one more person makes fun of my engagement ring. . . Everybody is treating me differently since I got engaged and I hate it. I could never see any of these people ever again and it wouldn't bother me. His family doesn't even know that we're engaged and they treat me like a temporary inconvenience. At this point I'm ready to just get something white off the clearance rack at K-Mart and elope.
rageaholicbridezilla <email>
Sunday, October 16, 2005
Today, when SIL started talking about how she found her dress (for her June wedding), I told the story about finding my dress and hijacked the conversation! At her birthday!
Still the bride
Saturday, October 15, 2005
Hey it's me again. I picked out lovely bridesmaid's dresses for the girls, gave them ample time to buy them and sent them a check for almost the full amount for the dress. I sent as much as I could afford. BM #1 is my sister and although the dress I picked is not her favorite, she is more than happy to humor me. BM #2 is my FSIL and she sent me an email saying that she loved the dress and thank you so much for helping pay for it "you didn't have to do that" she said. BM#2 has not even cashed the check yet. BM#3 (my FH's SIL) cashed the check the day she recieved it and I haven't heard from her since. It's been weeks! She hasn't even given me a call or email to let me know she even got my letter. Is it just me, or is that a little rude? I'm just waiting to hear from her. I think I'm going to complain about it to my fiance and see if he will mention it to his mom. I don't think she would let that kind of behavior go down with her last name on it. Is that worng of me? Also, I haven't told you girls but I work at a very nice Hotel and I have to talk to brides all day. I must say that it doesn't help with my obsession. :)
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, sc Saturday, October 15, 2005
Me and my husband got married at the courthouse after knowing each other for 15 days! It's been over a month and I have yet to send out announcements, I don't even plan to until next month.
Procrastinator
Thursday, October 13, 2005
What I don't get about brides is this: isn't it still just one day in a lifetime of days? Is the six-eight hours of wedding that will happen worth all of the heartache? Why stress out so much? Who cares how much you have to spend. I am so sick of my (ex?) best friend and her F*&#%@ crap. I've know this girl for fifteen years and you know what? I never seen her be such a stuck up brat before. In fact, I think I am going to tell her that I drop out! I don't want anything more to do with her and if I never talk to her again that would be just fine with me. So, sorry.
kicked out MOH
Wednesday, October 12, 2005
I have bought 2 wedding dresses, enough diy invitation paper and kits to do the rest of my family for this century...i admit i went into Bridezilla mode...and now i am on the six month till our big day countdown..so i expect there will be a few more crazy purchases to come...
Poison_ivy <email>
NEWCASTLE Australia, nsw Wednesday, October 12, 2005
This post will probably be deleted, but I wanted to thank you for the tip about spyware. That was it! They're all gone!
Huh?
Monday, October 10, 2005
I had about 12 guests at my wedding that I invited strictly out of obligation to my mother. I was pissed, but too big a wimp to stand up to her. I vented my anger by seating them in "outer Mongolia" down by the pool. Wouldn't you know it, it was a horribly HOT day, and down by the pool ended up being the best seats in the house....even better than mine!!!! Jeeeezzzz!!!!
Tracy
Monday, October 10, 2005
I would like to apologize to my bridesmaids for the god-awful green dresses I made them wear. I was a bit too laid back about my wedding, and was being helped by a very nice friend of the family, who suggested the dresses. They were on sale, it was late in they day, they seemed appropriately formal, etc. Green taffeta, full tea length skirts, with a shoulder wrap thing that had a rhinestone clasp off center. Ugh. So sorry. They deserved much better. Rachelle and Torie, will you ever forgive me?
WishyWashyBride
Durham, NC Sunday, October 09, 2005
Can anyone tell me how to motivate a lazy FH into helping with the easiest tasks? I simply asked him to work on his guest list so I could have a better idea of how many people we will have. I told him I did not need the addresses yet, just a head count. I even told him to do it while watching t.v. Still not done. I realize that the wedding is 6 months away but I don't like wedding planning and I want to get as much as possible done. When it is all set up and in writing I can relax and stop stressing about it. Is it so wrong to not want to have a few weeks to pull it all together? I just want it done! I have done alot though. Check off venue, cake, caterer, dress, photographer, gifts for bridesmaids and bridesmaids dresses are picked out. FH has made no contribution. He even asked if he could help pick out flatware and at this moment I have registered for everything we need except that. Ug. I just want to know how many chairs to rent and how many rooms to reserve. Help!
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, SC Sunday, October 09, 2005
What's that advertizement that now appears within postings? Ex.: In a text, the author used "wedding planners" and there's a pop up link to wedding planners on the Web?
Huh?
Sunday, October 09, 2005It's not me....it's you. Sounds like you've got a spyware/adware problem on your computer.
I am getting married in about a year and this is already stressing me out. My MOH is going to all lengths to get me to change the color of the dress. I have five girls and all of them, but her, love the color. Plus I LOVE the color. I am sorry but you have had THREE weddings, THIS IS MINE. And If I like Apple the BACK OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!
no bridezilla, but I have mohzilla
Saturday, October 08, 2005
Software pirates? Johnny Depp?
just curious...
Friday, October 07, 2005
I confess that I'm breaking a cardinal law by posting about a post. But I just have to say, Bravo to the founder/creater/moderator of this site! That response was the most wickedly funny thing I've ever read! Thanks for providing such a place for those who have a sense of humor. And, you deserve a medal for dealing with the real bridezillas/maidzillas/MOBzillas/etc.--but I suppose they provide the fodder for the sarcasm. I don't care whether or not this gets posted--just wanted to let you know your efforts are not unappreciated! Thank you!
Marrying the GOOD Husband
Friday, October 07, 2005
So i was seriously venting the other day and this lovely site administrator deleted it. Must be you are seriously funding your divorce to assume you know a rant from something else.
This site now sucks
Thursday, October 06, 2005If your post was deleted, it violated one of the guidelines above. Deal with it. And I'm far too busy maintaining my heroin habit by giving lap dances to pirates to think about divorce.
I spit in my wedding planners glass of juice.
jane <email>
san francisco, ca Wednesday, October 05, 2005
I hate that "bridezilla" became a phrase. If I acutally complain to someone about a real problem, like my dress being wrong, I get eye rolls and told "not to be such a bridezilla" WTF? If your order at a resturant comes out wrong, you send it back. Your not called a "foodzilla" I can't voice any complaint about real problems with out someone attacking me! sheesh! The next time someone calls me that I will show them what a real bridezilla is.
ms
Tuesday, October 04, 2005
I told my mother in law you could not come to the wedding.She still came so i made them but her out.God please forgive me.
Gloria
LA, CA Tuesday, October 04, 2005
I am addicted to weddingporn. The glossy magazines, the websites, Martha... I just can't get enough!
I lie to my man about what I look at online, delete the history from my computer, and I hide the magazines in a secret stash in my closet.
I'm not even engaged.
I need help.
Closet Addict
Canada, Monday, October 03, 2005
I flew across the country to attend a college roomate's wedding, making a huge exception to travel to the midwest, a place I traditionally hate. I figured, yeah it was a while ago, but we did live together for a year and were really close. Sharing a bunkbed for a year surely entitles me to her bridal affection right? I didn't expect to be a bridesmaid, but I did think she would be genuinely happy I came. Otherwise why would she have invited me? Apparently because she thought I wouldn't come. At least this was her refrain throughout the weekend, as the only words she spoke to me over and over were "Honestly, I'm so surprised you came!" Moral of the story, if you don't want someont to come to your wedding, do not invite them! Also, she sat me at a table with her high school friends, even though there was another table of college friends present, but apparently I was not good enough for this table. Seated at a table of complete strangers the bride had known in her teen years, I promptly got revenge on this bad mannered bride by slow dancing with her high school sweetheart, whom I know for a fact is still she is still in love with. Ha, ha. I have no regrets about this, seeing as, in addition to flying across the country and having to pay for a hotel room, I also bought her a gift ( a small one, mind you, but I really wanted it for myself) and have still not even recieved a thank you note! How many ways can you say "tacky"!
jaded
Monday, October 03, 2005
I am not a bride; rather I was a bridesmaid, and on the receiving end of a bridezilla's endless rampage. I am a family member, so I was already part of the 15 months of drama that went along with the planning of the wedding. Everytime I came home, it was a roller coaster ride. Also, I know I was asked to be a bridesmaid out of her sense of obligation.
On her wedding day, I was spoken as a servant. I witnessed her curse and yell at her 8 year old flower girl and nurmerous staff members who worked at the venue. Her mother, whom I thought to be a good friend of mine, also treated me like SH*T. I was told to "shut the fuck up" numerous times.
I walked down the aisle with nothing but horrid thoughts about this day. It might have been her special day, but it was the WORST day of my life. I was crying because my shoes were literally cutting off circulation to my feet. I am not a whimp. I am 98 lbs and I moved a 600 lbs piano once just by sheer preserverance. It took a week to do it slowly, but I f0ing did it. I came to America at age 16 and now I am a lawyer. I have seen stress, but I have never been treated this low in my life.
I will never see the bride, the bride's mother and even her husband ever the same way. Your friends and family agree to be there on your wedding day to help you and to celebrate your marriage. No one signs up to be treated like SH*T CONSTANTLY for 15 months. No apologies will ever change the fact that she was a complete horror of a bride. What a way to start a marriage? Why should I give her all of this latitude? What is the great accomplishment her? All she did was say "yes" and "I do."
All you bridezillas out there should think about why you would need to make people feel like SH*T in order for you to have a special day. It says a great deal about your complete lack of character or sense of priority.
g
Monday, October 03, 2005
Bridal shop ordered dress too small and wrong color. At the time I took measurements I was 8lbs heavier. Now the dress is in and they squeezed me into it. They didn't say anything about taking out a little, just wanted to make sure I could breath. The very next day I found the dress in another store a size bigger and it fit perfectly. What are my rights when they choose the wrong size and color? Going back tomarrow for the showdown. My best advice to you soon to be brides. No matter how messy things are, the most important thing for you to accomplish is walking down that aisle to say I do! Come rain, Come bad guest, Come a dress that doesn't fit. I am getting married to a man that God sent. For that I am special no matter what. Good luck to all of you! Viva Las Vegas in 19days I will have an awesome wedding even if I can't breath.
fallen in love
glendale, az Sunday, October 02, 2005
Wedding was in July. Thank-yous not sent out. Work + Grad school + apathy = not writing them. At all. :) We're trying to convince everyone that we have a year to write them...
No Notes
Sunday, October 02, 2005
I am so ticked off. me and my fiance are planning our wedding on Dec. 24th(christmas eve)keep in mind we don't celebrate christmas, the date was just convenient for us since all his family from North Carolina are coming down on that date anyways. My family was happy when I told them but my parents and everybody who is supposed to be supportive of me is knocking the date that we choseand refuse to help us with anything. every one asks "why don't you have a nice spring wedding or why are you spending so much money? You could have a nice spring wedding and all the family could pitch in" I'm so sick of hearing it. First of all that is the date we set to have it either like it or dont come maybe we dont want a frickin spring wedding take a tip and you have a spring wedding. 2nd we are the only one's paying for this wedding therefore shut the hell up, I am not having a tacky wedding it is going to be beutiful. 3rd if I cant depend on family now to help me how the hell am I gonna trust them with providing efficiant food for my wedding when no one has a dime to help us out. and our wedding is not expensive it is less than $5000 for everything beautiful ceremony and reception hall my dress and accesories, dj, catered buffet for 120 people, decorations tuxedo ,limo, valet parking, everything. I think we did pretty good and people are complaining about it being on christmas eve! but hello I am family what better way to celebrate it if you celebrate to spend it with family??? the way I feel there is no reason they should not be able to attend. the ceremony starts at 12noon and reception 1-5 so people have time to go home and do whatever they have to do. I do not feel like I am being selfish since I will not negotiate the date
Soswi <email>
NY Sunday, October 02, 2005
I wanted to elope. I got FH on my side. I told my family, because I knew that they would love the idea. "Have fun Honey, send pictures." They were married at the courthouse. FH told his parents, too. They wanted to come. Um, what? That is not how it works. Fh's father was scared that he would have to pay for all 30 something of FH's family to fly to where ever destination. Now I am paying for a wedding. Ug. It's not that my family is poor just unwilling to drop a load of cash on a wedding for my FH's family. I have a small family, it will be mostly his. My parents are helping out alot though. Still I'm stressing over bridesmaids dresses and favors when I could be relaxing on the sand. Pass me my margarita.
Pass me my Margarita <email>
Greenville, SC Saturday, October 01, 2005
We have taken too much on. Wedding is in 6 weeks and we are renovating and hosting a conference in 2 weeks with people from interstate staying here. We have to repaint the formal lounge and dining ceiling totally as the patching didn't work out - somehow the paint "changed colour". The carpet comes on Tuesday and we have to find somewhere to "hide" the couch while all that happens. We have a new outlet for work so overtime is thick and fast. My car (yes the one we are using for the wedding) was run into a couple of weeks ago and it's in the shop from Monday. I'm running out of daylight hours to finish my dress (totally within my ability to sew - just REALLY pressed for time). He hasn't spoken to his uncle the jeweler about my wedding ring or to fix my grandmothers pin that I want to wear on the day. MY Mum lives interstate and has one job (cake) and his mother is wonderful in her help here (compensating for 2 other children eloping). She is getting a bit over the top in her enthusiasm - so far I have managed to say - "oh yes" and just do what I want - so far. That was the I need to get all this off my chest rant. The confession is - we went shopping at Myers and have asked everyone for Myers gift vouchers instead of going through the crazy wedding registry shamozzle. We put on layby all the cutlery and crockery and cookwear stuff we liked. It all matches and isn't out of stock and was also 30% off. Getting a bit of the guilts for this - we just have to keep it a secret I supose.
Layby....
Melbourne, Australia, Saturday, October 01, 2005
Forgive me for the length, this just happens to be cheaper than the therapy I should seek after dealing with a Matron-of-Honor-zilla!
I need to confess that I was a bride without a spine at least in the beginning. When I became engaged I asked my then-friend Amy to be my Matron of Honor. She then proceeded to make me sorry I had ever met her.
For starters, I began planning a casual outdoor wedding at a beach-front spot. I was thrilled when I found a facility that included a building with gorgeous seascape views in the event that weather was not ideal or I had guests who preferred to get out of the wind typical on the coast.
I hate the beach, I hate the wind, I cant even tan! Amy moaned. Besides, how will we ever get the sand out of our shoes? I informed her that in the spirit of a casual California-style beach wedding the bridal party would be barefoot during the ceremony (I had planned on purchasing a gift basket of California wines, spa treatment gift certificates, and food-type stuff which would include fuzzy slippers for the wedding party for wear during the reception).
This only made her wail louder, What do you mean no shoes? I am NOT going barefoot! She finally summed up her disdain for my plans by sniffing that she would prefer to participate in a church wedding and indoor reception replete with pantyhose and dyeable heels.
Next came the bridal gown shopping. I wanted a simple dress that would be appropriate for an outdoor wedding. No intricate appliqué. No train. No bustle that would necessitate a degree in engineering. I must have repeated this to my MOH thousands of times after poring over bridal magazines with her and pointing out styles I preferred.
She categorically ignored my opinion and thought I should wear a gown inspired by Disney. She showed up to the bridal shop half an hour prior to me and advised the salesperson to bring out dresses with bell sleeves, cathedral trains, and hoop skirts large enough to hide an oil rig. She said I should look like a Princess and tried to cover me in as many pounds of tulle, taffeta, and satin as could be found. I looked like a pre-pubescent girls fantasy bride. The only thing that would have made these dresses less me was if someone had embroidered rainbows and unicorns on it.
Despite this I was lucky and found the PERFECT gown that day. Of course, this did not sit well with my MOH who told the bridal shop employee assisting me that my hips were much too wide to make a sheath dress work.
By the time I began looking for a photographer I had began to tolerate my weekend wedding planning by drinking heavily. This is the only way I can explain the idiocy which led me to accept an offer by a photographer friend of Amys to take the photos, which is when the real fun started.
My husband and I wanted a collection of candid shots of our wedding day. We are more or less casual people who preferred an unconventional approach to capturing our wedding day on film. My MOH wanted hundreds of stilted shots taken after the wedding of the bride and groom, now with the grooms parents, now with the brides parents, now the bride with each of her bridesmaids
Since the photographer I had selected was a good friend of hers, Amy felt entitled to dictate portions of the package. The friction that ensued culminated in a ridiculous scene when I firmly put the kibosh on her photographic ideas. She blew a gasket.
Now, I am not talking about a snide remark or discreet sulking. My MOH threw a full-blown-childish-true-blue-temper-tantrum in the middle of a bridal shop in which she stomped her feet, crossed her arms, stuck out her lip and began to pout. I was mortified. I left the store and we made the ninety minute drive home during which she silently sulked the entire time. When I dropped her off that day she admonished me against ignoring her advice without disrupting her skillfully maintained pout. I made a mental list of my friends who owned firearms and needed cash.
It is probably unnecessary to mention that the most debated issue turned out to be the bridesmaids dresses. For a beach wedding, it seemed that my bridesmaids would be most comfortable in something simple and light that did not have layers of sand-collecting fabric. I set the guidelines: it had to be some shade of blue, fairly simple, and between knee and tea-length. A week had not passed before my oh-so-glamorous MOH (who was also my co-worker) dropped an ad for her dream bridesmaid dress on my desk.
This is the dress I have chosen. She said and then showed me a navy blue, A-line, satin gown with a two-foot train accompanied by matching elbow-length gloves and shawl. Meanwhile, my sisters (who were serving as the other two bridesmaids) were having fits; Who does this woman think she is? Does she realize that this is an outdoor wedding? Is she on crack?
I soon found myself facing the unpleasant prospect of seeing my two sisters challenge Amy to a hell-in-a-cell-style cage match in retaliation for her prima donna behavior. It became clear that I had to nix my MOH before she was murdered and buried in an unmarked grave.
So I finally developed the backbone I needed and fired her. When she was less than mature in the way she accepted this I advised her not to come to the wedding at all. I wish I had done it months earlier. The rest of my planning breezed by and I enjoyed my wedding immensely without the negative commentary of my former bridesmaid-zilla!
Had it in California! <email>
Elk Grove, CA Saturday, October 01, 2005
I ordered my dress online and it arrived today at my work! My two coworkers were urging me to go to the ladies room and try it on--but tried to "remain professional" and wait until I got home. Then I realized it was only 10 am and it would be a LONG day--so "professionalism" only lasted three minutes before we all herded into the ladies' room and I tried it on--jumping up to try to get a better view of myself in the mirror above the sinks, praying no one "higher up" would walk in. BUT, it fits and I love it!
Marrying the GOOD Husband
Friday, September 30, 2005
Why is everything wedding so boring? I don't want pastels, or frou-frou flowers, or a vineyard theme, or monogrammed napkins. I also don't want to spend the next year making homemade everything to get something that isnt mind numbingly boring and bland. And why do cake toppers look so crappy? And why do I now know all the different kinds of invitations and how they are made. When did peices of paper become so complicated??? Inner and outer envelopes my ass! Why am I supposed to have favors?? It's not enough to have free food and drinks? They just end up being someones crap in a garage sale.. No one needs or wants an engraved trinket box.
wondering bride
Friday, September 30, 2005
My MOH kept pointing out rings that were almost exactly the same as mine and kept talking about how ugly they were, and that she would die before she would wear one. She dosn't know that she was such a picky B**** about it that she almost didn't get a ring! So my wedding hasn't even happened yet and were already obsesing about every detail of her wedding. (Which will be the trashiest event of the century and yet her dress will cost thousands) And my FH is griping that the wedding is taking to long to plan, and is going to cost too much money. It wouldn't cost half as much if his redneck family knew how to use birth control and there wern't hundreds of them!
ms meanie
TX Friday, September 30, 2005
suddenly, I find myself remembering every private detail I have shared with ex boyfriends. eeeek I'm terrible!
blushing bride
FL Thursday, September 29, 2005
I want the magic to continue. I want to wear my beautiful gown again. I cant just be going back to normal life as if nothing happened. Im in debt. I feel people should have been more generous. 2 guests didnt come, altough they rsvpd, so we paid for their meal for nothing. Plus, they didnt give us any gift. They should at least cover their meal. A couple gave us a real ugly gift. I feel they regifted it. It might fall and break by accident. There wont be any big gift this christmas Were busy paying off our debts.
Deep in debt because guests not generous enough
Thursday, September 29, 2005
I have been an obsessive, uptight freak about having things my way my whole life, (part of the only child complex)and I wanted so much to go against my nature this time and let my bridesmaids pick out their own dresses. The only guideline I gave them was that the dresses needed to be black. They started looking for dresses and reported back to me their findings. One found a simple short black dress, another found a long backless dress that was grey instead of black, and the third hadn't really started looking yet. I tried so hard to be cool with it, but I just kept picturing the hodge podge of dresses, and it literally kept me up at night. In those hours of nervous insomnia I searched clothing websites for dresses. I finally found a great dress on Nordstrom.com and I immediately called all the bridesmaids and asked them to order the dress. They all complied 'cause they know what a freak I am. The worst of it is that they are all size 2 and the minimum size they had available was a size 4. They received the dresses with only 5 days to alter them. I don't know what the ultimate repercussions of this Bridezilla moment will be, but I'm sure they hate me just a little.
isolabella
los angeles, ca Wednesday, September 28, 2005
I'm only telling you this because I know you won't judge me. >> I want FH and I to go make more friends so I can invite more people to the wedding and get more gifts.<< What is *wrong* with me?!?
GreedyGreedy
Canada, Wednesday, September 28, 2005
While I'm still engaged to my fiance, the wedding has been postponed indefinitely. My confession? I'm SO GLAD!!!!! I couldn't take it anymore!!!!
The now ex-Too-Much-Bride <email>
Brunswick, GA Tuesday, September 27, 2005
My wedding is in four days and I just had my eyebrows waxed, standard bride beautification. Well the lady apparently bumped her head because she gave me pencil thin, overplucked, grandma eyebrows. I'm beyond upset, I have always wore my eyebrows slightly on the thicker side regardless of the trends. All I could do was cry, okay, sob. To make matters that much worse my maid of honor is having her baby today....4 days before the wedding so the odds are slim that she will make it to the wedding. The other bridesmaid still hasn't bought a dress and yes it's 4 days until the wedding. And to add to my stress the forecast is calling for rain.....during my outdoor wedding. Hello mud pies. I should have eloped.
Inconsolable in Jax
Tuesday, September 27, 2005
let's coin the term bridesMAIDzilla. seriously, who's with me? i'm getting married in 6 days and luckily have not been called a bridezilla...yet. i know that getting married is all about the bride, but let's share that spotlight a little and expose the shelfish, uncaring "friends" that force otherwise normal and happy women to the point of spending their honeymonn funds on a hit man! we're not crazy-they are. "oh ten months wasn't enough notice for you and you can't come to the wedding because you are competing in a sack race at the company picnic on saturday? that's okay, i can take your name off the program with a sharpie. i have nothing else to do right now." let's turn the tables on the real culprits here: bridesMAIDzillas!!!
discoverer of new species
Sunday, September 25, 2005
So, I picked up my dress and it's not EXACTLY the same as the one I tried on...the lace is a little different, there's an extra seam in the bodice, and I spotted a couple of areas that the lace wasn't exactly perfect. Yeah, it bothers me but I don't want to deal with the stress of having it reordered (hoping it will come in on time) and I don't feel like dealing with the rude women at the bridal shop. I'd rather take my chances that no one notices.
Also, I'm getting married outside...and I'm so sick of everyone asking which church I'm going to be getting married in. How many times do I have to tell you that there's no church! I don't belong to a church and would feel hypocritical if I got married IN a church. Don't you people get it??
Also, stop giving me your opinions on my outside wedding when I haven't asked for it! Yes, it's outside and I'm using a tent as backup and that's good enough for me. If it's raining on my wedding day and YOU'RE worried that the tent won't be good enough, stay home. All I care about is getting married!
can't wait for the honeymoon...
Sunday, September 25, 2005
Less than two weeks!!! I have never been so excited and so scared in my life; how are we going to pull this off? At this moment I cannot fathom how on earth this will come together, it's just too much to even think about. I need a sedative, prayer, and a miracle- NOW!
big bad bride
Indianapolis, IN Saturday, September 24, 2005
well the wedding in six months away and its supposed to be happy and blissful right well not for me never for me. My maid of honor has ruined everything.Never can she not be the center of attntion. Growing up she was in band and she was going on trips not me nope my attention would come one day. Well here it is and she couldnt stand it. she decided to annonce her wedding even though shes only been dating him for two months a few years back they dtaed and he cheated on her and got some girl knocked up so theyre back and shes raising the baby. The day we went looking for bridesmaid dresses she brought her wedding book and took me to see her ring... hello todays about me if your not getting married for three years then but out maybe i am a bridezilla but shes getting nuts she went and started picking out bridesmaid dresses on her own.. I dont think so!!!!! she didnt like one cause it emphasised on her stomach to much if i find that dress ill purposel |
