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Why did I witness the ultimate Bridezilla at a wedding this past weekend. She thought she was a princess... until she opened up her mouth and yelled at everyone around. From the start to the finish... then she thinks... "everyone thinks I'm a princess" and everyone just cried when they saw me... NOT it was so HOT they were crying for an air conditioner! UGH... can I get my gift back?
GodICan'tBelieveHER!
Thursday, June 30, 2005
My soon-to-be mother-in-law takes the cake. When my fiance proposed, and I was thinking attention should be on us, she comes out with saying she has end stage 3 breast cancer and does not want to do any surgery or chemo. Now, before you think I'm a cold-heartless b!tch, the whole family is convinced she lied. Three months later she says she is cured by God, because she does not "feel" like she has cancer anymore, she doesn't think a doctor is qualified enough to tell her if she has cancer, therefore, doesn't feel it necessary to see one. Every time something comes up about our wedding, or the engagement party, she turns it into her needing the attention because of her "near-death" experience. I feel guilty for the feelings I have towards her, but I feel that this is an important time that attention should be showered on myself & fiance.
dealing with the MIL
Chicago, IL Thursday, June 30, 2005
Bride in Disaster, sue your Lawyers. They messed up big time. In the meantime why not go ahead with a 'blessing' on the day and get the papers sorted later. who will know?
NOTHING TO DO BUT SUE
Thursday, June 30, 2005
where did it all start? My engagement was excellent, bended knee in front of my family and the ring was perfect (both his mom and dad died a couple years ago and he made an engagement ring out of diamonds from their rings). Finally got to buy "the wedding magazine" full of dresses. So many beautiful ones. I live in a small city so I went to the city where I grew up (2 hours away). Looking in a magazine and actually looking in stores are 2 different things. My husband and I are paying for our wedding on our own so I knew I didn't want to spend alot on a dress that you only wear one day. Big Mistake! I second guessed myself right after I decided to order the dress. Second guessed myself waiting for it to come in. Hated it when I picked it up (4 months before wedding). Cried the whole way home (2 hours) My now husband wanted to make it better. He said it didn't matter what the cost if I wasn't happy I should find something to make me happy. He offered to go with me, or drive me anywhere. I got home and tried it on for him (all superstitions put aside) he loved it - said it was beautiful. It just never felt right. Anyway, I kept the dress and figured I was just being a loser or something. I didn't want to be spoiled or anything, I figured the dress was beautiful and everything would be okay. Our wedding was beautiful. We had it outside at our acreage - rented a tent and my husband did a fabulous job of decorating and lighting. Everyone said it was right out of hollywood. But even now, i look at the wedding pics and I don't like my dress. I really didn't think it would bother me this long afterward. Does this happen to everyone or just me???? I didn't think I was this fucking shallow. I love my husband and I loved our wedding, I would only have changed the dress. But alas, the wedding is over and it wasn't ugly - just not my first pick! Please, if anyone has ever experienced this or is experiencing it - I would love to hear from you. I have always had self-esteem issues and I think I picked the dress everyone else thought I should pick (my mom excluded - I should have gone with her alone! she doesn't push me into anything). So I wonder if I am just still upset because once again I was just trying to make everyone else happy?
My advice to anyone - yes, it is just one day, but make sure you are happy with every choice you make as it only happens (hopefully) once! good luck to all you future brides.
one year later still hate my dress! <email>
canada, Thursday, June 30, 2005
I read here about some brides want to keep their maiden names. I did, I love it and this weekend will be married 29 years.
my name is me
Wednesday, June 29, 2005
WELL LET ME START WITH MY WEDDING IS IN 10 DAYS EXACT AND IM GOING CRAZY BECAUSE I HAD BEEN MARRIED PRIOR AND I FILED FOR A DIVORCE BACK ON JANUARY OF THIS YEAR AND MY EX AND MYSELF HAVE ALREADY SIGNED ALL OF OUR LEGALE DOCUMENTS WITH MY ATTORNEY AND I HAD BEEN BUGGING MY ATTY FOR A COURT DATE SINCE APRIL AND IT COMES TO BE THAT THEY DID NOT FILE MY PAPAER WORK TILL APRIL AND IN THE STATE OF TEXAS THERE IS A 60 DAY WAITING PERIOD IN ORDER TO BE ABLE TO GET YOUR DIVORCE FINALIZED AND THEN YOU STILL HAVE TO WAIT 30 DAYS IN ORDER TO GET REMARRIED AND MY ATTORNEY FILE A MOTION TO QUASH THE 30 DAY PERIOD AND I HAVE BEEN CALLING THEM FOR SINCE THE 1ST OF JUNE AND THEY WOULD NOT RETURN MY CALLS WELL FINALY THEY CALL ME TODAY TO LET ME KNOW THAT THERE IS NOTHING THEY CAN DO THAT MY COURT DATE IS TILL 07/12/05 WHEN THEY KNOW THAT MY WEDDING WAS SET FOR 07/09/05 NOW THERE TELLING ME THERE IS NOTHING THEY CAN DO IAM JUST SO TIRED AND STRESSED OUT BECAUSE I KNOW I CAN'T CANCELL MY WEDDING BECAUSE IT'S ONLY 10 DAYS AWAY AND ALOT OF FRIEND'S AND FAMILY ARE HERE FROM OUT OF STATE JUST FOR OUR BIG DAY AND ALL OF OUR INVITATIONS ARE OUT ALREADY PLEASE HELP DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO
BRIDE IN DISASTER <email>
PHARR, TX Wednesday, June 29, 2005
My middle sister takes the cake. During another little tirade, she asked me whether I am inviting my youngest sister--AGAIN--and when I told her I was, she told me that lil' sis hadn't gotten her invite yet. I reminded her you don't send out invites for a small, LOCAL wedding FOUR MONTHS IN ADVANCE. That's when she told me lil' sis didn't know who I was marrying, even though I introduced her to him at Christmas dinner, AND showed her the ring. (Lil' sis just rolled her eyes and said nothing.) I reminded Middle sis about that, and she tells me that I seem to have a new man every week. I've been with my fiance over a year, and she knows it! (Hell, my fiance knows I had a wild past, but he tells me that I "wouldn't be the same person had I not had those experiences.") Again, this is the price I pay for having a nearly free wedding... oh well...
The Too-Much Bride <email>
Brunswick, GA Wednesday, June 29, 2005
I'm a waitress and i told a lot of my regular custermers that they were invited and i really didn't mean i just done it for the tips.now i wish i would have kept my mouth closed.
t hailey <email>
Tuesday, June 28, 2005
You know my fiance really gets on my fucking nerves sometimes. Everytime we have a disagreement about the wedding he runs to his got damn momma. This time it was about the Photographer. He wants to use his best friend who has not a lick of experience it's his hobby, but is willing to do it as a wedding gift for free. Im like Hun, these pictures will last a life time. I don't want him to fuck them up. Now he's all pissed off because were not going to be saving the $2500 I am GOING TO SPEND by using a professional. Am I wrong??? Then he runs to he mom, and of course she thinks what he thinks, she thinks we should use her precious sons best friend and save the money. Im like look you're not marrying you momma are you? He opinion is VOIDED in this matter. That shit really pisses me off so bad. UGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!! Like her word is gold and everything she says is written in the bible or something. DAMN. Im really really pissed off. Why do men always think everything there mom says or does is always right and always perfect?? HMM? I feel better now. Just needed to vent.
Marrying a Momma's Boy
Ocoee, FL Tuesday, June 28, 2005
Well it's exactly 39 days until the big day. The one thing that sucks most right now is my family. Namely my sisters! I went to every one of their bridal showers, baby showers, etc, but they couldn't take 2 hours out of their day for my shower! I'm very hurt by this! They have not called me one time to offer their services, not that I need it now, but just an offer would be nice. I understand they have children and are very busy, but all I'm asking for is an offer. We have always been very close, but I feel completely isolated from them right now. UGH! I'm supposed to be happy and excited, but I'm hurt and sad:(
VegasBride
Tuesday, June 28, 2005
Muddy Paws - the month before my wedding was the most stressful time of my life. It was truly horrible. I was even a little dizzy and disoriented. It made no sense, these are all family and friends, after all. But sense had nothing to do with it. The wedding was perfect and fabulous, as was the reception, but that didn't matter...I was still on the verge of hyper-ventalation. And it's now almost a year over, and we are deliriously happy (after an INCREDIBLY relaxing two-week honeymoon). So...take a deep breath...it'll all be OK!
Tracy
Tuesday, June 28, 2005
On Saturday I was talking to MOH and mentioned that I had been in WeddingLand (TM) all day; she said, "You're getting married in 8 days. You don't get to leave WeddingLand until next Monday."
I know that we wanted to plan this ourselves to avoid evil MIL, but...
And several of us got food poisoning from the bachelorette dinner. THANK GOD we decided to have it a week early!
Holy Crap...
Monday, June 27, 2005
It is bad enough that every waking moment of my life is wedding, but then add in the fact that everyone I see asks me the SAME questions, day in and day out. "How is the planning going or this is what I did at my wedding...don't forget to video tape it, be sure to take dancing lessons, my daughter wore her hair this way, and oh my gosh, you don't do THAT at a wedding!" To top it off, I have to nag my fiance to take two minutes to give his opinion or take interest/responsibility for this wedding we are planning. He somehow thinks everything magically happens- and he just needs to strut up the aisle and lay a kiss on me. I feel better now....thank you.
near a nervous breakdown
Monday, June 27, 2005
muddy paws I had 3 car accidents ranging from minor to almost totaling my car in the months leading up to my wedding. And I can blame stress for every single one of them. My DH claimed the only one who was going to object at our wedding was his insurance agent. Take deep breaths, get a pedicure, relax, and keep your eyes on the road!!
was too stressed
Monday, June 27, 2005
I am going to rain terror down on my fiances' ex-wife. We are packing up to move into our brand new house and I found a packet with some of the notes from their marriage counseling sessions. It contains some of the names of the dickheads that she was screwing around with. I looked up their addresses in the county property records database and am sending letters to each of their wives. Evil Bitch of an Ex-wife - you are going to be sorry years after the fact for your adulterous behavior!!
Queen of Everything
San Diego, CA Monday, June 27, 2005
Does anyone think it is tacky to ask for monetary gifts only for a wedding present. My fiance and I have been living together for a year and we have everything we need. I know weddings are not about the gifts, and I don't want to be tacky and tell people what they should give as a gift. But I really don't need 2 more blenders and one more toaster.
ConfusedBride
Monday, June 27, 2005
Okay - I lied.
I just wish I knew how many happily, still-married couples started out as stressed as me & my fiance? 7 days, 7 hours and twenty minutes left before we tie the knot. Getting married on Independence Day - see? that is just the tip of the iceberg proving we are nuts...
Is EVERYONE always this worried about all the what-ifs, or is it just us, becuase we have both been unhappily married before and know how easily things can go south if you are not careful, especially if your spouse refuses to budge when troubles arise. We are both the type to try to work things out, but lately it seems like we are at each other's throats over what MIGHT happen someday.
What is WRONG with us???!!!!!!!!!
AAAUUUGGGGHHHHH! I still don't feel better....well, maybe a little.
muddy paws
Houston, TX Monday, June 27, 2005
AAAAUUUUGGGGHHHHHH!
Whew - I feel better now.
muddy paws
Houston, TX Monday, June 27, 2005
In the spirit of goodwill, I asked my fiance's sisters to be my bridesmaids. They don't like me much, but I thought it'd be a nice gesture. When they tried on the dresses, they complained that it made their armpits look fat. Huh?
Fat Armpits?
Thursday, June 23, 2005
His parents are making me nuts! First, they promised to help pay with 2 aspects of the wedding because their money is tight. That's totally understandable. Then, they repeatedly ask to borrow money from my fiance and I. WTF!?! Then, they declared bankruptcy...told us they couldn't pay for the two items promised (which were about $1500, so we're no longer taking a honeymoon as a result because we now have to pay for them) AND they just went and bought a big screen TV!!!! AND THEY ARE STILL ASKING US FOR $$$$!!!! Good GOD, I hope he and I never end up so $$$ hungry and that we can make it through what his parents are dishing out.
$$$ doesn't grow on trees
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
I'm nervous that my bridesmaids won't get their dresses altered in time.
it's not about the dress, but...
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
I'm nervous that my bridesmaids won't get their dresses altered in time.
it's not about the dress, but...
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
My confession: I wish I didn't have to invite my awful aunt. She's my mom's brother's wife and she's just a pain in the butt. I don't want any of my mom's brother's kids, either. That would eliminate about 30 or so folks that we wouldn't have to pay about $100 bucks a head for. We could actually have people at the wedding that we like... such as... more friends... ah the joy of dreaming.
don't like aunt
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
Here is a sure way to be invited to a wedding. When you hear from your friends that they are engaged, say, very truthfully, "Congrats! I understand how crazy wedding planning can be, so if you can't invite us that's fine. We'll celebrate when you vist." How many weddings have you been to where you've since lost touch the couple? Real friends are better that a single day in June.
Never dreamed about tulle
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
We still have 2 years to the wedding, and there've been more tears in the past month then possibly our entire relationship. I understand he has a big family, and I even understand that there will have to be some european cutoms I'm not crazy about. But why does it have to be all his way! Where's the compromise? He can tell his dad that 'No, you can't invite all your 2nd cousins, and no we're not having dry ice waved onto us while we dance our first dance as husband and wife, and no my munchcake parents aren't having a catered engagement party at a banquet hall, ARGH! And this is only the beginning. Maybe we should elope...I feel like I hate him and his family some days...that can't be good.
What have I gotten myself into?
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
There are a few weddings coming up after mine and I never want to hear about them...I want it all to be about me...Why am I like this? I am constantly trying to "one up" everyone else...
Selfish Bride
Wednesday, June 22, 2005
Key members of family and wedding party look as if they are working make things more complicated than they appear. I have my step mother in law wanting to match the young girls dresses to shoes. I didn't specify shoes... but I specified comfy dancing shoes and that we didn't choose shoes... leaving it to the comfort and alleviation of bridesmaids foot issues. My Dad just called because he thought I had picked out an outfit for him and he wanted to match all the fathers...
I sent him info on my wedding dress color to match 3 months ago and told him it was his choice. If I had dictated his outfit... whooo boy.. that I have visions of child hood not going against the grain to avoid a blow out manuevers in my head. To boot... A friend keeps on offering help and then in the second breath telling me how booked she is right up till days before my wedding. Feels like Lucy and the football.
My MOH just asked me if that same friend wants to be included in the setup of the wedding when just a week ago she wanted nothing to do with her... *huh?*
Aliens have invaded and sent us all into surrealist land... I just need to find the ship and board it ;^)
partially sane in a mostly goofy world
ma Tuesday, June 21, 2005
4 days to go and my MOH is turning into the Bridezilla on me about something minor... aarghhh. It's not like I've had her running all over creation doing stuff... she hasn't even had to throw a bridal shower. All I want to say is shut the hell up but we've been friends since we were kids!
Wishing it were over so we can get to the honeymoon and screw like rabbits.
Ontario Bride
Ready to scream
Tuesday, June 21, 2005
Oh I love reading the confessions. I am so RIGHT when I get off the phone, you all are nuts indeed. I am married and I wasn't a bridezilla, any and all who know can vouch for me, I was too busy with life to be worried with the details. Get over it ladies, the wedding is one day, the marriage is FOREVER :)
Retailer to Bridezillas everywhere
Tuesday, June 21, 2005
I have been so stressed over my upcoming wedding that I can't even see straight. It's not my FH, or BM's, or even our parents that are causing me so much stress. My daddy passed away a couple of years ago, so my FH and I are paying for our wedding. It's not a big deal, we want to get married and in order to have our wedding, we are paying for it. A very well meaning member of my family is driving me crazy with everything that she wants just because she has given us some money to use towards the wedding. Thank you, it was very sweet of you and we really do appreciate it. However, just because you gave us some money for the wedding does not entitle you to having any say into any of the arrangements and if you think that it does we'll gladly give you the money back. Not to be a bridezilla, I just wish that others would remember that this is "our" day and not anyone else's. Furthermore, when I am telling you about the plans or decisions that we have already made, that is NOT, I repeat NOT, an invitation to give me your ideas on what you think would be better or that you would like something else better. Your comments are not welcome, no matter how well intended they are. They just cause me stress, worry, and headaches that I don't need. I have enough to deal with just with work, school, planning this wedding, and just the every day stress that life throws to us. Your comments do nothing but make me want to slap myself, or better yet slap the crap out of you.
I feel so much better now, thanks for letting me vent.
October Bride
Tuesday, June 21, 2005
On the day of my wedding my ex mother in law was sitting in my bridal suite when I walked in and she said come over here and give me a kiss I told her it was my day and she needed to get up and greet me ....what nerve the marriage ended 2 yrs later I should have known the apple does not fall far from the tree,,,,,,
Gina
Tuesday, June 21, 2005
Where do I begin? I'm 30; my fiance is 22. My mother refused to take the engagement seriously because of his age, even though he has a good job and supports his mother. She finally got the hint after we had been engaged five months and had begun planning the wedding. She still thinks we're spending too much money, even though the hall we're using is a freebie from his aunt (she lives in the apartment building the hall is in, and gets a special usage privelege) and he owns his own tuxedo. We told her that we were buying our wedding cake for a sweetheart deal ---$90!--- and she threw up her hands and said, "I'll just make the cake! That's too much!" It's really strange that she would worry about the money as we are having friends cater it---again, free, as their gift to us--- and I have already bought my daughter's MOH dress and may have found mine for a song. (She had a cheap quickie wedding when she married my dad, so ANYTHING is too much...but they're still together, so...) Next, my younger sister is intent on buying everything and anything, which would be a blessing if she didn't call five or six times a day to report her latest purchases. Maybe just a "digest" call? She seems more into my wedding than I am, and I am overjoyed! I suppose the worst part is that my mother insists that I invite my youngest sister, who is with the man I dated before I met my fiance. I caught them three years ago, having sex on my living room carpet. She now hates me because I threw her out of my house and had revenge sex with him, again before I met my fiance. (Nothing like having two men you've seen naked at your own wedding...) However, Mom insists that I invite her in the spirit of family unity. I would tell Mom that lil' sis ain't coming, but if it'll keep her from going on about how much my freebie wedding costs, I'll make the sacrifice...
The Too-Much Bride <email>
Brunswick, GA Tuesday, June 21, 2005
Sigh. One BM was going out of the country for a semester, so we rushed to get the dresses, etc. before she left. She hastened to reassure me that her mom would take care of dyed-to-match shoes, etc. while she was away. So yesterday, 14 DAYS before the wedding, I get an e-mail from Study Abroad Girl (who has NOT been responding to any e-mails this whole time) AND a phone call from her mom that they "just can't find affordable VEGAN dyeable shoes, is it OK if she just wears a coordinating shade?" NO, it's not f*cking OK, when you've known for 3 MONTHS to try to find shoes to wear, and you've been a vegan for 7 years and should KNOW where to look! Besides, it can take WEEKS to dye the shoes so WHY oh WHY are you just looking now!!!! I sweetly informed Mommy dearest that Payless dyelights are 100% man-made, and that she better hustle since it even takes them 10 DAYS to dye the damn things.
Shoezilla
Monday, June 20, 2005
my insanity was allowing our parents to have anything to say except "when do we show up?"
netochka
NY Monday, June 20, 2005
Got married 3 weeks ago and I already can't stand my FIL. I had only met him (briefly) once before the wedding. The second time (the first time I really got to talk to him) was during the rehearsal. He and husband's mom divorced when he was really young. The husband doesn't talk much about his dad, so I don't really know their relationship, but now I can see why they split up and he's not close to his dad. The man is so freakin' old school it's unbelievable. He called the husband at 1 AM the day of our wedding and started going off on me because I supposedly didn't call him that day to thank him for coming to our wedding. WTF?! I thanked him when I saw him at the rehearsal earlier that day! He gave the husband an earful and went off for like an hour on the phone. How immature! He never once offered to help with our wedding (which is fine by us!) and is now pulling this shit how he should be treated with respect and be honored during the ceremony. Screw you! You were not around for the husband his entire life, you have no right to just storm in last minute and want to take all the credit. I refused to write him a father's day card, I have no respect for him.
Secret Bridezilla
Monday, June 20, 2005
My now husband has a really ugly last name. That's just one reason I didn't take it on, the other being I'm a modern day woman who has made quite a "name" for myself with my own name. When I see mail addressed to Mr. and Mrs. (ugly name) I ALWAYS say, "Oh, we got your parent's mail by mistake." I'm sure I'm really annoying DH at this point, but only because I'm friggin' annoyed that folks can't get it right. Stupid people.
Should Know Better
Monday, June 20, 2005
Okay...I think I have just really pissed off my MOH (little sister)and she just may hate me forever. No, that is no exageration, she is like a marathon grudge holder. I will likely hear about this while we share a nursing home room! Anyway, to the confession. My sister and I are of similar body shape however I am heath concious and workout regularily. I should also mention as a side note that I have body image issues and am finally recovering (therapy, drugs, blah blah, blah)from an eating disorder. This will see how this becomes important as you read on. My sister has been gaining weight at a slow and steady rate for some time now. She did join a gym shortly after I asked her to be the MOH last July. I bought all the girls dresses back in November. I bought matching black cocktail dresses for two girls and for my sister, a one piece pant suit with flowing fabric (similar fabric to the cocktail dresses). At the time, the pant suit needed to be shorted at the hem (we have little legs). I asked my sister to try it on back in April at the taylors and low and behold, the hem had miraculously shrunk up! The pants were shorter because she had gained some weight and the suit wasn't as "flowing" as it was "fitted". I tried to say gently that it was looking a little tight at the back and not sitting right ("I must not have noticed when we bought it") I tried very hard not to come out and say it doesn't fit as nicely anymore but she caught on and got defensive. I dropped the subject until last night. Then all hell broke loose....
I noticed that the wrap dress she was wearing last night was significantly more "fitted" and not in a flattering manner. I waited until it was the two of us in the kitchen and asked her when she had a free Saturday. When she asked why I told here that we needed to make an emergency trip to the mall. When she asked what for I asked her if she had tried on her outfit lately. In as gently of a tone as one could say something like that. Needless to say, she was pissed going on about how the dress was a sized large and how much weight did I think she had gained and where exactly it doesn't it fit, blah, blah, blah. I felt really bad. There is no easy way to say something like that. I love my sister and I want her to look good but now she's mad. I tried to do some damage control tonight over the phone. I told her that I love her and I didn't mean to hurt her feelings, pretty much a repeat. She hung up on me. I feel bad. Great. Evil bridezilla is back.
bride with ninja skills
Sunday, June 19, 2005
my fiance is SUCH an asshole i can't believe i'm marrying him in 5 days. FUCK HIM.
06/24/2005
Sunday, June 19, 2005
I've played the organ, piano, and keyboards for weddings since the late '70s. One wedding was for 2 children whose parents had to sign for them since they were not legal yet. When I asked the mother-of-the-bride what music they wanted for the bride to process in on she said, "Send in the Clowns." My best wedding, however, was for another set of children. The bride processed in with a deep-scoop-stop-step maneuver. I don't think that the boy (er, excuse me, groom) was shaving yet but he was in a white tuxedo with tails. The preacher went through the routine vows (his first time to the "big city")and said in his flat-hick accent, "Repeat after me...'with aaawwwlllll thy wiiiiirlllldly gooooooods I theeeeeeee in deeeeeewwwwwwww.'" The children, not knowing any different repeated it exactly has the preacher said it, pronuciation and all! I about fell of the organ bench laughing, and I had to catch myself since I was supposed to look stoic!!!! I thought surely someone was taping this for "You're on Candid Camera!"
The Wedding Organist
Goodlettsville, TN Saturday, June 18, 2005
Now for the confession: I can't stand it when my husband's family addresses mail to me as Mrs. my first name husband's last name or even worse, mrs. husband's first and last name. I kept my own name people, it's not that hard!!!! I'm tempted to return the mail next time with no such person lives here!
kept MY name!
Wednesday, June 15, 2005
Yeah...I'm with you on the name thing. I had a FABULOUS, unusual maiden name...one that made people say, "Wow...what a neat name!" Now I have a nothing name. I would have hyphenated, but my maiden name was already so long, it would have been ridiculous. So...I changed my middle name to my maiden name and my last name to my husband's name. Sigh. I adore my husband, and honestly, I don't think I'd ever really feel married if I didn't take his name but GEEEEEZ!!! I miss my name so much! I just ache a little every time I sign off on something or hear my name read. Yes, I'm a dork. I just feel like a huge part of my identity is gone. I'm sure at some point I won't feel it anymore, but for now, it sucks.
Tracy
Wednesday, June 15, 2005
Where do I begin? My FH lives about 3 hours from me right now. He insists that he attend an x-girlfriend's wedding ON July 4th (a MONDAY!) and I am not taking off of work the next day so I can attend this evening wedding 3 hours from my house! Plus, that is a weekend we could have spent together. AND, why would I want to celebrate in her happiness??? He dated her while we were broken up and I just can't get over that! Besides that he insisted we invite them to our wedding and I really really hope they don't come. Also, my FMIL is so entirely cheap I just don't know what to say to her when she comes up with these crazy comments! My FH and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves. Then she comes in with comments like "are you sure you can afford a 9 day honeymoon?" "Noone will buy the $60 sheets on your registry" "We DO NOT need a limo from our house we will all just drive ourselves" Then she critisizes every wedding invitation she gets in the mail, so I can only imagine what she will say about mine that will be hand made by me!
frustrated!
Wednesday, June 15, 2005
Let's start with the fact that I'm not getting enough sleep.
Add to that the fact that I haaaate my job.
These combined mean that I am a completely worthless employee. I can't concentrate, I don't want to be there, and I am tempted to crawl under my desk and nap. This weekend, sleep is #1 on my agenda.
But even if I'm well-rested, the job still blows.
Tired and Worthless
Wednesday, June 15, 2005
OK, all her life my FMIL has had bad teeth and never cared about them to actually do anything about them, but now she is begging us to push back our wedding date several months later so she will have time to fix her teeth. Uh, HELLO? it's not about your ugly teeth that should have been fixed years ago and plus you knew a wedding would happen eventually since me and your son have finally just got engaged after 4years! Priorities please!
A Goofy Smile is Still a Smile
Tuesday, June 14, 2005
I am getting married after my well known spoiled cousin did, but she isn't the problem- it's her mother, my aunt. Of course she has to compare my wedding arranements and soforth to her lovely daughter's. My aunt and uncle took out a huge $10,000 loan to foot the bill, while my own smart parents are using their $4000 savings instead of paying interest in bank fees. That is fine with me, I'm a thrifty gil and never pay full price for ANYthing. So of course my aunt has to rub how much they spent on my cousin's wedding in my face. I am also planning to have my ceremony at a lovely chapel, but GULP, she would not want to get married in a , GULP, chapel! She was so stressed decorating the church when her daughter's wedding got married so I am very relieved to not have to worry about decorations and the chapel decorates in my chosen colors. I know it's my wedding and it's not about her, but I am so tired of hearing how much more wonderful my cousin's wedding was than mine will ever be.
P.S. I was a bridesmaid in her daughter's wedding and she was a nightmare then too. Talk about Mother of the Bridezilla! She was so worried about my hair just getting cut kinda short 8 MONTHS before the wedding and not being able to style it well for the wedding. Pul-lease, get over it already!! She also treated us bridesmaid like babies and wouldn't let us have our own gloves, which we paid for, until the day of the wedding!
Aunt Shant Rant
Houston, Tx Tuesday, June 14, 2005
I confess that I want to scream every time my mother says that it's really sweet how all of her friends and acquaintences want to attend my wedding because they love HER so much - never mind that I've never even met half of these people and my FH and I are foooting more than half of the bill for this thing. I confess that I am seriously pissed that my brother decided to get married exactly three weeks after me, and that we'll potentially have to cut our honeymoon short to get back for his stupid black tie wedding - his second, no less!
It's MY spotlight!
Tuesday, June 14, 2005
So my FH & I have been discussing the name thing...
He wants to change his last name to his mother's maiden name- he has his fathers now, but has no relationship with his father or his fathers family. I said fine, it will cost us court fees & all, but if he wants to ok. I don't mind I really would rather have a name that is a 'family name' ie. his mother's maiden name would be the same as his grandparents and all his cousins. The thing is: I don't want to change mine! I know I told him that I would if he changes his... but I really don't. I love my maiden name, I love that it's my family name (a good italian name), and if I could have one mega wish it would be for him to change his to mine. He would never consider it!! Believes his buddies would make fun of him... WHATEVER!!! Who the F cares!! My family loves & adores him why can't he be one of us!!!
In addition to all of that I've recently been given more fuel to feed my neurotic fire with. My brother & his girlfriend have told us that they are thinking that perhaps 2 yrs from now that will be married too (a year after me) and that they won't be having any kids. So not only does she get the name I love (for free, w/o any problems), but won't carry on the name!!! At this point I have no idea what name my (yet un-conceived) children will have, but I can guess that it won't be the one I want, my maiden name!
Auugh! Why does this bother me so! And more importantly why can't I have my way!!!
no-name
Tuesday, June 14, 2005
Second marriage for both of us (first time around we were both young, naive, and had no clue of the concept of a functional relationship). I want nothing more than to be married to him, but the idea of a WEDDING--I don't want anything reminiscent of the first time around. Considered the whole eloping in Vegas or an island wedding, but then would still need to have a reception when we return for family and friends. And the idea of a dinner reception even without the ceremony is too much like everything I'm trying to avoid. So, came up with the idea of a Jersey shore beach wedding BBQ where everyone will literally change into their suits and spend the day on the beach. I love it!! Finally I'm excited about planning it! But FH is concentrating on moving into my house, renting his condo (and possibly tenants of his other house will be moving out, too) and can't find a weekend close enough where we can go check it out (for next summer). I'm so anxious wanting to buy a dress (leftover prom dresses on sale, since I'm not doing the big white dress again...cheap) and excited about favors and centerpiece ideas, etc. I spend all day at work looking up stuff. But I can't move forward with anything until we check out this place and see if it works or we might go with a completely different theme altogether. Yes, I want to focus on getting settled together, him continuing to build a relationship with my children, and making long-term financial and emotional plans for our life. I always said that was more important to me and thought how ridiculous it was that people would be focused on a DAY and lose sight of their relationship and building for the rest of their lives together. And I still felt that way while we were trying to come up with wedding ideas but nothing was really grabbing either one of us. But now that I found something totally fun and unique and "un-wedding-like," suddenly I'm all excited and can't wait to plan all the things I didn't think I'd even want to take the time to plan. And, yes, packing/moving/renting out his place/relationship with my kids SHOULD be the priorities right now, but if we can't find the time to check out this place fast, I might turn zilla...this coming from the woman a month ago who was altogether anti-wedding!
Marrying the GOOD Husband
NJ Tuesday, June 14, 2005
It's not like I'm overweight (I have a little tummy), but I'd have to loose about 20 lb to have a healthy weight (according to my dietician and Health Canada), so I managed so far with improved and healthier eating habits and regular gym to loose 25 lb so far, so I'm very proud of myself. Plus, I want to look nice in my dress (what's wrong with that - It's not like for pictures on a driving license or a passport that are redone every few years: you're stuck with them and people want to see them, so might as well look the best I can). My mom (who is overweight) thinks I'm crazy and should stop that non-sense (remember that I'm eating healthy and no junk, so how could this be non-sense?) and hopes I'll stop after the wedding. Hey, woman: while I was in elementary school you fed me hamburgers and KD every single day when I was coming back from school. It's partly your fault if I was fat! I don't want to look like you! Plus, she wants me to have kids. I don't, because I don't want to be fat and gain weigth. She says I'll loose it again after. Right! When will I have time for that: between taking care of a baby, a full time job, cleaning the house, etc. No thanks. I've been fat all my life (and she pointed that aspect a few times in my life), now I want to enjoy the new me and my married life with my fantastic husband!
So I just nod, and don't give any credit to what she has to say. Whenever I followed her advice, I ended up doing the wrong choice, have a miserable life (= no life at all), so I just do the opposite and I have been feeling great ever since. That's why my preparation for my wedding is going smoothly, because I don't allow her to intefere. So girls, do it YOUR way, whatever aspect in your life your mother of MIL is trying to interfere with.
Don't wanna be fat in my dress
Sunday, June 12, 2005
My mother is driving me nuts! Every time I tell her about some idea I have for the wedding she pulls the "worst case scenario" routine. "I don't think that's a good idea" or "I urge you to think about..." (basically saying she doesn't want to do things like make my own flower arrangements, etc.) But she's my mother! Who else am I supposed to share details with? Maybe I'm more mad at myself for actually calling her up to bounce ideas off her than I am at her reaction. It's not like this is a surprise--I've known her for 31 years, and this is pretty standard. Her opinion is that we should hire someone to do just about everything. Who's paying for this wedding again? Us. Yes, so she needs to just lay off on the "suggestions" unless she's willing to help out. Oh, yeah, but she'll be entertaining the out of town relatives, and couldn't possibly help with set-up or anything else in the week before the wedding.
FrugalBride
Seattle, WA Sunday, June 12, 2005
God, yesterday was horribly hot in Quebec and as I was driving, I passed by 2 limousines for a wedding. Gee I'm glad I chose a fall wedding, not a summer one and especially not yesterday! I'm glad it was them, not me!
I'm glad it's them, not me
Sunday, June 12, 2005
It's less than a week until my wedding...and I so want to call it off and do what we really wanted to do orginally...elope in Vegas. It's my 2nd marriage, his 3rd, and I love him like crazy...but we've done this wedding number before, and it seems crazy spending money on a stupid wedding. We have four kids (all boys) between the two of us, merging the kids into a family hasn't been easy, still isn't. My youngest has ADHD and his youngest is a complete spoiled brat, courtesy of the ex-wife. It's one week before the wedding and I have been stuck with all 4 kids for days, while I am trying to do all the freaking last minute crap!!!! I need a damned vacation!!! I just wanted to go to Vegas, do the hot-air balloon ceremony thing, and have a wonderful, adult vacation!! I wanted to sit in a hot tub until I got pruny, drink until I was completely bombed, sleep late in the morning and stay up all night. I wanted to have noisy, hot sex with my husband. BUT NO!!!! I am sitting here, trying to make centerpieces for the tables, gluing rosebuds on the placecards, and freaking out over all the damned details for a wedding I didn't want!!! It's for everyone else! Not for me and him - for everyone else! And no body is helping me with any of this shit - except for my best friend (which is why she is my best friend). We are paying for all of this ourselves, and so to keep costs down, I have lots of it myself - made the invites, the centerpieces, the placecards, the programs, etc. Thousands of dollars that could have been better spent on a VEGAS ELOPEMENT/HONEYMOON/VACATION!!! I am so tired, I haven't had a vacation in 8 years (and that was with my 18 mo son at the beach...not fun.) But no, if we'd gone to Vegas, we were being selfish....
To top it off, we don't even get a proper honeymoon. All we can afford at this point is one measley night in a decent hotel. Then it's back to everyday hell with 4 kids all damned day long, trying to make ends meet, and dealing with his 2 bitchy ex-wives, and my insane ex-husband. If I didn't love my FH so much, I'd never do this. I am so tense, I may spontaneously combust.
still wants to elope
Pittsburgh, PA Saturday, June 11, 2005
To continue an evolving theme I must confess I was also disappointed and angry with my boring proposal. I was clearing dirty dishes in a tracksuit!! How hard can it be to watch some lame chick flicks and come up with something vaguely romantic? I feel ungracious but a big part of me deserves another shot.
disappointed
Saturday, June 11, 2005
The calligrapher that MIL insisted on (and then complained about) that made us send our invitations out LATE apparently messed up on G-d knows how many addresses and now, 3 WEEKS BEFORE THE WEDDING we're starting to get phone calls from hurt friends who never got an invitation. And MIL is finding a way to put it off on me...
Yesterday she saw my wedding shoes (silver ballroom shoes b/c FI and I are avid dancers) and said, "Why not white?" "Because these are prettier, and why wear white?" "Because we have so few occasions to wear white... (disapproving look)" My BM suggested that I answer "Because I've already f*cked your son and don't need pure footwear!" Damn it, I'm wearing a gazillion yards of dress, nobody will see the shoes at all, and I WANT TO WEAR SILVER SHOES!!!!!!!!
Silver Slippers
Friday, June 10, 2005
We have the photographer he is a character, his name is Roy. every time I say hello I startle him because I speak to loud. He is a true "artist" in the aspect, that he can not give you a straight answer on anything; from how you look to; is it hard to take pictures indoors. His reply seems to always be "it is and it isn't". The reason why we went with him is that even though he is wired, he is by far the best photographer I have seen. He likes to take dated pictures from the 30's.
It took bride about 2 1/2 months to find a dress. She tried on about 70 dresses. She selected the one she always compared the others too. She became so distressed about what to wear we "had' to hire a wedding coordinator. Now it is being handmade in Italy at a price tag of 1900.00 plus not including alterations.
As for the band we went with a guy that has more personality that liberachi. It is seven piece band with a guy who use to play with Santana. The bill for that one was 3900.00. There is a funny story behind that one...Brides mom was going to pay for it but she decided the day before the deposit was due that she was not going to pay for it; "oh joy to the world Booze (my secret name) just about had a heart attack and a stroke at the same time". Luckily we had the money but it was not fun realizing that you are going to have to foot the bill.
As for the invitations we found a lady that does this as a home based business. We found that the people at papyrus who make about a nickel over minimum wage are not to interested in customizing your invitations. I like her from the get go, when I saw her picture of her and President Bush. We sent out the save the date with our picture on it . Cha-ching 500.00. during the process of the doing the save date cards, I was fired from all duties concerning the wedding because I was considered to be over controlling and the male version of Bridzilla, but I refused to allow this wedding to be taken over by Bride or the wedding coordinator, or the Character form the wizard of OZ (read below for an explanation).
Then came to invitations It took us approx. 3 weeks to figure out what to say how to say it what color it should be, the wedding coordinator had to give her OK, then the big fight happened...Bride wanted to get her mothers opinion the invitation and I was completely against it. I felt that her mothers editorial review would put a wrench in the whole thing. She had been acting lately like the green person from the east from the Wizard of OZ. Well that was on a Wednesday. We all meet for lunch on Friday and bride's mother said that she loved the invitation. She even found a grammatical error on it. I had to apologize to Bride about judging her mother. Well the story does not end there... We get a call on Saturday morning from guess who... the person from the Wizard of OZ. She simply says I slept on it and I do not like the invitations and I think they should be changed. She did not like the fact that it said that "because you have shared in there lives" she said that she was inviting people that did know us therefore the invitation would exclude them and they would feel insulted. Ughh! I was not a happy camper. bride goes over there a lays down the law, well that backfired. Her mom at that point said that she will not be going to the wedding and she would not be paying for it. Bride becomes hysterical and storms off and calls me, I try to calm her down and tell her to go back and get this thing fixed now (I may have used some other colorful language). Bride went back to her mom's house and now we have two invitations; one for the people who know us and another for the people who are attending and do not know us.
The tuxedoes to about 15min at the menswharehouse.
Bride yesterday fired her maid of honor. She felt that she was not doing her duty. They have know each other since they were 11. The maid of honor wanted to have a different dress from the other people of the wedding party (that was kind of the last straw). The other brides maid have been helping out considerably and Bride kind a felt that she did not earn it. So there will be no maid of honor officially.
My brother who is my best man has been is driving me insane. He would like to wear black and white Dr. Martin shoes to the wedding. And is upset that I am requiring not to make a spectacle of himself. On top of that he does not have a girlfriend (no surprise to anyone who knows him)but he wants to bring a date. The rule for our close friends is that if are not a committed relationship please do not bring a date. I do not want to be paying for any Tom, Dick, and Harry to be attending our wedding. So what does he do... He tells my mom that we are not allowing he to bring anyone, so my mom gets upset. I end up losing the battle about the guest and win the battle over the dress shoes. You can not win them all.
To put the cherry on top of the hell sundae I now call my life, my dad is paying for the rehearsal dinner but he refuses to pay form my mother and my step dad who raised me. That still has not been resolved. I will keep you up to date.
Booze (from a guys point of view)
Sacramento, ca Friday, June 10, 2005
I'm just now finding out that people did not make the ceremony part of my wedding, just the eating part (the whole thing was held in a restaurant). It's not like I said it's at 4:30 and then started at 4:40. We didn't start entering until 5:10. So they were at least 40 minutes late, if not more. The ceremony was short and incredibly sweet, my guy played guitar and sang to me, and the minister, who is my BIL, said some really funny things. So it was their loss. They missed a lot by not being able to figure out what to wear, or misjudging traffic (hello, we live in L.A.; there's going to be traffic), or being so busy in their useless lives that they couldn't plan to be at the most important day in my life, on time!!!! And why even make a point to TELL me! I'd rather not know how little you care.
On the other side, one guy was in an ACCIDENT, and he still managed to get there for the ceremony. And I barely know him (hubby's work mate). So not all people suck.
Should Know Better
Friday, June 10, 2005
Not Confession: I love my FH, my future family, the proposal was lovely and original (using his grandmother's ring...awww!). Everyone is properly thrilled for us and anxious to help without being intrusive. Fiancee is free with the checkbook, supportive, he and my son adore each other and our families all get along splendidly.
Confession: My 16-year old daughter is killing me. She has lived in another city with my parents for the last 7 years. We see each other 2-3 times a year (her choice) and we're not close at all. She calls me yesterday to state how unhappy she is with "this whole wedding thing". OK, I can be supportive, she is my child even tho she won't really be affected by this, it's not like she lives here. She doesn't know, she just hates that I'm getting married.
Fast forward two hours. She saw pics of my dress I had emailed to my mom. She loves the dress, but still vehemently opposes the marriage...then asks if I've considered the bridal party and informs me she plans to be an attendant!! Nervy little snot!
Now I love my kid, even tho we're not close, and FH and I have been trying to figure out a special role in the wedding for her. But I don't want her in the bridal party and will NOT be pushed into it. I know her, she'll be all dramatic and annoying, and everything will be so smooth and lovely that it'll look even worse by comparison. Sigh...there goes my Mother of the Year Award.
Bride of One, Mom of Two
Friday, June 10, 2005
My ex-fiancee and I were pretty young when we decided to get married (20). Note, I say "We". Ryan didn't even have it together enough to propose. But, that didn't matter because we were In Love. And yes, I can hear you thinking "Loser" through the screen. We didn't tell our families, and planned to elope in a year when we both finished college. Unfortunately, his mother is an insane psychobitch. While Ryan and I were saving up for the wedding, she was always harping on him for spending too much time with me, for including me in family activities, for not being home for dinner every night, etc. Finally, I came across a phone message on the reverse side of the answering machine tape, where she said some of the worst things I have ever heard. The last words she said were "Well. Samantha must have plenty of money for whatever it is she's doing (college) saved up because from the look of your bank statements you've spent over $74 on her this past month!"
Yeah. My 21-year-old fiancee's mother read his bank statements AND was graceless enough to call him about it. What really burned me up is that he tried to hide it and failed. When I played the tape for him and demanded to know what he'd done about it and what he planned to do to stick up for me, he told me I was being unreasonable and that I shouldn't get so upset and just to let it go.
Two weeks later, I dumped his worthless ass.
Ex-FMIL
Friday, June 10, 2005
i've been guilted into letting FMIL make the wedding cake. Problem is - she never listens!! Been saying for weeks we want chocolate, but she's still saying 'oh, are you still thinking chocolate' and other wishy-washy stuff like 'i don't know if I can make the flowers' and 'i need to make things early (August) so they can dry properly' (wedding in December). I could smack her down sometimes. I'm not comfortable and I don't see why she should get to make the cake when my mum can't make the dress because her eyesight isn't good. I wouldn't hire her if she was a professional - very bad vibe. Very close to not giving a crap about offense and saying no way!
simmering bitch
Thursday, June 09, 2005
Yes you crazy bitch, I kicked you out of the wedding. I don't care if your his sister. You will not walk on me like you do the rest of your family.
Still whining to mommy? Yeah, we know you are. We have to listen to her whining at us. Nope, no way. You are no longer a part of our lives. Take your two faced self back to the place you came from. I'm so happy he sees you for what you are and mommy too. Would love to smack you upside your head a few times. For every time that you talked shit about me. Still upset that he chose me over you. Still upset cause your brother don't tell you everything anymore? GOOD. He's a grown man now. Deal with it!
lovin_him
Wednesday, June 08, 2005
"Ya wanna?" is not a good proposal.
"We might as well?" is not a good proposal
"I love you desperately and can't image a day without you in it" That is a good proposal.
WTF? he's not a god damned hick from no where. He is smart and articulate. WHAT THE HELL IS UP WITH "Ya wanna?" pause "I mean we might as well"
After 8 years, of begging and pleading, you would think he would have been a little more creative.
Such an asshole.
Bitch of the year
Wednesday, June 08, 2005
Here's the deal. My fiance and I have always lived in different cities. A month after we got engaged, I got laid off and found a new job almost immediately. Right after I accepted it, he got an offer from his dream job. So rather than have him move to my city, I'm moving to his right after the wedding.
Thing is, my employers have NO IDEA, and I feel terrible. I mean, it's not as good a job as his new one, the money isn't as good, and while there is a future in the job, I don't want to be a part of that future.
But I feel bad that I have kept this information from them for almost six months, and in six weeks, I drop the bombshell that I'm leaving.
They think he lives in this city. He doesn't and never has.
I hate this job, but the client I manage (a Fortune 500) loves me, and wants only to deal with me. They're going to hit the roof.
Oh well. I have a white dress waiting, even if I get pink slipped to get it.
Lying Liar
Tuesday, June 07, 2005
I had my first Bridezilla moment the other night...
I was out w/ my FH and we met up with w/ this other couple. I was at their wedding two years ago this summer.
She asked me how my plans were coming along. I mentioned that I had just picked up my dress and before I could say anything else she's off and running her mouth off about her dress. On and on she goes for like an hour, apparently she doesn't need air b/c she didn't stop to breathe. I kept thinking to myself what did I do to deserve this? I certainly didnt ask about it, why would I was at her wedding! I saw the friggin dress! I wanted to strangle her.
Not for nothing sweetie but your wedding was almost two years ago... you're past your 'bridal' expiration date. This is my time to gush on and on about my wedding not a chance for you to relive yours! She didn't even ask me what mine looked like! Uugh!
If she starts yammering about her wedding on my day I will seriously boot her out on her ass.
And to the same girl
One non-wedding related rant
I seriously do not care about your boobs, I dont want to hear about them, talk about them, or see them! STOP GOING ON AND ON ABOUT YOUR BOOBS!
If she starts yammering about her boobs on my day I will seriously boot her out on her ass too.
belladea
Buffalo, NY Tuesday, June 07, 2005
Ok. My fiance grew up in a small Southern town where you're either Baptist or hellbound. I'm the daughter of two agnostics whose credo is "Live and let live".
A decade in the big city has soften fiance's beliefs, and he's never been one to press his religion on others.
I am concerned however, about his groomsman who we'll call Cooter. Cooter grew up in the same small town then moved to an even smaller one. He traded in his Trans Am for a bible and is now a part time minister.
Everytime we see them, we go to dinner and Cooter delivers a loud "sermon on the mount come to Jesus" grace before supper.
I hope he doesn't pull this trick at the rehearsal dinner, because I've put him at a table with the most liberal, pot-smoking, fun-loving, hard-drinking, foul-mouthed people I could find. He and his lazy-eyed wife are going to be over their heads. And I don't give a rat's posterior.
I have also paired up my obnoxious teenaged cousin (girl) with the best man's obnoxious pre-teen son.
Muahaha. May I recommend the seating chart as a revenge tool?
NervousTitter
Tuesday, June 07, 2005
I want to elope.I have 23 five months left untill my Big wedding. I am ready to flip out on some of my BMS,
I have asked all of them to buy their own dress and shoes .I have searched all over to find formal gowns for them to wear that were not to high in price $119.00 with fittings and tax.I am purchasing fur wraps gloves and jewlery for each of them it will cost me almost $175.00 or more for each girl and I have girls bitching about the price of their dress. Better yet I warned all the girls that they needed to gett fitted and put money down on there dresses the first week of March. I have Untill June 26 to get everyones ordered or they wont be here in time for the wedding.Three of my girls are fitted and order the rest keep avoiding me including my two sisters who cant afford the dress but go on vacations buy new cars and quit their jobs all within the last month, my maid of honor and best friend still hasnt mad any attempt to get fitted three weeks to go. If they back out at the last min. Iwill nedd to replace them with other girls and probably have to buy there new girls dresses because of no warning and time given to save.If they dont show I am not inviting any of them !!!!!!
Betty
Kulpmont, P.A. Monday, June 06, 2005
My usually reasonable FMIL keeps finding ways of pushing her perfect daughter onto me. 'why don't you get her to do that', or 'well where will she stand', 'she really wants to help... you can give her x and y to do' eventhough i have said repeatedly, that we are so on top of things that my mom doesn't even have jobs to do. i am just tired of feeling like the control of this event is seconds away from being ripped from my control.
Additionally... his mom and dad came with us to visit the venue cause they hadn't seen it and we wanted to be sure they felt excluded. We had a coffee and chatted to the manager and i asked some questions, next thing his mom is taking notes. Then starts asking all her own questions and then his dad is saying that they'll need to take 2 weeks off work before the wedding for all the arrangements etc. And now i'm just thoroughly thrown knowing that the control has officially slipped and someone else is highjaking my decisions. Aaaarrrrrggghhh. Plus i know his dad will be planning some big financial gesture (well intentioned) where he'll publically wave away people wallets at the bar, or turn up in Rolls as a vehicle for the bride or something that draws attention - while we could actually do with some real offer of money as we're paying for this all ourselves.
And now i have top go make up activities that don't need doing - just so i can delegate them so people feel involved.
Second Best
Monday, June 06, 2005
Forgive me for what I am about to say because it really is horrible of me....
I have to admit this somewhere.
I absolutely HATED the way FI proposed to me. HATED IT!!! I was actually so mad the whole night- and disappointed.
FI's brother proposed to his girlfriend a few months before by getting take out chinese and eating it in the park with her, then popping the question. My FI did the exact same thing- real creative, right? To make matters worse, he didn't even get down on one knee- it was more of a squat. He said "will you marry me" but there was no I Love You, no words of love or romance.
Once I said yes, he slid the ring on my finger and said "so now what do you want to do?" I was really stunned. On what should have been the most romantic and sentimental night he had absolutely nothing planned beyond getting take out chinese and saying 4 words. I was just so mad- it was like he put hardly any thought or creativity into such a special night. We ended up at a bowling alley- yes, a bowling alley. Pretty romantic, huh?
I love my man more than anything but I don't know if I can let go of how disappointed I was that night. Now everyone is asking how he proposed and did I love it- I say yes but actually I am cringing inside. Thankfully the wedding is under my control so when people ask me about that I know it will be all good!!!
bad bride
HI Saturday, June 04, 2005
I confess that I hate bridal showers. Which is going to suck because I'm the bride. My aunts are all thrilled to be the ones to do the honors, and I fully appreciate their caring and effort, but bridal showers make me want to chew my leg off to escape.
Nothing fills me with dread more than 10-15 ladies sitting calmly, playing those horrid games, and being watched for reaction as I open gifts. I would so very much rather just get the gang together and spend he day in a park, or hiking, or doing something other than playing "tea party." I hate being proper.
So far I'm grinning and bearing it, and when asked say, "It's just so nice that they want to do this for me" because I love my aunts and his aunts (who also want to do a shower). But if any of them took the time to ask if I WANT a shower instead of assuming I do, they might be surprised. I think it's more for them, because they get off on "lady-parties" whereas I dread them with the intensity of a thousand screaming devils using hot pitchforks on my eyes.
Party, with 'spirits' and Doritos, yes; shower, with tea and finger sandwiches, HELL NO!!!!
Bridal PAR-TAY!!!!
Saturday, June 04, 2005
Holy cow. That is quite a confession Allegra. I thought my FMIL was bad. She actually tells me that I am too good for her son. Shouldnt it be the other way around? Shouldnt she be more concerned that I am NOT good enough for him, and not the other way around? Plus, he is an amazing man, but his family treats him like a moron. I always heard that weddings and funerals bring out the best and the worst in people. I never knew how true it was. They are not paying for anything, my parents are paying for it all. And my mother has no money whatsover. She works partime and makes 11 dollars an hour and she is paying for all of the flowers. But his mother is buying a 500 dollar dress to wear to the wedding, but is not willing to pay for anything else. We have to pay for the rehearsal dinner ourselves. These people are driving me absolutely nuts I tell ya!!
SoontobeMrs.M
Friday, June 03, 2005
My nightmare from Hell Wedding, I should mention that we did a simple simple simple wedding cost about $500.
Crazy MIL takes a razor blade to my wedding dress 1 week before wedding(thank goodness I only spent $50 on it (: ) She also gave me a black eye. In front of the judge my husband suprises me by not having a wedding ring for me. He told me after the cermony that "he thought I understood that he could not aford to get me what I wanted so he did not get me anything at all.(No engagement ring either). FF to reception, the cake made by my mother's friend colapses in on itself. Cazy MIL and Step MIL get into a fist fight and the police show up.
No flowers, the two pictures that we took have me wearing in addition to a borrowed dress a quater inch of concealer to cover the black eye.
I swear next time I will pull the Brize-zilla routine and not try to do something simple and less stressful for everyone.
AllegraSparkle
Thursday, June 02, 2005
These confessions are pathetic! Here's a real confession, ladies:
I wish my FFIL would die. Not figuratively, literally. I want him dead. He's a useless, rude, chauvenistic cretin who makes everyone miserable (especially my FH). Not a soul would mourn him if he dropped dead. I only wish it could be before my wedding so he won't spoil it. If I could wink and have him vanish, I'd do it without a qualm. So there!
one really truly evil bride
Thursday, June 02, 2005
I confess that I'm annoyed that no one (except dear FH) seems the least bit interested in helping with my plans. And the reason I'm annoyed is because I don't much care about the planning either! I want the event to be simple, but nice, but I don't want to have to plan it. I'm jealous of those brides who complain that their mother or MIL keeps trying to take over. I wish mine would!!!!
lazy bride
Seattle, WA Wednesday, June 01, 2005
i feel like punching everyone around me who will not help me get stuff done, including my groom-but no one cares about the details as much as i do. just because it is only for one day doesn't mean you should try to do it right.
june 11th
dallas, tx Wednesday, June 01, 2005
I confess for not being upset that my one bridesmaid left my bridal party. Weddings and other big events like this DO make people show their true colors, and this wench's true colors were green. I confess that I do not want to email or even call her, even though we have been friends for a long time. I confess that after some of the things she said I am glad that she will no longer be in my wedding. I dont care that its only a few days until my wedding, and everything has worked out for the better with her not being there. Its amazing how so many people didnt like her to begin with. I was just too stupid to see it coming. But now in her eyes and the eyes of her family, I am the bridemonster who threw poor innocent bridesmaid out of the wedding (even though she took herself out). True friends are hard to come by. Some wear sheep's clothes. Brides beware.
bridemonster
Wednesday, June 01, 2005
Yesterday, the eldest son of our former Canadian Prime Minister got married in a church of a snob neighbourhood in Montreal and I must confess I watched TV just to see her dress AND I was happy to see that, in my humble opinion, my dress was a lot nicer than the bride's!!! I was proud to see I can do better with a smaller budget, since I went at the same upscale college as him and he would not give me the time of day, and to see she needed a J-Lo cleavage... my my my... It doesn't mean that they have class and good taste just because they're filthy rich. Imagine, their gift list totals 15k! WTF!
You can call it envy if you please, but all this makes me happy.
My dress is nicer than hers
Sunday, May 29, 2005
I cannot BELIEVE how a wedding can make people show their true colors. I have one "friend" who I have supported through thick and thin and she has always been lukewarm in reciprocosity, almost NEVER there for me when the chips are down, but man, when her world falls apart, she's on the phone all boo-hoo-ing like a little cry-baby and I GET SUCKED IN EVERY TIME.
But then, I asked this person to help me plan a dinner out with friends before the wedding and this bitch decides she's going to go with her boyfriend to another state for a wedding. Bitch can't even change her schedule for a simple little get-together that signifies my last days in the single world, WHEN I'VE BEEN HER CRYING SHOULDER IN IT FOR 12 YEARS.
To get back to my point...
There are gals who I would have never imagined being close or kind or helpful totally stepping up to the plate and wanting to do stuff for me and help me and it amazes me.
True colors.
I'm with ya sister
Thursday, May 26, 2005
I'm getting married in 2 weeks and it's been a long time coming.
I have one bridesmaid that doesn't understand it isn't about her! I have known this girl since kindergarten. She's been a good friend, when it suits her. I learned to deal.... but then said enough, but if you disagree then she has an attitude, like she doesn't have to talk to you, so communicating and getting anwsers from her has been pretty hard. It all started when I asked someone else to be my MOH. She must have thought that becasue we have known each other for 25 years, that it should be her spot, when I told her it wasn't, she said that she wouldn't have been a bridesmaid then, and came to the wedding as a guest to support me. I told her that I would buy her dress back and pick it up if that was how she felt. If she couldn't be a freind to me and not worry about a "title" then who needs ya! Besides, i have been engaged for a year, she has not once offered her help for this wedding. Did she think that she should be it based on 25 years of ups and downs. And being so dang selfish. She wasn't there when I needed her in my tough times, becuase she had to go out and get drunk or screw some guy. same story, different day. I am so DUMB! Yeah, that's what I want, if you want to pull that attitude with me, stay the FU*K away! Then I had like 4 bridal showers - pick which one you want to come to. get down to the last one and I feel like I am babysitting - "Is she coming or not" well she came, but she wanted to meet me at my house, told me she would leave her house at 9 am and drive down (1-1/2 drive) shower is at 11 I tell her and I have to be there by quarter to. she had the nerve to call me all happy and stuff at 9:30 saying she was leaving. Sure as shit she didn't get down to the house until AFTER 11 am. I had already left, why do I have to wait for her? she should be on time. How rude. so I was late to my bridal shower, making me look rude.
Then last weekend I had my bachelorette party. Went out with a bunch of girls, ugh! it is my wedding! These girls acted like we just went bar-hopping. they just went whereever they wanted and I was just left with a few of my actual friends. Shows you the truth! But this same girl, couldn't get into the bar becasue she was too drunk. Fine. We were already in there and she called my cell and I talked to her and she said where she was, well we went out there and she wasn't there. She then decides to go back to the hotel room adn get her stuff out of there and catch a cab ride home. the next day came to divvy up the cost of the hotel and of course that skeezer bitch wasn't there, so I paid her share! ugh! I just want to replace right now.
another bridesmaid couldn't attend because her brother was in town from out of state and her dress was in for her wedding and she wanted to try it on. She's not getting married until October. Obviously I picked people who only think of themselves. I should have known better. It's makes me sad to think that my wedding could be ruined because it's too hard for other people to jsut be happy for me. OH and the one I vent about above - she is going to bring this guy to the wedding, that she isn't even dating, because they are continuosly "off/on". I just want it all to run smooth! I hat this!
replacements needed
Thursday, May 26, 2005
I've been emotionally blackmailed into having the husband of a friend (the MOH, in fact) as my videographer. And yes, I have to pay him. Which eats up the money I wanted for somebody else.
Bloody hell.
I wish she'd just taken my no for a no and not kept on about how this is his dream and what he wants to do and how he's just been diagnosed with diabetes and high blood pressure etc etc.
(I'd have a lot more sympathy if he weren't obese, with the health problems).
So there it is, I'm a spineless cow.
Fleurgirl
Wednesday, May 25, 2005
I was twenty-one and utterly unschooled in etiquette. I was probably the very opposite of most of the people here--didn't want to spend much of my parents' money, didn't want to be seen making a huge fuss. And my mother was very puritannish about alcohol, so we weren't going to have any. I had some good friends--a couple from college, a few from high school--that I planned to invite, and had them on my list, had even told some of them about the wedding. We'd reserved the restaurant where we'd be having a nice buffet afterwards--nothing too expensive, but still elegant.
Then a pushy cousin of my mother's called and announced that she had contacted all four of her children--and their families--and expected them all to come. My mother did NOT want to invite all these people, but she also didn't want to alienate them. So I had to call all my friends and disinvite them, which was horribly bad manners.
If I had been older and more mature, I think the thing I would have done would have been to cancel the reservation at the restaurant and found a less expensive venue--even the church basement, for pity's sake. But it was partly my pride that prevented me from doing this. My friends took it well--came to the wedding, but not the reception. My good friend from college was an older grad student in his mid-twenties, and I lost my nerve and disinvited him because I was truly afraid my mother would think it strange that I had male friends and worry about my relatives talking about my "ex-boyfriends." Later, he came out as gay, and I've worried ever since that he thought I'd frozen him out because of that (it was much less accepted to be gay and out in these times--it was the early nineties). I cringe every time I think of what I did to people who cared about me and wished me well, simply because I had no backbone and no maturity.
To expiate my sin, my husband and I plan, in six years, to hold a huge party to celebrate our twentieth wedding anniversary, and to invite everyone we know. We'll make it as lovely as we can, but the important thing is that no one will be left out. I've lost contact with my friends from high school, and they live clear across the country, but my college friend and his partner will be on the top of my list.
prairie
Wednesday, May 25, 2005
I confess that I want to kick my sister out of the wedding, and I also confess that I told by girlfriend who just found out that she was pregnant to get her dress let out.
hater
Tuesday, May 24, 2005
Wow, it's been a while since I've posted. I was beginning to think for a nano-second that my semi-disfunctional family was handling the whole wedding process rather well. I had the reality check of a life time this weekend!
Long weekend for us Canadian girls so a couple of my bridesmaids said that this would be an opportune weekend to do invitation stuff. Yay! Sounded great, do the invite thing and then have a barbeque!
Enter evil mother of bride...she wants to participate in the invitation thing too. Okay, great. I give her the time we're starting (4 pm or abouts). She tells me that she is also invited to a 50th birthday party for a long time friend. Okay, that's fine. Stop by when you're done, we'll be here! I should add as a side note that Mom's latest tag line is "well, I never had anything like that for my wedding". I've noticed that this phrase can be used really in any situation interchangeably. She also thinks that because she is the MOB, she needs to be involved in anything wedding related. Great, lovely sentiment. However, involved is not synonymous with "revolving around". There seems to be some confusion here.
Okay, back to my story...we didn't get started until about 5 pm (needed to have snacks) writing and stuffing can be strenuous so we needed to be adequately fueled! LOL! We scoot through them relatively quickly (6 ladies divided by 60 envelopes = quick work) My mother (and dad because the guys were invited for the barbeque too) show up at (get this!) 8 pm! Invites are long done and we are having dinner. Later my mom is bawling because she didn't want to miss out and she really wanted to be there to help and her friend didn't pay any attention to her at the birthday party and she feels like no one cares blah blah blah boo hoo. I find out in phone conversation the next day that she was pissed that we didn't wait for her! She was just "trying to make everyone happy". She just wants to be the center of attention and when it doesn't work she has a little tempertantrum. How embarassing. Speaking of embarassing, she was hammered after two glasses of wine (I suspect previous consumption at friend's birthday). I wish she could just hold it together for one freakin' night without me having to smile and nod at my friends "she's just loaded, don't mind her".
Reminding me of tempertantrums, little sister/MOH, is really wearing thin on the nerves. Something my friends have pointed out before and I just thought was normal is that every time she opens her mouth it is to cut me down or belittle me. I think she thinks it's funny. I am starting to get tired of it and my friends are uncomfortable around it because they think it's mean. Now that they've brought it to my attention, yeah, it is mean not to mention extreemly rude. I told her we had to have a talk later and I got brushed off. It has also been noticed by FH but he never said anything (not his place). Therapist says I need to deal with it because it is not condusive to a healthy relationship. I really want to tell her that she's a self righteous, unaccountable brat that thinks the world owes her everything. I think I may have to be a bit more sensored albeith direct. This has to stop before the remainder of the bridal party strangles her (they have not said anything until resently and I can't see showers/bachelorette parties, etc going well if this keeps up).
I go see the family on Thursday so that should be interesting. Wow, now I have a cramp. Sorry for the mega-post, it's been a while!
bride with ninja skills
Tuesday, May 24, 2005
GRRRRRRRR!!! I ordered the invitations way early, I got my parents' list (and mine, and FI's) early, everything so that the invitations could go out two months before the wedding (with a one-month-before "respond by" date). But MIL didn't give us her list for EVER, and then it was a hand-written fax that was hard to read and incomplete (my parents e-mailed us a typed list that could go right into our spreadsheet), and IS STILL INCOMPLETE, and she INSISTED we use a calligrapher (although TODAY FI said that "it was really our choice"!) who was all backed up and THE WEDDING IS IN LESS THAN SIX WEEKS AND THE INVITATIONS HAVEN'T GONE OUT!!! We were promised that everything would be done tomorrow and are holding my parents hostage to stuff envelopes and take them to the post office Wednesday morning when FI and I are at work.
And this is the ONE public part of our wedding planning, and MIL's friends are complaining that they haven't gotten the invites, and she's making it look like FI and I are disorganized when I'VE BEEN SITTING ON THE INVITES SINCE MARCH AND IT'S ALL HER FAULT!!!
Trapped by MIL
Monday, May 23, 2005
GRR!! i think i'm going to kill my best friend! i'm getting married in june, shes getting married in august... her shower was a month ago at her neighbors house i did all kinds of stuff for it- got their early to help set up, stayed late to help clean up... all of that... so... my shower was yesterday... she left after i opened about 5 of the presents sayig she had to go to her fiance's birthday dinner... uh?? ok??? your're in my wedding, we've been friends for almost 20 years, this is the only bridal shower i'm EVER gonna have... your fiance is gonna have a birthday EVERY YEAR... and you can't manage to stay for my whole shower??? after i did so much shit for yours?!? grrr!! SOO not cool!! its true what they say... weddings make you realize who your real friends are....
junie05
Monday, May 23, 2005
my friend is telling everyone what the wedding is costing her per person because she wants people to give her that much money! wtf!
isnt that tacky?
weirded out
Monday, May 23, 2005
I am a Brides maid. The Bride to be can not find the time to do anything with me. The maid of honor bought me my dress sight unseen, guessing my size, with the intention of paying her back.( didn't fit) Now the Bride to be insists that we all where the same underwear, an all in one. Okay so She promised me that she would call me to go shopping this time, and she didn't. She calls me and tells me that she bought me an all in one, guessing my size. ofcourse I am suppose to pay for it. Is this wierd??? Who buys people underwear???? Oh and then she tells me that I CAN RETURN IT, but its on her credit card??? I told her that I was worried that it might not fit, but she insists I fit into it??? I went to the store and tried on the same all in one, guess what?? I look lumpier with it on than off. I am so mad! wHO BUYS PEOPLE UNDERWEAR? Isn't that pushing it? I don't think that we we are good enough friends for me to even be in her wedding, I want to drop out. What do you all think about her buying me underwear? and being pushy and controling about me whereing it? Thank you - Confused
Brides maid
Saturday, May 21, 2005
I kicked out a nazi (literally -- ashamed now to be associated with her Third Reich growing up ways) of a bridesmaid -- only one of two that includes my darling MOH -- I come to find out she's "baffled" that I asked her to begin with despite the good gesture of friendship that is now caput between my FH and her husband. It's one thing to say yes and another thing NOT to do something about it. She didn't even want to be in to begin with, which as you can see, I came to discover and because I didn't give her an "option-out" and told her that she's REALLY "outie" instead, I'm now the bitch.
Who wants someone standing up for them and really being intergrally involved if they hold grudges or annoyances when you've only given them an HONOR which is really an HONOR and i've made it soooooooo freaking easy? NOT Dracula Bride. (of course I reimbursed her for everything including the haute coture, pick-your-own-gown-i'm-not-telling-you-what-to-wear-just keep-the-color-scheme-involved.) And this was a STELLAR gown people. Stellar. that she got to choose. And she won't give it back...despite buying it back.
Dracula Bride
Thursday, May 19, 2005
My fiance's EX is an adulterous witch - they are supposed to share expenses for the kids 50/50 but does she????? Noooooo.... She owes him a tidy sum for the past three years, spends all her money on clothes for herself or drinking with her friends instead of buying clothes for the kids, cheats on her taxes (she's self-employed), etc. Well guess what? BITCH, I just turned your name into the IRS, the state tax department, and the city tax department. When they get through with you, WE will fight for full custody of the kids, who are wonderful and would be much better off with a stepmom/dad in the house than an adulterous whore who is so selfish she spends all her money on herself instead of caring for her own children. You will lose the house and car that you can't afford anyway, plus the kids! I am a better mother than you could ever dream of being! Plus I'm not a whore who cheated with at least six guys (some of them co-workers) before finally leaving my husband and kids because "I'm not haaaappppyyyy".
Queen of Everything
San Diego, CA Thursday, May 19, 2005
Okay.. Argument with FH..
Now I really want to go snog the BM. I bet he's better in bed than FH. Actually each of my ex girl friends are better in bed that my FH. Jesus, get a clue guy.
Bugaboo
Tuesday, May 17, 2005
Please god Shoot me. Just get it over with. I am tired of waiting. I am tired of planning.
I've been with my boyfriend/fiancé for 9 years. Yup.. 9.
Do we live together? NOPE!
Does he sleep over? NOPE!
Is he afraid of freaking out his old school parents.. YUP!
Is he 28? AH YEAH..
Should he have grown a freaking back bone by now? YUP!
"I live in their house live by their rules BLAH BLAH BLAH"
Whatever..
Finally gives me a ring year 7.5.
WE have to wait 2 more years to get hitched.
OKAY ENOUGH FUCKING WAITING!
WE are moving in together finally Sept. Our wedding is in Oct. MOL is ALREADY Throwing a hissy fit.
HELLO IF YOU THINK YOUR ANGELIC SON HASN'T FUCKED ME SILLY IN THE PAST 9 YEARS YOU ARE SADLY MISTAKEN, DUMB AS A FUCKING POST AND COMPLETELY IN DENIAL!
AND HE HAS THE FUCKING GALL TO CALL ME IMPATIENT!!! WTF
9 Years buddy waiting for you very patiently.. Most women would have bailed on you the SECOND they found you attached at the hip with mummy dearest.
I confess I am a DUMB ASS.
God I want to sleep with your Best Man. He at least listens to me, and understands me. He deserves one good shag for all the complaining he's had to listen to from me about you and your stupid conservative family!
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I REPEAT SHOOT ME NOW!
Bugaboo
Tuesday, May 17, 2005
I'm the MOH in a wedding and can't believe how bitchy my BF is being. She is the ultimate Bridezilla and I can't begin to understand why someone would put themselves in this situation i.e. stressed, angry, mean, horrible, catty, obnoxious...for what is supposed to be the happiest day of her life. Two RSVPs when there should have been one. Bridesmaids not doing enough. FI sisters being total assholes! What the hell? She is making herself miserable for her "HAPPY DAY". Give me a fucking break! You don't HAVE to invite people to be a guest at your wedding if you are going to be irritated that they are bringing a guest so they'll feel comfortable. If that is the case, obviously they shouldn't be sharing your "SPECIAL DAY"!!!!!
GIMME A BREAK
CO Tuesday, May 17, 2005
I hate the fact that my FH still works with a woman he had sex with before we met, and I just want him to kick her out of his store. Every time someone mentions her name, I just want to break something. And why does he have to flirt with every chick??? I may just be paranoid, but it drives me nuts!!!
INbride
Tuesday, May 17, 2005
I just found out My FI and his ex have been talking on the phone every week for the past year about "finances"!! AAGGHH I hate her and I hate him for doing that to me! I'm a paranoid freak now and check his phone call log every chance I get to see if he has been "chatting" with that BIATCH!! Now I want to tap his email...What has happened to me??!?!? Is it starting?!
I hate florida Sluts!
Tuesday, May 17, 2005
Less than 3 weeks to my June 4 wedding. Less than half of the people on my tiny guest list have RSVPed, in spite of my giving them the choice of mailing the card, phoning, and e-mail. And some of the ones who have keep saying things like "Oh, and my daughter can come too." WTF? Your daughter wasn't on the invite! Or "oh, I'll drop by your wedding." - again from someone not invited. And since when does anyone "drop by" a wedding?! I just hope between the no-shows and the drop-ins, the total balances out to 50. That's what we're prepared for in regards to food, booze, chairs, and party favors, and that's about all that will fit in my back yard where we're having this. It's not a block party just because it's in the back yard, people!!! I'm about to wring some necks, I swear. Including FH, who keeps saying, "Oh, we're getting married on June 4, drop by!" Double agh.
Albuquerque Lurker
Monday, May 16, 2005
MY MOH is being a complete and total bitch to the rest of my brides maids. Yes, she is the MOH. Yes she gets to be the head honcho. BUT MY GIRLS DO NOT DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE CRAP EITHER! God I am so sick of her BS.
Bugaboo
Monday, May 16, 2005
My fiance and I would have gotten married ages ago if it weren't for my huge, dreadful, ultra-religious, socially stunted, tasteless, classless family. Well, we arrived at the perfect plan. Destination wedding at a very small venue! "Oh so sorry, I'm just devastated that all 139 of you can't come, but there's not enough room and it wouldn't be fair to invite only a few, don't you agree? Oh good." I'd rather say "I wouldn't invite you if I were hosting a barn dance in a junk yard because you might kill the ambiance." I may have to field a snarky call or two, and it's going to cut down on the presents, but frankly after 30-something years of bizarre religio-cult Christmases with these people, that's rather a relief. But I'm sure I'll still get the "You're a sinner on the Slip-and-Slide to Hell. Happy birthday!" cards, so there is that.
I'm so diplomatic
Sunday, May 15, 2005
1. The wedding is in 6 weeks and I, the bride, still need to get my dress hemmed, proper foundation garments, and fucking shoes.
2. Why o fucking why are people bringing guests when the invites were specifically addressed to them. This includes FBIL who not only wanted to bring his anorexic (or meth addicted, tough call) girlfriend but wanted FH to pay for her plane ticket and accommodations cuz he just lost his telemarketing job. As fucking if dude.
3. My FMIL bugs. First she didnt want to return the pre-stamped RSVP. Mailing shit is just so hard. Now she is making a production of the fact she is making her granddaughter (daughter of above brother) dress to wear to the wedding. Well mostly making a production of the fact she isnt using white material or anything too wedding-ly. Like I fucking care. She could put a fucking veil on the kid for all I care, cuz I am not wearing one. Of course people are going to be paying attention to the 3 year old kid. She is a cute and funny kid, and I hope she gets a million photos taken of her. I resent the whole idea that nothing should distract from the bride. Look folks, I am fucking introvert. Anything that distracts attention from me is GOOD.
4. And while I am nervous about the focus of attention, can I cop to feeling hurt that no one is throwing us a shower? Not even a fun co-ed lets all get tanked and hang out shower. That is what I get for not asking them to be bridesmaids and forcing the whole lot of them into dresses with butt bows and dyed to match shoes. Ingrates.
5. And this might be the worst confession: I hope my crazy ass father doesnt come. And if he does, I hope he leaves his icky live in girlfriend back at home. So far they havent RSVPed (and yes I did the right thing by addressing the invite to both of them), and the two times I have talk to him on the phone about the wedding he has said both times that he might not be able to make it cuz of jury duty. And no, he hasnt actually been called for jury duty, he is just mentally ill, and this is par for the course. It would just make the days before the wedding and the day of the wedding easier (and far more enjoyable) if he was a no show.
shechem
Saturday, May 14, 2005
I hate my future mother in law. She has already made my fiance crazy with all of her constant nagging, and she is a super BITCH when it comes to this wedding. She is SO jealous I am marrying her only son, she can barely stand it. I also hate my future FIL. He is the king of all assholes.
I am not the bitch in this situation
Friday, May 13, 2005
i hate my fi's ex and the kid she spawned in her whoreish affair of seven years while she was married to my fi, and i despise the fact that he pays child support for kids that arent his and goes to see them!!! wtf is wrong with him?
nunya
Friday, May 13, 2005
We got home from our honeymoon at 2:00 am Sunday. With just a few hours sleep had to deal with painters, laundry, grocery shopping, unpacking, huge house mess (after dealing with out-of-town guests), dealing with my mom (she has Alzheimers and lives with us, didn't appreciate being left with "babysitters" all week), and preparing for a very busy work week. My b*tch of a MIL wanted to come over since it was Mother's day. We nicely told her it wouldn't be a good time (we didn't even get a chance to shower all day!). She threw a total snit fit, having her husband write us a scathing letter, saying how hurt she was. She didn't once say, How was the honeymoon? How's it going? Was it hard to get back to work? Can I help with anything?
I hate her. Is it too late to un-do this whole thing?
Should know better
Friday, May 13, 2005
well, tomorrow's the big day. there seems to be lots left to do, but i've been reassured by moh that that's just the way it is. she's trying to help me feel calm. valium works better! i took one last night and slept deeply for several hours...which was a nice change.
i just discovered that one of my sisters was bitten by a spider and that she's become ill. my first thought was 'oh great, now the focus will be on her'. that led to some bridezilla feelings. my second was, 'at least she'll be here so we can take care of her if she needs it'. ok, that's better.
then an emergency phone call from my brother. 'i need a tie'. and he goes on to say it must be either rainbow or decorated with dragons--as those are the two things he collects. yeah, uh huh. like i have time to go looking for a tie for him. go get it yourself, bud.
the house is a mess, the bachelorette party is here. the sister who's hosting it with moh can't come until late today rather than this morning because her son needs her to take him to a job interview. can you say 'taxi'? that same son is trying to get out of coming, to which i say 'not negotiable'. my niece, his sister, wants to bring her new puppy because she's sure i want to me him, and we are--after all--getting married in a park. 'please don't'.
i'm going to breakfast as soon as the moh gets out of the shower. the soon-to-be dh can play computer games to his heart's delight. i need food.
tomorrow
Friday, May 13, 2005
I went to the registry and calculated exactly how much DH's family spent on us and compared it to my own. My family came WAY out ahead. I mean, all of them put together didn't even spend as much as one sister. They are CHEAP! It makes me feel like I'm not being properly welcomed to the family. Who cares? Don't want to be part of their stingy, overly-religious, ill-bred family anyway. Of course, how classy is it to count dollars spent on gifts? heehee
Should know better
Wednesday, May 11, 2005
I am deeply in love with my fiancée.
His Best Man is smart quiet, hasnt had time for a girlfriend in years, very honorable, and sweet, computer geek, doesnt drink, doesnt smoke etc.. . . He has said on more than one occasion that if it werent for the insanity of the Catholic Church he would have been a priest.
I just want to do show him how to be wild and naughty, and do things to him that would show him a very very good time. Just to make him shed that pristine outer appearance. Just to fog up his glasses. I want to make him loss his mind.
Hes not hot, hes not like that. But I want to just because its so not him.
I would never follow through with this, and even if I did, hed have a heart attack, and tell me to bugger off.
But Id like once to get him alone and offer my services to help release some pent up tension.
Demon Bride
Tuesday, May 10, 2005
I am a bridesmaid, 1 of 5. Our bride told us she didn't want to decide between friends, so she was not going to choose a maid of honour. so.... myself and another of the 5 maids took it upon ourselves to plan the shower and social and bachallorette, ensuring our bride would get all the benefits she deserves. We are now done planning and carrying out MOH duties to find out that she did ask one of the girls to be her Maid of Honour, and just didn't let us know.
Swindelled
Tuesday, May 10, 2005
I only invited one of my bridesmaids because she was part of the college group, but I hate her. She is a cold emotionally stunted elitist snot, who is dating a man that is horrible to her. He is cheating on her but she sticks up for him. What a moron. I just hate her. At every step of this wedding she has tried to control everything from the dresses to the cake. and now I want her to get dysentery.
Bugaboo
Tuesday, May 10, 2005
A friend from work is one of my bridesmaids. She just got fired. She may be facing legal action for the cause of said firing. While I am worried for my friend, I can't help thinking: this couldn't hit the fan AFTER my damn wedding? Now some other co-workers won't come because it would be awkward, and my only shower is being put on by co-workers at the boss's house! So my only in-town bridesmaid won't be coming to my only shower.
ARgh
Monday, May 09, 2005
OK, I need to ask, who came up with the "rule" that youre supposed to give a gift equivalent to the cost of the wedding? If someone chooses to have a wedding thats over $200 per person does that mean I have to give them $400 for me and my guest? Am I obligated to reimburse them for the costly wedding they chose to have? If its between shelling out a weeks' pay as a goft or not go to the wedding then I choose to not go to the wedding, as its obviously not a celebration of marriage, merely a fund-raiser.
Very confused
NJ Monday, May 09, 2005
My FI kids are full grown (19 & 25) They are spoiled brats. He claims they always worked but they've never had to really support theirself at all. The money they've made "working" has gone to buying lipstick and clothes. They actually verbalize that they think they are "princesses" and deserve to be treated so. They came to visit and acted like spoiled brats after I opened my home to them, took time off work, drove their spoiled butts all over the place. The older one's parting comment was "thanks for being our tour guide"...nice.
They've decided not to attend our wedding. They used all kinds of different excuses until FI pushed them and they came up with the excuse that there is always drama when they're around me (not by my doing, I'll tell ya that). The fact of the matter is, they wouldn't be able to STAND the fact that I AM THE BRIDE and it would be a day devoted to ME.
Here's my confession:
I was so happy to hear they weren't coming to the wedding, it was nearly impossible to control my glee. He doesn't know that I hate their guts...the brats. Yeah, hate is a bad word...whatever.
These beee-oches represent everything I detest in the world of greed and self-centered-ness and prissyness. They are like your worst f-in nightmare from high school and college...snooty spoiled self-centered BRATS.
I sent them invites because that is what I am "supposed" to do (they informed their father they weren't coming to the wedding months ago). If one of those snarky bitches shows at my wedding (which is doubtful THANK GOD, I will sooo ignore their bratty asses.
I hope *I* never see them again.
Wicked stepmother
Sunday, May 08, 2005
I hate my future sister-in-law. She is obsessed with appearances and wealth and being "religious." Oh, and she's incredibly fat, so she has major self-esteem issues. She hates me for not weighing as much as she does. So, she'll try to out do me with her clothing, the cards she sends out to family members, etc. So right after we got engaged, the fat bitch could only talk about when she and my future husband's brother got engaged/married. Seriously, no congratulations, nothing. Not even an acknowledgement that we even got engaged. Just hearing about her and when she got married. She's so jealous she can't stand it! She can't stand not being the center of attention. Nobody likes her in the family, and everyone's so tired of her narrow-minded fat loser outlook on everything, and I'm tired of hearing her talk about herself. This is my wedding, damn it! Get over the fact that you're an "old-married" now and that nobody cares about your ugly, typical wedding that happened years ago. You have horrible taste, bitch, and I'm tired of hearing about it. Also, she didn't invite me to a single one of her all-female showers, but I'm expected to invite her to all of my showers, and invite her family who has been a bunch of rotten $hitheads to my wedding. Screw them! I'm not inviting them, and they can kiss my @$$! Trust me sweetie, you're outside of your league trying to out-do me, and you're never going to lose weight, so go on being fat, typical and jealous!
Shut up fatty!
Sunday, May 08, 2005
So after nine years together and half of them living happily in sin we decided to go ahead and get married (no romantic proposal story) and saved up a little extra for a big party after the registry office ceremony. Imagine our surprise when our families went insane at the discovery of our wedding plans. It seems they had long been hoping for a big white wedding and no-one was brave enough to say so before. Mum (who has started signing emails "mother of the bride") brought out a two foot stack of wedding mags she's been saving for years (no, that's not a joke, really) and has insisted on paying for everything, thereby apparently giving her the right to choose the complete opposite of anything we wanted. Frankly if she wants to spend $200 a head just on dinner for everyone she's ever met then why couldn't she have offered even half that money to us years ago when we were saving for a house, holiday, etc.. We spent our first six months living together sharing one vinyl beanbag before we could afford a couch! Where was she then? (buying wedding magazines it would appear)
So the registry office is out the window and the good party will still be good if I try not to think of better things I could have spent the money on BUT I'LL BE DAMNED IF I'M EVER GOING ANYWHERE IN WHITE!!! (And yes Mum, off-white, ivory, pearl and cream are all still white)
Luckily my one and only bridesmaid (my sister who was clever enough not to get married first) lives overseas and I've told her she can buy a dress in any colour and just turn up on the day. My mother is disgusted by this thought and I love it!!
In the last week FMIL has decided she wants to be more involved become stroppy because we are "leaving her out of the loop" even though there is no "loop" and she seems unable to perform basic tasks like giving us approximate numbers.
looking for bright yellow dress
Sydney, Saturday, May 07, 2005
I am maid of honor for my best friend who ive known since literally the day I was born. She has a good heart but was always, how do I say this, very SELFISH and SPOILED. Since theyre her only 2 flaws ive lived when them and ignored them for years. Thats and never having had a job in her life so she has no concept of money. I was fine for 26 years until now..the WEDDING. Mind you, this girl was not born with a silver spoon in her mouth. Yet for her "dream wedding" shes run up a tab thats probably more than her single mothers salary which of course her mother is paying for and because she doesnt have any spine whatsoever she proceeds to allow her brat daughter to buy swarovsky crystal embedded lingerie for her wedding night.
Lets see...$225 per person times 200+ guests. $10K band...$6,000 flowers...$3000 dress...$450 tiara..$300 veil...$150 shoes...you get the picture. I was expected to give the bridal shower oh how very maid of honorable of me. well the list started around 40 people and by the time the day came around was up to 70. And after the shower was over, my best friend, the bride came up to me and asked with disgust "who picked this place?" oh, Im sorry it was only $20 per person instead of $225 careful dont you dont trip on your $149 frying pan I bought you from your greedy registry on the way out. The she asks me to "do her a favor" and see if I can find "tears of joy" wedding tissues. so the 200 people at this wedding can have something extra special to blow their snot into. Like I have time for this crap. And THEN I am informed that my sister, who was like a sister to her, is not invited to the wedding because they "cant afford it". Yet she could afford a $300 outfit to wear to her bachelorette party which also cost me several hundred dollars. Lets see....hotel room in NYC $250 which I split with 1 other girl...dinner $60 per person...bar cover charges $30 per person...drinks $50 per person...and then she has the audacity to complain the next day about not going to all the bars she wanted to go to. so in addition to the shower, the bach party and gifts, I have also bought a $200 dress plus $50 for alterations $70 dyeable shoes, and I have even bought her a wedding gift yet. when its my turn to get married you can bet Im getting even...this wedding is costing me well over $1000 to be in and Im in another wedding the following month! And dont expect any TEARS OF JOY from me either!
Maid of honor or just a MAID?! <email>
CT Friday, May 06, 2005
I am so tired of all the rich ass brides bashing and talking sh*t about other reception halls!!! Just because my reception hall doesn't cost $200 a head doesn't mean it's sh*t....
Go wipe your asses with $100 bills you trust fund having mommy & daddy paying for everything snotty ass bitches!!
Ura Snotball
Thursday, May 05, 2005
do people not understand that if you dont put the words "and guest" on their invitation, it means they cant bring a guest? my FMIL told all of her single friends they could bring someone... ALL 15 OF THEM. Do you know what 15 x $250 is?!!? That's all 4 grand I have to shell out for her friends (not to mention she told them they could bring their kids too, even after we said we didnt want kids at our wedding). and to make it better, she's telling anyone who asks how much to give us not to go crazy. "They have money. You dont need to give them much for their wedding" so what if my FH makes money. We're paying over $100,000 for our wedding. We're paying $1000 for a family of 4 to eat and tells them to give us no more than $100.!! BITE ME!!!
Samantha Kerney
New York, NY Thursday, May 05, 2005
Ugg...my future SIL has to be the worst. I'm convinced she's trying to live the wedding she never had (because she called it off 2 weeks before it happened), through me. Every suggestion I make, she has to disapprove of. I have 9 bridesmaids to buy gifts for and she is the only one who refuses to wear the beautiful simple pink pearl earrings I picked out that match perfectly with the dresses. She claims pearls make her ears look big (WHAT!?!?!) She refuses to wear her hair like all the other girls (it's not like I told all the girls how they had to wear it. They all agreed on a style except her). Plus she found some hideous pink flower thing she wants to wear with her dress. I told her it was ok if she could find one for everyone (I'd even pay for it), but no! She can be the only one who wears it! She feels she should stand out b/c she's the groom-to-be's sister. (She's not even my Maid of Honor). Plus she just gave me 6 more people she wanted me to send invitations to, and the wedding is in 3 weeks! 9 of the 15 friends she already invited haven't even responded yet. And when I asked her if she would mind calling them (b/c I've never even met them) she told me it was rude to call them and why not just wait till a couple days before the wedding to see if they are coming. My f***ing seating chart is due next week!!! UGGGGGG. I hope she trips on her freaking 5 inch stilettos while shes walking down the isle!!
Jacey
Howell, NJ Thursday, May 05, 2005
I think i am a pretty ok daughter. I am 28 and living with my fiance, and put myself through university, and am a professional and buy everyone great considerate gifts and never ask for anything. I never take money from my parents for anything, even when they offer. My Brother... complete opposite. Minimum wage job, changes jobs more often than underwear - has been getting things paid for him since i can remember (rent/bills/lunch/clothes/groceries). I got a job at 16 that paid for my 2 busses to college, and he would get dropped at college by my mom and handed money as he got out the car - for his lunch and things. I thought, fine - one day it'll be my turn...
Now, their only daughter is getting married. I was adament that i would not ask for money and that we (FH and I) could pay for it. It has slightly spiralled out of control now and will be costing almost 30K. After some sole searching, i have decided to swollow my pride, and if/when my parents offer to help, i will accept anything they want to contribute. Well - we've been engaged for 11 months, the wedding is less than a year away - and nothing. No offers, no conversation about money, no insistance to pay their share. I think they think that if they keep their heads down - they can just turn up on the day. Which makes my fiance furious - cause we are giving up alot of things to save for this. He'd always imagined the brides' parents pay and he concentrates on a fabulous honeymoon (which we are not having now... cause we can't afford it). He wants to give me palm trees and hammocks, but instead, we'll probably only have a few days in a B&;B a couple hours from our house.
So ok, money sucks - and if we'd had a church hall with cocktail sausages, we'd be able to afford a nicer honeymoon. I am not that much of a bitch... and understood, for the past 28 years that my parents are neither loaded nor my bank account. BUT. But they now have the cheek, to seek my advise about getting my brother's passport renewed - cause he hasn't had a proper holiday for about 10 years and they would like to send him away/take him away, overseas later this year for a nice holiday. WHAT???????
You're only daughter who gets nothing from you - ever, is getting married in less than a year and you offer no money - but you have the money to send your useless scrounging needy son on holiday cause he's looking tired and works too hard. Say that again? I am clearly missing something...
I could hardly sleep playing over how to bring it up without it being about me wanting money - or me not wanting him to have a holiday. Mostly - If i have to ask for the money (at least what i deserve/cost of his holiday/total of everything they spent on him over the years) then it'll suck any happiness out of the memories associated to my parents actually offering a contribution. I don't want to be bitter about anything related to the wedding or my parents... but have had evil thoughts about leaving them all completely out of the planning, decisions, excitement, and even making a point of disinviting anyone they want there - just so i can say 'well you're not paying for it'. Aaaaarrrrrggghhhhhhhh
bad daughter
Thursday, May 05, 2005
i couldn't write one more frigging thank you note & mama wanted me to wear that godawful tiara. so i guess i panicked. nobody understood-not one of those good-for-nothing 14 bridesmaids. so i just bought me a bus ticket & got out of there. omigod, though, i came back and i'm in a lot of trouble ... plus a straightjacket.
runaway bride <email>
duluth, ga Wednesday, May 04, 2005
What is it with people bringing a guest when we didn't give them a "and Guest"?! Hello?! I don't need to spend $100 on their "flavor of the month", someone I will never see again.
Secret Bridezilla
Tuesday, May 03, 2005
i have been to a lot of weddings in the past year (11). I have been in quite a few of them (6). None of the brides (including the crazy one who freaked (FREAKED!!) when the flower girl wanted to walk into the reception with her mom (another bridesmaid) and not with the ringbearer, could hold a candle to the chic I am forced to work with. We work in a very close setting on projects that require us to have a constant flow of communication. I don't mind hearing about her life, but I am sick of hearign about her wedding. First of all, she has known the guy for SIX WEEKS. yes, 6 weeks. The got "engaged" two weeks ago, although I haven't seen a ring. She spends all day on weddign websites and talking about how she is going to buy a house next fall and then start having kids. I am about to bite her the next time I hear some crap about her hall, her cake etc. They are planning a "long engagement" the wedding will be next fall, THAT IS NOT A LONG ENGAGEMENT!! THAT IS NORMAL!!! I know they will be divorced in a year and I'll probably have to listen to that too.
overdosed on weddings
Monday, May 02, 2005
Things were going so well... the invites will go out in a couple of weeks for our summer wedding... then it comes up that neither a pretty font printed on the envelopes or my handwriting is good enough for FMIL. Nope, only hand calligraphy will do. This is SO important, in fact, that she will pay for it (even after DF gave her a price that was TWICE what it will really cost). OK, so I call a calligrapher that we know, but she's too backed up and mentioned that you really need to give things a MONTH in advance (and the invites are supposed to go out in two weeks!). Plus, FMIL has been going on and on about the beautiful shower invites that her friend designed (which I know cost more than our invitations and may well show them up). When I told her that we were talking to the calligrapher (all to make her happy, right!) she said, "Well, have you chosen your style of calligraphy yet? Because some kinds are really beautiful, but the typical thing is just so boring, don't you think? If she can do the beautiful kind it would be better don't you think?" NO, that's not what I think! I think that a nice address that the post office's machines can read, that gets the invitations out within the next two weeks (some of which we may need to REORDER because her list is so damn long) would be JUST FINE!!!!!
*sigh*
Sunday, May 01, 2005
I have a suggestion to all of you newly married, former Bridezillas. It's called www.ihatemyinlaws.com. Just when you think you are done being Bridezilla, you become Wifezilla! I hate my MIL and FIL! I saw a post about someone's MIL being a super cheap bitch. All I have to say is, Amen Sister. I hear you. We got a $25.00 cake plate. I have totally vowed revenge.
NewWife
Saturday, April 30, 2005
My younger sister has always been the "alternative" type. (Meaning that she and every single one of her friends are "unconventional" in exactly the same way.) The second she got engaged, she turned into Emily Post overnight. Her endless list of demands for the things that will make the day "perfect" is steadily grinding both my father (who's paying for it all) and my mother (who foolishly insisted on handling all the details herself) into the ground. She only asked me to be one of her nine (!) bridesmaids because she felt she had to. (Which I don't mind, since I only said yes because I felt *I* had to.) Now she asks me to run the chores that her best-friend MOH is too stupid (or too busy finding hook-ups on the weekend) to handle, repeatedly drops "hints" that I ought to try to lose some weight before June, and acts hurt because I'm not appreciative enough of what an honor she's done me. Claire, if you're reading this, do us all a favor and elope to Las Vegas, OK? You can get married at whatever place Britney used - since your taste is on her level and your marriage will last about as long.
La Furiosa
Saturday, April 30, 2005
Firstly - I have never dreamed of getting married/having kids - maybe cos my parents divorced when I was 3? I got engaged (a "surprise" on holiday) in Nov 2003 after living with my boyfriend for 2 years. - I said yes cos I know it's something he really wanted. But I told him it would have to be in Vegas - just the 2 of us or maybe a couple of close friends !!
He got an overseas job contract in 2003 and I left my job and followed him out here - initially for 12 months - but it got extended midway through 2004 for another 3 years. In December it was confirmed(by my fiance!!) that the wedding would be August this year and in Barbados NOT Vegas!!! Well all I can say is it has so far been a complete nightmare. The most unpleasant sur |
