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Two down, two to go.... So, I kicked one bridesmaid out of the wedding party in month three. It is now month five, and I am about to fire the maid of honor. Is it me, or is it them?
Embattled bride
Tuesday, December 28, 2004
Last October I confessed that I cut 2 families from our guest list (my confession got tagged on to someone else's-It has my alias but only the last part of the confession is mine. Anyway, the mother of one of the families has just offered to help me with the alterations for the bridesmaids. She is the one with 7 kids that we cut from the guest list. Oh, dear! How can I accept her help and not invite her? How can I invite her and not her family? Maybe we will find the room. Maybe I should just tell her she's not on the guest list. Oh, dear. Such a nice gesture she made, too.
California MoB
Monday, December 27, 2004
I live in the midwest. Anything in California costs five times what it does anywhere else. And I've gone to a lot of cake and punch receptions, with gift, and never felt cheated. Saw friend or relative get married, schmoozed with other friends and relatives, hung out for an hour or so, went home. Good time had by all. The reception isn't payment for the gift any more than a gift is payment for being invited to a wedding.
Gypsy
Wednesday, December 22, 2004
I know $20K for a wedding sounds nuts. I thought so too, at first, before I started planning my wedding. But I guaranty you, $20K buys a very nice, but very modest wedding. I cut corners EVERYWHERE: Got my dress and all decorations on Ebay, my flowers from the local supermarket, had the reception in the home of a friend, catered only appetizers and side dishes while father-in-law bought and cooked all the main courses as his gift to us (it was fabulous), bridesmaids chose and bought their own dresses off-the-rack, friends donated their services as photographer and videographer, church singer and accompanyist. We had about 100 people. All this, and it STILL cost us around $10K, which we paid for ourselves. I agree that it's wrong for someone to expect their parents to cough up that kind of money for a 1-day event, but if they can afford it and want to do it - what a lucky bride and groom that is. And I don't think they're being terribly extravagant, either. Yes...one can always have just a cake and punch reception, if one chooses, but most of your guests are bringing you gifts - don't they deserve a little more hospitality than that? I would rather just elope and have no wedding at all than do something as half-assed as that. As I stated above, there are ways to cut corners and still keep it nice, but if you still can't afford it, then don't have it. Gypsy - I don't know where you live, but in California, $20K doesn't even come close to a down payment on a house.
Lisa
Tuesday, December 21, 2004
somebody on here mentioned liweddings.com, so i went to check it out... those girls are soo bratty!! one girl posted today about how her parents were paying for the whole wedding, and her mother-in law had told them she would pay for the honeymoon ( $2500) but decided to pay off her car instead so she is "only" giving them $1500 now. PLEASE!!! this girl needs to get a grip!! for their whole wedding, her and her fiance will only need to come up with $1000 ( to cover the rest of their honeymoon)... EVERYTHING else is being handed to them!! try coming up with $9000 for your part of it!! geez... get a grip on reality!! girls like her are the ones who give brides a bad name!
junie05
Monday, December 20, 2004
I have to say that, rereading this site months after my wedding makes me glad that the wedding is over. I was fortunate to have support from my bridesmaids, family, and friends throughout the process, and really didn't become a bridezilla. Things were stressful, especially the 24 hours before the wedding, trying to coordinate people getting into town and being at the rehearsal on time and all that. I did get to the point that I wished my husband and I had just eloped. But then I look at the wedding pictures, and watch the video, and remember that all the stress leading up to the day was worth it. And whether you spend $1,000 or $20K on your wedding, just remember the wedding day is just one day. And speaking from experience, the planning of the wedding is nothing compared to stressors of being married. Good luck ladies!
i've been there
Monday, December 20, 2004
i am such a stupid cow.
My fiance has been really stressed at work trying to get things done for a deadline. so i have been asking him wedding related questions - to which he keeps replying (quite rightly..) that he'll look at it properly next week. Then i threw a fit and said he doesn't care about our wedding, or me, and i am leaving and he doesn't love me... and if he loved me he would have to prove it. etc. basic high school stuff (scaled up to bitch proportions).I pretended to call the venue and cancel. (i dialled a wrong number so he'd overhear). Anyway, after tears and tantrums and storming out... we eventually made up. Well i think we kind of made up but as he put it, 'Something has died'. Something is now missing and we haven't mentioned the wedding at all since. That was 4 days ago. Now he says he's bored with his life, that he's discontent here and wants to move to south america for a couple years as an adventure.
I am sooooo stupid. I played games and pushed and pushed and now the most wonderful man i have ever met and the best thing that has ever happened to me - is falling out of love with me, and thinking of leaving. I could cry all over again just thinking about it.
I could explode i love him so much... and we've had the most amazing relationship until this blip. I've been pretty hormonal the last few months and insecure - i wish that were an excuse. What if i loose him because i was determined to have a chick flick roses and declaration of love, running into each others' arms moment... when there wasn't even anything wrong? I feel so lonely.
Princess Wide
Tuesday, December 14, 2004
I spent forever looking for the perfect invitation and got save the date cards to match. Now it's almost time to send them out and I absolutely hate the save the date cards I picked out.
oops
Monday, December 13, 2004
I should add I'm having a small (75 people tops) informal wedding, and wasn't including the honeymoon into my figures. There's no rule that you have to feed your guests dinner, either; afternoon wedding receptions can be cake and punch affairs - which is usually affordable for even large weddings.
Gypsy
Friday, December 10, 2004
I'd rather someone spend $20k on their wedding than cheap out on it and unleash gimme frenzy on the people they invite with showers, dollar dances, pay-for-my-honeymoon registries, etc.
I didn't spend much on my wedding- about $2k. But I only had 30 people. Anyone who has a large guest list due to big families and such is pretty hard pressed to get everyone in one room and feed them for under $10k unless they want to make 50 gallons of mashed potatoes and bake 100 chicken breasts themselves. That's the facts, jack. Finally:
Dump him, October Bride!
Thursday, December 09, 2004
Seems that there will always be people that feel the need to show off their money, or at least make people think they have a lot of money. And there will also always be people that resent other people's money, but they try to hide their resentment by accusing the more well-off of being shallow. Maybe you all should get over yourselves.
Another obnoxious contribution
Thursday, December 09, 2004
Actually bitchypants, the correct term is SHALLOW. But feel free to keep telling yourself what you want to hear.
Anon Y. Mouse
Thursday, December 09, 2004
october bride...
i do have debts. i have $20,000 in college debt that i am paying off ( i just graduated this passed may)... and just in case you're wondering, my mommy and daddy aren't paying for my wedding... they are giving me $5000 and said the rest is up to me, for exactly the reason you said- they didn't want me to get caught up in the whole " fairy princess for a day give me whatever i want" thing. i am an extrememly conservative person as far as what i spend on clothes, makeup and just " things" in general... and that is the reason i am able to spend the money to have a nice wedding day and throw a nice party for my friends and family who have supported me my whole life. the weddings not just for me and my fiance... its a way to thank our friends and families for being there for us, too.
junie05
Wednesday, December 08, 2004
To those who think I'm jealous or envious - I'm not. I just flat out think anyone who goes into debt for a wedding day is an idiot. And as for it "just being what it costs" - not if you're smart, clever, and a good negotiator. Those who are wealthy and can afford 20K, enjoy it. I'm not, and don't care. I love my man and would marry him in front of a justice of the peace wearing blue jeans if that's all we could afford. I didn't spend my childhood dreaming of the Special Day I'd be a Fairy Princess. Plus I'm a bit older than the average bride, and believe me your priorities settle after you've experienced paying off a few debts!
Gypsy
Wednesday, December 08, 2004
Ok this in in response to Octoberbride and him knocking up his ex. Listen--if he is going around poking his pecker where it doesn't belong--It has nothing to do with your bitchyness. It means he's just not that in to you. Do you think he could be faithful after knocking up another woman while ya'll are planning a wedding. Dump him. Do better. No woman should have to deal with that crap. You can be bitchy if you want and if he blames you, then he's the one with some screws loose and probably needs professional help.
Oh and women who spend 20k or more on a weddding are not insecure, and are not stupid for wasting money. The correct term is WEALTHY. Keep being jealous ladies--it suits you.
bitchypants
Wednesday, December 08, 2004
I absolutely hate his parents. Mine need some work and it's 6 months until the wedding and no one gives a fuck, except me.
His parents don't like me, yet they don't even know me, they just somehow know what their adult son, whom they treat like a retarded child needs in their life? WTF? Seriously, the father emotionally punished his son by ignoring him the week after our engagement and tried to talk him out of proposing--basically ruining our engagement weekend. Then when I am coming to visit for the first time since the engagement. Not one person asks to see the ring or offers a congratulatioon. What slime. The father ignores me and the mother pretends---I'd prefer to be wholly ignored.
I just emailed his sister and told her we weren't coming to Christmas at her house b/c her parents don't like me and we decided it would be best to celebrate with a family who accepted the both of us (mine) Then I asked for the addresses of their redneck freak family member so I can invite them to the wedding. She hasn't answered back, I guess that was bitchy. I don't give a rat's ass at this point.
The dad has threatened not to come to the wedding. I dont' really care, infact I'd prefer not to have the fat bastard their. I dare him to ignore me at my own wedding. Have I gone Bridezilla. No. Am I going too??? Yes!
I just don't give a damn anymore. It shouldn't be about them and their freakish overcontrolling relationship with their adult children. It should be about us and us making a lives for ourselves far far far away from his family.
Oh and his middle sister was knocked up when she got married, and somehow that ended up being ok. I hate that rat bastard.
Oh and now my parents. Oh mom would just love the wedding to look like older sis. And eveytime I'm state what I am doing she doesn't like it, well no shit Mrs. Judgemental it's not what you planned for sister's wedding. Of course you don't like it b/c it doesn't stroke your ego. FREAK!!!!!!!!!!
Why do people freak out around weddings. Seriously, his red neck family has no reason to look down on this girl or her family. We are not alky's, we are not rednecks who leave cups and cans of tobacco spit around our home, we know what a fucking artichoke is!!!!!We are not inbred, like I suspect some of them are. My poor fiance.... he is nothing like them. It is soooooo sad.
bitchypants
ga Wednesday, December 08, 2004
I don't give a crap who in your family thinks we must do this or that. I am the one who gave up everything to move and be here. I am the one who understood why the wedding should be in YOUR hometown. The least anyone could do would be to UNDERSTAND me a little bit more instead of pushing us to the altar just because they want a wedding.
bitchzilla
Wednesday, December 08, 2004
not everyone who has a $20 K wedding is a spoiled brat... my wedding in june is costing almost that much ( including the honeymoon) and that is with things like my mom making MY dress as well as the flower girl and bridesmaids dresses, only ordering bouquets from the florist ( centerpeices are included with the caterer, so the florist won't need to do any fancy-pants centerpieces ) as well as making my own programs, placecards, and getting all the accerssories ( flower girl basket, toasting flutes, etc) with 50% off coupons at michaels and AC Moore. i am also using a caterer that includes cake, DJ, flower decorations, etc....
my point is that i am trying to save money and i am still spending almost $20 K... its just what the wedding industry costs these days
junie05
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
Anyone who spends 20K on a 6 hour party is an insecure moron or a spoiled brat. Or both.
Anon Y. Mouse
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
Gypsy, you're the bride and part of being a bridesmaid is wearing the dress the bride picks out (as long as it isn't crazy expensive). Tell the MOH and all the other BMs that they'll be wearing X dress, from Y company in Z color. If the MOH complains, tell her its your wedding not hers.
Magpie Bride
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
Gypsy, wow, what envy!!! im having a 20k wedding, if it bothers you, its because you are so envious and wish it was you.
i'm worth well over 20k!!
get over it!!
just me
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
So, I am getting married in September 2005 and just purchased my dress. Get this the MOH wants a dress similar to mine, while the rest of the bridesmaid's wear something different,(but all the same). Is this normal? I mean does the MOH have to have a different dress, or can I insist that everyone wear the same dress. I don't want to come off as a bitch. I want all my bridesmaids to wear a dress that makes them feel good, But shouldnt' I be the only one that stands out?
pretty in white
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
I can't believe the chick who thinks she's entitled to a 20K wedding! That's not a wedding, it's a down payment on a house! Ye gods, it's one day! My wedding is coming in at well less than a thou; found a dress for $20 at a discount shop, my 2 attendants are buying their own - and they get to pick out their own, one in lavendar and one in green. FH will not be wearing a tux, just a nice dark suit. Mom will be doing the food, I just have to pay for the ingredients. A friend who does cakes will be doing the cake for pennies, another friend who knows where to get discount flowers will be doing arrangements and bouquets for cost. I just need a place and a photographer, and we're ready to go.
I can't believe how expensive wedding stuff has gotten! Back in the 1970's, I must have gone to 2 weddings a year, and I know not one of them spent any 10K - the average cost these days? Unbelievable. According to who? All of them were in a church, all of them had cake and punch receptions, all of them were lovely. Ladies, get your priorities straight.
Gypsy
Tuesday, December 07, 2004
I am the Bride right? Tell that to the In-Laws that are insisting on having flowers on the altar even going so far as paying for it!
I feel like this a slap in my face basically saying "you didn't plan your wedding right" If I wanted stupid flowers on the altar I would have told the florist so, as it was I didn't and just butt out already!
December Bride
Tuesday, November 30, 2004
You asked why this was happening to you: Because the Forces of Good don't want to see you end up with a DIRTY SNEAKING RAT who knocks up his exes, that's why! Because you deserve better!!! A LOT BETTER!
Need revenge? You already have it! All you have to do is sit back and watch! Let that cheater go live miserably ever after with his Jerry Springer family, getting stuck with shitty diapers and rediscovering why he and his ex broke up in the first place. Watch and enjoy while within a year he's drunk-dialing other exes for secret booty like the stinking rat he is. Eventually, you will even feel pity for this pathetic, immature loser who you escaped having to marry just in the nick of time.
Meanwhile, you will be free to go on to reach new heights of fame and fortune! Repeat after me: YOU DESERVE BETTER, OCTOBER BRIDE!!!
Hang in there October Bride <email>
Monday, November 29, 2004
Ugh. My wife and I have been married for twenty-plus years but her youngest sister had never done so until last year. We both were kind of surprised she was taking the plunge. For most of her adult life, she had shot down one guy after another as not good enough. She is the biggest Princess and I guess we all assumed no guy would ever be good enough.
Well, lo and behold she starts seeing this guy, and eventually they get engaged. Halleleujah! Naturally, everyone's thrilled but the bride-to-be soon killed any joy we felt at her impending nuptials. There is something about a fortysomething first-time bride that makes for the worst kind of " Bridezilla."
My wife reluctantly agreed to be MOH even though she knew she was letting herself in for a world of s**t! Guilt played a big factor because one sister couldn't afford it, one was not emotionally able to handle it, one was no longer living and the other was gay and the family had a problem with her showing up with her partner. So it fell to my poor, well-meaning wife to be the MOH.
Well, for months afterward it was all about the wedding, wedding, wedding. She made us miserable over it for months and months! No detail was too small to obsess over. As obsessive a woman as my wife is, even she lost patience with it over time.
It was all about the wedding, wedding, wedding ad nauseum. It's all she ever talked about and she became annoyed when any other topic was discussed. She expected her fortysomething siblings and in laws - women who have been hitched for years - to gush over every piddling, granular detail or thought. Anyone who couldn't see that of course it had to be all about HER - all wedding, all the time - was just written off in her book as "selfish."
I think there is something to be said about the theory about girls who feel they didn't get enough parental attention making the most obnoxious brides - that they feel they have complete retribution coming for their wedding day. So, even though she was much more spoiled and coddled than her sisters and a total Princess, Bridezilla somehow felt she had a big payback coming.
The phone rang two, three, four times a day. An hour on the phone spent debating over the favors would be followed two hours later by another hour conversation on the same topic. Entire Saturdays and Sundays spent looking at dresses would be for naught, as option anxiety gripped Bridezilla time and again. She expected all her female friends and family to sit in rapt attention as she expoused endlessly about the smallest minutia of the "Special Day."
Another contributing factor was the Groom. Now, her husband is a little more blue collar than what you'd picture the Princess with. Twenty years ago she wouldn't have given a guy like that the time of day, and here she is married to him. The phrase everyone says behind her back but never to her face is that, "She settled."
He is a good guy and means well. He adores her and tries hard to make her happy. I like him a lot but he has bought himself a world of trouble! She is about as out of place living with a guy like him as Eva Gabor was in "Green Acres."
Worst of all, now that the wedding is all over she is obsessing about turning their modest Floral Park bungalow into an East Hampton villa. Now she badgers us all endlessly about the house and has become "WIFEZILLA!"
My confession is that she made us both so miserable with the damned wedding and now with the damned house that neither one of us will have a shred of sympathy when he finally gets fed up and kicks her to the curb.
Hubby of the MOH
Monday, November 29, 2004
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Arvada, CO Saturday, November 27, 2004
you know the reason why my fh, wants to call off the wedding, because he got his ex pregnant!! i'm so upset, maybe if I hadnt been so judgemntal and a bitch this wouldnt be happening to me.
october bride
Saturday, November 27, 2004
I was planing on getting Married on the 22nd of Jan but now my FH is being shipped to Kuwait on the 5th of Dec so we have to cancel all of our plans and get married next week. I am really upset because he will be gone for six months and his job is dangerous. What a way to start life together but I better get used to it as a military spouse. I was looking forward to wearing a pretty dress and having our parents there.We still haven't got our rings! I know that is not the important thing though. I am just really worried about him and will miss him so much. I also have to move my house and his house to our new house all by myself. I am going to miss him so much I want to go to bed and cry for a week.
QuickBride
Tuesday, November 23, 2004
The wedding isn't for six months and I'm already starting to wish we'd eloped (or at least had a destination wedding; something that didn't involve planning). And I'm not even really that busy preparing because I've got people helping me. It's just the stress.
Six months left yippee
Tuesday, November 23, 2004
after reading your messages, the wedding is off. i love my friends and family and couldn't be bothered getting pissed off over this shit
nevermarried
Monday, November 22, 2004
Ok we got married and it was wonderful and I love my husband. But some of the people who were invited to the wedding just s**k. We weren't asking for presents just presence. But only 1/2 of the people who RSVPed actually showed up. So we spent about $1,500 on beer, wine and food that we just had to give away to the people who did come. It would have been nice to save that money. If I had only know that half of the people would "be sick" and not show up it would have been nice. The wedding was beautiful and I wish that more people would have enjoyed it. And it really S**KS that I have to just say "that's okay" when people say I'm sorry I couldn't come but... What I want to say is here is your bill. My hubby says if we ever get married again (and what we should have done if we would have known before) we are going to have people put down a deposit with their RSVP.
wifezilla
Friday, November 19, 2004
actuallt i was the bride last year,but this year my sis in law is the one getting married and hell no i dont regret this one!i was forced by my monster in law to invite 42 people to my bridal shower last year ,only 4 showed up.i invited all the extended family and none of them came .well this year when the sis in law got married they all came outta town for her.finally after a year of keeping in line,i went off at the monster in law!one of the groomsmen backed out several days befoire the wedding ,along with the rest of that family,we were left having to pay for the food for them ,so when the bitches showed up at the bridal shower this year,i didnt talk to them.they were so pissed that i didnt talk to them for the whole bridal shower that afterwards they told my monster in laws that i said soemthingi didnt say.sure we had a conversation but i didnt say what the person said i said.and becasue they belived it i havent been talking to the inlaws for months .after she said whatever it was all i could do not to take a few days off and go to her house (out of state)and beat the hell out of that bitch!so the wedding is tommorrow and you would think the queen if sheeba is getting married and they are all coming ..and people are afraid that i am going to say soemthing to these people .and hell is they start soemthing i am going to finish it!
welllllllhmmmmmmm
Friday, November 19, 2004
Bad sister Bride, Talk to the sister, she might be fine with it. I am re-married with 2 kids and 3 step-kids. When my sister announced she was getting married I told her she did not have to have me as her maid or honor, bridesmaid or anything. To use her friends and I would sit in the church and be happy for her.
Your sister might be quite happy to sit back and let someone else do the work and worry while she watches from the background.
Another quick thought, since she is married (and if she has gone through he own wedding) maybe make her a bridal consultant. Helping you with details and decisions.
raven
Friday, November 19, 2004
Now he tell me that he wants to brake off our engagement because he might still have feeling for his ex. why is this happening to me!!!
october bride
Thursday, November 18, 2004
Bad Sister Bride - Good luck to you! If you include two sisters and exclude just one, you are opening yourself up for years of resentment later on. Is it really worth it? Even if the excluded sister says she doesn't mind...deep in her little heart, I bet she does, and she'll never forget that you excluded her.
Tracy
Thursday, November 18, 2004
I haven't asked one of my sisters to be a bridesmaid even though I've asked both my other 2 sisters, and we have all been BM's for each other up until now. I'll be telling her that it's because my FH only wanted 3 attendants (he could have chosen a 4th). Really it's because she's married with a baby and I think there comes a time when it's not appropriate to be a bridesmaid anymore. Also, 4 attendants each is way too many for our wedding. I haven't even had the guts to speak to her about it yet.
Princess Wide: There are lots of ways to include people without having to have them as a bridesmaid. You could ask your friend to do a reading during the ceremony or something like that.
Bad Sister Bride
London, UK Wednesday, November 17, 2004
I am getting married in 18 months. I am deleriously in love and convinced i can keep my head - and make rational non bridezilla decisions WITH my FH, and my mom is excited but not bossy and my chosen bridesmaids are well organised and single. My problem is that... i have 2 other friends who should be bridesmaids who i haven't asked. The first will mind not being asked (i was her chief witness at ther wedding), but i don't really worry about just not bringing it up with her. The other, i am worried about. I love her, and she is a brilliant friend. I'd give her a kidney. But something has stopped me asking her, and now that i've tried to formulate an arguement in my head - in case it comes up... i realise i don't really have a reason. I could pretend (and probably will) that i didn't want her to be running around after me while her husband spends the day bored - but the truth is, i think i was worried she'd judge me (she's super religious and we're having a civil ceremony).
Problem is: now she's been asked to be a bridesmaid at a mutual friend's pagan wedding - so i can't argue that she'd judge (it's a full blown pagan thing) and i can't ask her now... 5 months after i told the other 2 bridesmaids, cause it'll look like an after thought.
Oh and to make things worse - i like her much much more than one of my 2 bridesmaids i did ask (and she knows i don't really like this person... so she'll feel really unappreciated).
CRAP!!!! how do i make her realise that she is more important than other guests without back tracking.
Princess Wide
Scotland, Wednesday, November 17, 2004
ok, I vented and im sorry, so maybe I lose my temper sometimes, that's probably why I don't have any friends, my fiance just told me he wants to end it and I am so upset!! I fucking hate brides!!
october bride
Tuesday, November 16, 2004
October Bride, they're ALL princes, until you marry them. Then they turn into toads. Dr. Phil (Relationship Rescue)says: A woman wants a husband who (1)cares about how her day went, and listens to her talk about it, and (2)invests his time in improving her quality of life. Dr. John (Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) says: (1) When a man hears a woman talking about the events of her day, he perceives it as nagging, and doesn't want to hear it, and (2) the more a woman does for a man, the less he will do for her in return. Dr. Laura (The Care & Feeding of Husbands) goes into great detail about how to look after these high-maintenance pets, and believe me, if you talk to your Prince the way you chat on this board, yours will vanish into the thin, night air.
cat collector
Tuesday, November 16, 2004
last week i went out for drinks with my friend and a friend of my fiance's was bartending. he got done work, and sat down to drink with us. we all got hammered and my friend's husband picked her up. me and the BT were flirting and he told me whe really wanted to kiss me, so i told him i would. he went out the kitchen door, i went out the back door and we had a 20 minute full blown hot ass make out session out back of the bar. nobody saw us or anything, and neither of us would ever tell, but now i can't get this guy out of my mind....
badgirl bride
Tuesday, November 16, 2004
Not long after I got engaged I started developing these crushes on some guys at work. I've always had a thing for my co-worker who works in the same office as me. But now it's spread to one of the guys in another office (hot bum!!!)and one of the shop floor area leaders! The love life with fiance is a little non-existant - I think we are just too comfortable. Now I just fantasize about these guys all day. I haven't acted on them though, they all have pretty serious relationships. I just feel so guilty!!!!!
this sucks.
Tuesday, November 16, 2004
I had a better time at my bachelorette party than my fiancee did. Even though his was well planned and talked about for months. HA!
December Bride
Monday, November 15, 2004
What did I do in the heat of bridal insanity that I wish I could take back? I got married! I'm not alone in this; once I was entertaining a group of ladies, all married, when a bridal party emerged from the church across the street from my house. Half my guests raced out onto the porch to hoot, holler, and scream "you'll be sorry!" I hadn't even served them any alcohol.
Where I work now, somebody gets married very few months. I've noticed nobody takes up collections to buy gifts or hosts bridal showers for these events. Nobody can stand it anymore. I'm sure the brides don't comprehend their co-workers' lack of enthusiasm. I suspect this same force is behind the success of the initiatives to ban same-sex marriage. Nobody wants to have to hear about, be invited to, or spend money on any more weddings!
Cat collector
Monday, November 15, 2004
Actually, in all honesty, I come from a very wealthy family, and so does my husband.
The wedding was very upscale, and cost my father a fortune.
I'm very elitist, and some people may call me a snob, but I don't think I am.
I was totally tired, I don't normally do drugs (and haven't since then), but I have done coke a few times in the past. My maid of honor brought some, and we did it.
I didn't appear drunk at all, I was smiling, happy, chatty, and seemed completely awake and darling, thanks to the cocaine.
If I didn't do it, I would have fallen asleep, and been cranky, and would have gotten drunk.
So fuck off octoberbride. You will most likely divorce.
PrettyBride
Saturday, November 13, 2004
i can't stand people who, from the minute they meet your fiance have been telling you that they don't like him, that you are doing the wrong thing, etc. they even take it as far as not putting his name on your invitation to their wedding ( and i was a bridesmaid, too!!!!) AND THEN they act all hurt and pissed off when you don't ask them to be in your wedding!! whatever, bitch.... we'll see how long it takes for you to drive your poor husband to commit suicide!! GRRR!!!
junie05
Wednesday, November 10, 2004
Really couldn't be less bothered planning this "Day I've Always Dreamed Of", if one more person tells me August will be here soon I'll SCREAM, I'm too busy trying not to lose the engagement ring!
boots
Ireland, Wednesday, November 10, 2004
Sometimes when I am on UW and all these women are like, "isn't my dress fabulous?" "don't I look great in it?" I just want to respond...that is the most hideous fucking piece of bunting I have ever seen and in it, you look like a horse on crack. Smooches, hun. Smiley, fucking, smiley.
Verbal Diarrhea
Tuesday, November 09, 2004
I did cocaine at my wedding reception, and no one except my maid of honor knows. We did it together. My husband has no idea I have EVER done drugs like that.
PrettyGirl
Sunday, November 07, 2004
Oh another thing, Why is is people care my FH is black, I wish people would stop saying its going to be an oreo cookie wedding, fuck you.
Pretty skinny bride
Friday, November 05, 2004
My two bridesmaid are two 20 year olds who were helping my office in the summer. They helped with the wedding planning inAug and now nothing because I have redelegated.
First they insisted on wearing their colours ( I am paying for the dresses).Then when I needed help in my office on my day off for one hour, they refused...and then went off to try their bridesmaid dresses. Meanwhile, I am working hard in my own company trying to cover expenses and pay for their dresses.
I was so mad I called the dress maker to change the colouring.
Now one of the bridesmaid with an offensive current boyfriend is self inviting himself to my wedding. I said he was not invited because I had to cut down the guest list. and she threw a fit as to why I didnt notify her. In fact, I havent even finalized guests lists. She seems to think that it is a beauty pagent and could nt understand the concept of "Its my wedding!"
mandarin
Friday, November 05, 2004
I am so fucking sick of fat brides picking on me because I have high self esteem and because I will look great in my dress.
A great example of this is *nikki* from uw. Kiss my ass you fat bitch, You know I have never said anything condescending or sarcastic for you to be an asshole. I just don't get whats up with ALREADY married women who still hang around wedding forums. Be fucking married and get lost!!
Pretty skinny bride
Thursday, November 04, 2004
I really don't have THAT much to complain about at all. My wedding was perfect, went off with no problems. And the reception wasn't bad at all. The only thing is, we had a small wedding. Well, we originally planned on only close family and friends at our destination wedding, but my parents and family kept inviting folks. My final count was 52 guests. Fine, they were paying the original cost. Here's the deal though: about 11 extra folks showed up. And believe me the reception folks did a head count and afterwards we owed them for those people. That wouldn't have been a problem, but we had an pick up food buffet, and they did NOT bring in extra food! So why the extra $$ per person? They didn't want to release our photos until they got paid (it was a package deal, with the wedding, photos, and reception). That just pissed me off, especially since we ran out of the best foods. So I paid for seats? Whatever.
Reception gripes!
Thursday, November 04, 2004
Mom started up with the cake issue again. We were out shopping for here MOB dress (everything she picks is SOOOOO not appropriate, can't she just like to wear beige like most mothers??) and we popped into this neat gift store with a big Christmas display that sells cool imported stuff. There was a little section of mother of pearl gifts like coasters, photo frames and the like. I picked up this neat cake cutter/server set (different but I wasn't in love with it) and mom says "oh, that's neat! What will you be using to serve the cake with at the wedding?" I replied, "the croque-en-bouche (tower o' cream puffs!) will be broken off piece by piece so we won't need a server set and the German cakes will have serving tools provided by the hotel". Her shocked comment, "so you aren't having a wedding cake?!", I reply back as calmly as possible, "croque-en-bouche is a traditional French wedding cake", her rebutal, "Are we French?!?!", No comment from me so she continues, "Maybe I'll just get a small one". I say, "No, I don't think that's a good idea". She says, "Maybe just a small one at the parents' table". I respond, "oh, look, Christmas ornaments shaped like swans with little feathers!"
I can sense that this will be a bit of a sensitive topic for the next few months as I am SOOO anti-gigantic-white-crusty-flavourless-ugly-wedding cake (mom thinks that these cakes are BEAUTIFUL and she always wanted one so vicariously through me, she will have one). Lovely.
bride with ninja skills
Thursday, November 04, 2004
This is for Bitter... I found your gripe not bitchy at all. I think your cheap family and friends suck. If I were you I would be completely enraged and horrendously upset and i am NOT kidding.
DEMOCRATIC MAD Bride
Wednesday, November 03, 2004
LOL...Liweddings.com is so chipper it's scary. And am I the only one who sees the humor in the fact that save-the-date items are referred to as "STDs"?!?!?!?
BeachBride
Wednesday, November 03, 2004
Please join!! my wedding webpage, you'll love it!!
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/liweddingssuck/messages
uh-oh
Sunday, October 31, 2004
You want to see conspiracy?? go onto LIWEDDINGs.com, if your not kissing debmahers ass, they wont let you get a word in edgewise, try it, i urge you. She owns the site, and if she doesnt like what you say the post is deleted. how fucked up is that? oh and she is not even getting married, and all these ass kissers believe her, lol. too funny.
antiliweddings
Sunday, October 31, 2004
I should be happy that I got more money than gifts. That's what I wanted, now I realize that I wanted more gifts.
$$$$
Sunday, October 31, 2004
I am so glad that I am escaping the hell of the BIG WEDDING. I'm having a potluck ceremony and reception at my aunt's (lovely) farm. My FH and I are getting married at the courthouse, then having a dear friend of mine oversee our vows. I'm wearing traditional Japanese dress (kimono, obi, nagajuban, way too many cords of some vital significance) and my hubby is wearing formal dress plus a haori (Japanese formal coat). My best friend's mom is helping me do the invites and decorations.
I'm so glad we're not going the traditional route. We could never afford it, and white makes me feel fat. o_O
the natural log of x is equal to one <email>
Saturday, October 30, 2004
I never seem to ask anyone for help. Is this wrong of me? Both families have been great, not to argue over anything, I think the wedding will be great because of that! (We are getting marrie in April '05) But is it wrong of me to not ask my bridesmaids to do ANYTHING??
Too much to take on?
Friday, October 29, 2004
i can't believe there are people in this world that are your friends thru thick and thin, and then along comes a wedding and all of a sudden the thick gets thicker and they get bitchy. i can't believe i am friends with this girl. if i had known what a bitch she truly is/was then i seriously doubt if we would have even been friends to begin with. i get engaged and the last two months prior to my wedding (i'm getting married in two weeks) she totally cuts off all communication. sorry if her boyfriend wont give her a ring and she is the last of the 'group' to get married, but get over it. i truly hope we are 'friends' long enough for her to get engaged and for her to allow me to be in her wedding and pay backs will be hell. she has told all our friends that are coming to the wedding how awful the dress is, how awful the dress she has on is, etc. hello! if you would get off your high horse and realize there are other people in the world that have feelings too, then maybe just maybe, you would cherish a friendship enough to not complain and help out instead of driving me totally crazy these last two months.
MY DAY
Friday, October 29, 2004
I'm so mad - my fh and I went ring shopping. I have an antique engagement ring and we were looking for rings that would kinda match it and kinda be okay w/ modifications for both of us. Well, I can't even wear a wedding band with this ring because of the setting! I don't want to get it re-set. I'm thinking of getting a big honking wedding ring literally stuffed with diamonds now in revenge to the evil ring gods.
stupid ring
Thursday, October 28, 2004
I worked VERY hard to only invite people we really wanted at the wedding. Just relatives and friends that we keep in touch with, almost no co-workers. So my FMIL insists we invite all of these people that I have never met, that have NO reason to be invited to the wedding other than that the in-laws had been to their kid's weddings and had given gifts. SO GUESS WHAT HAPPENED? They all replied no. FMIL thinks this is all about gift payback. I am thisclose to strangling her.
Zilla from Manila
Wednesday, October 27, 2004
i'm freaking out! i'm relocating for my FH in december and i have to set everything up for my wedding BEFORE i go otherwise i'm stuck leaving it up to my slacker bridesmaids who 1.) don't help 2.) have told me they are jealous and 3.) don't like the fact that i'm moving. it's just for a year and a half! no one is excited for me and i have to do everything on my own. my FH is in the navy and never is around and i'm so stressed that i feel too guilty to mention any of this to him. his stupid fucking parents STILL haven't RSVPed to our engagement party. they hate me and his fucking step mom is talking shit to her whole family about me! the woman has never met me. is real mother is so nice though but she wants to do the lights for the wedding. one problem though....she does TACKY lights..for a living! i want to be nice but this is MY day and so i asked my FH to talk to her about it and he hasn't said a fucking word to her. it's been 3 MONTHS!! recently i had to write an ass kissing email to his step monster saying how lucky my FH is to have her in his life and blah blah blah. basically it was to invite her to the engagement party and the woman write me back a couple lines saying how brandon never talks about me and not one FUCKING WORD about her coming or not!! i have to plan a move, a wedding, apply to a college in a new town, and move 3,500 miles away from everyone i've ever known while kissing her ugly fat ass and my FH still doesn't get it. i need help. i need my bridesmaids to get a fucking clue! they're here to help me. not bitch about their own shit. yes, i know they have problems and lives but when one had a baby i was soooo there for her. planning showers, finding gifts, encouraging her, holding her hand through every rough moment and getting her excited about her baby and now she doesn't even act like she gives a flying fuck about my wedding!!!!!!! everytime i ask any of them what i can do to get them involved they just say, "i don't know" and when i ask them what they think i should do they say the same thing! i just want to scream and cry and hit anything i can. at the same time i'm incredibly disappointed i thought this would be something to remember and now i have no good memories of planning my wedding with them. oh, and my step sister insists on wearing a black chinese style dress when mine are cornflower blue strapless dresses and she lives out of town and doesn;t give a damn about my wedding. my mom said she could be in it. i told my mom no. SHE MADE THE FUCKING MESS SO SHE CAN CLEAN IT! things just can't go on like this. i can't be upbeat anymore for show. i can't smile when i'm sad anymore. i have zero patience left and i think i'm going to have a nervous breakdown.
this HAS to get better
Wednesday, October 27, 2004
I recently invited all my coworkers to my wedding, but since I couldn't afford to feed everyone asked if they would be willing to bring a covered dish. The wedding is very casual - jeans and a picnic in the backyard - and I stipulated no gift necessary... yet, I feel as if I am the tackiest creature on the planet.
How do you re-invite someone to your wedding, and do it the right way?
Sorry Sally
Tuesday, October 26, 2004
Hey, Slightly Seething, I'm completely with you on your no-show, no-gift guests! I had 10 who never responded at all, who I had to call on the phone and ask them (as sweetly as possible) ARE YOU COMING OR NOT? Some said yes, and then didn't show, and then one couple left me a voice mail saying "We're going to try to be there!" Who does that, I ask you? Who doesn't know we have a deadline to give final numbers to the caterer, and if they don't show we're stuck paying for their uneaten dinners!!! AND THEN! When this couple did show up, they brought their screaming 8-month-old INFANT with them (the invitation said "Adults Only Please). So now I have a lovely video of our ceremony where you hear nothing but the screaming of their child for a full FIVE MINUTES. One of the other guests finally got up and asked her to please take the baby outside. Can you even imagine?
Bless me for I have sinned against the sacred institution of the family. When my daughter the Bride (though definitely not a bridezilla) went through the guest list I okayed the removal of 2 families from the list, just because they are larger families (one has 4 kids, one has 7 kids) and we could reduce the list by 14 people in one fell swoop. I feel so guilty! They are such nice families and nice children. I promise to add them back in if we can afford it, plus I will do a penance of licking 14 invitation envelopes instead of using a wet sponge.
California MoB
Monday, October 25, 2004
Ok..ok..I admit it..I have not been as motivated to plan this wedding as my co-maid of honourzilla would like..or at least picked out the dress. I am planning to start looking for a dress in December. Ok? December. Hey, if my co-maid of honourzilla is that impatient, why doesn't she go and search out all of the wedding dress shops in toronto in preparation. Maybe she could be my personal wedding shopper. nicole, that should keep you busy!!!
treefrog
Saturday, October 23, 2004
I'm not a bridezilla-I'm a co-Maid of Honourzilla (with my 10 yr old niece). My sister's getting married in June and, for various reasons, hasn't gotten into the whole planning thing yet. I am DYING to go wedding dress-shopping with her. I'm pretty indifferent about my own dress (I'm just excited she's getting married) and most of the other "little details" (haha, I'm obviously NOT the one getting married). The dress, however is a totally different story. She hasn't even picked out a style she likes yet! Yikes. If she knew how much this frusturates me, she would be quite amused. So Holly, if you read this (and I know you read this site) hurry up already!
MAID OF HONOUR-ZILLA
Saturday, October 23, 2004
The wedding was a few weeks ago and I'm irked at the number of friends (@12)who rsvp'd that they would come and didn't show up, costing my husband and I a couple of hundred $. The part that is seething is that only 1 called to explain and only 1 sent a gift. The only time I didn't make it to a wedding I was supposed to go to, I was very sick but later sent a very nice present. There were people who came to our wedding and didn't bring a gift and I'm not the least bit upset about them, so it's not all about the present. I'm just irritated about the total lack of consideration.
slightly seething
Saturday, October 23, 2004
I have to say that a wedding is supposed to be about 2 people who have made a commitment- and not a commital to a rubber room.
suck up and...
Saturday, October 23, 2004
At 52 I have been thru this before, albeit 27 yrs. ago. I am going to have a nuptial ceremony, instead of eloping( as I had) and I have tried to keep it all in some perspective- my BIG day was the day my beautiful daughter was born. I have decided that even tho my faith believes this is a 1st marriage for me, I still want to Keep It Simple, Stupid.
older and, I hope, wiser
Saturday, October 23, 2004
Has-Been Bride: Thank you so much! The black-dress-and-scarf idea is saving my life! My bridesmaids have been the most miserable group of complaining gas bags ever since we started looking for dresses. We've gone out twice all together (there are 4 of them) and found NOTHING! We were planning another miserable shopping trip into the city to look for dresses tomorrow, and I'm springing the black-dress-and-scarf idea on them then. Ha! Who could possibly find something to complain about with that? Though I'm sure someone will find a way! Thank you again!
Sick to death of complaining bridesmaids
Friday, October 22, 2004
I've just heard from my future sister-in-law. She has decided that my December 11 wedding (date has been set for 14 months) doesn't fit in with her shopping schedule. I kid you not. Really. She called me the other night and said she didn't realize that with everything else she has going in December, she will not have enough time to get her Christmas shopping done if she comes to our wedding. Her 4-year-old daughter is my flower girl, and she says she can still be my flower girl (that it would actually help her out if she didn't have to take her shopping!), but that I would have to find someone to babysit her (she has no dad in the picture) if I want her at the wedding. I'm stunned. I was truly struck dumb. Her mother (my FMIL) says, "Well, it IS at a very inconvenient time, you know." And that's all she said. Nobody said a WORD to me about inconvenience when we set the date OVER A YEAR AGO! Can you believe?
Un-Merry Christmas Bride
Friday, October 22, 2004
I have planned my wedding five entire times, re-casting it again and again and again to suit this relative and that set of parents and blah blah. FINALLY figured out a way NOT to piss everyone off, and set up everything - venue, celebrant, reception, wine list, invitations, menu, flowers - you name it.
Well, just got a call from the venue and it seems that the wedding party at the 2-4 time slot wants my time slot from 4:30 to 6:30. So they took it.
I am planning on throwing the fit of fits about this. They can all go to Hell. AND I plan on venturing over to the venue when THEY'RE having THEIR wedding and sabotage SOMETHING!
JustAboutHadIt
Friday, October 22, 2004
I recently read an article about brides who delibratly register for stuff they don't want so they can return it for store credit to get stuff for themselves. How disgusting!
It's women like this that make all brides look bad. To any woman to plans to return all the wedding gifts (not duplicates or stuff you honestly can't use) I hope your husband knows what a greedy cow he married and he divorces you!!!
ettiquette savvy bride
Thursday, October 21, 2004
Hello everyone! My wedding was last month and was absolutely fabulous. I want to pass on a great tip that worked out very well for me and my bridesmaids. My bridesmaids ranged from age 15 to 42, with all different body-types. Finding a dress they would all like and look good in would be impossible. I told them to each find the black dress of their choice - stipulating only that it be long, straight, and not shiny. Then, I went to a fabric store and bought some gorgeous fabric in my chosen wedding color that I had hemmed into a simple scarf for each of them, and asked each of them to incorporate the scarf into their dress somehow - however they wanted. The result was fantastic! Their colors all matched, but each was just a little unique. And best of all, each had a little black dress they could wear again and again that they didn't mind paying for themselves. The dresses were very easy for all of them to find, since black dresses are everywhere, plus, they could all buy them off-the-rack - making them a whole lot less expensive than those cookie-cutter dresses you find in the bridal shop. It really was a great solution for us....
Has-Been Bride
Wednesday, October 20, 2004
I am a bride!!!!!!!!! But oh boy do i have a confession.
I used to be a call girl, my FH knows this because he used to be my client, i know people here are going to either think this is a joke or we don't really love eachother, but i love him so much and he would give his right arm for me. When we got engaged he bought me a diamond e-ring that is over 3 carats. when my car broke down he bought me a BMW, he is awesome!! he bought us a house, small but were building a new one, i love him so fucking much, now one knows, we tell people we met in philly at a party. I knowm people think this hard to believe but it's true, call girls have the same dreams too. I'm just very lucky it happened to me, most girls end up God knows where. My Hubby is so generous! he just took me shopping for new clothes to banana republic, gap, black market white house, guess. I love it, the lifestyle i always wanted, it doesn't hurt he's handsome tall and so sweet, and i'm lucky to have him. God i love him. Fuck everybody if they found out!!
USED to be
Wednesday, October 20, 2004
i should have just stuck all my bridesmaids in the ugliest, most god-awful dress with plenty of butt bows and made them wear '80's dyeable prom shoes so at least they would have a valid arguement when they complained!
grrr
Tuesday, October 19, 2004
Now I'm staying late at work to get my Project Plan for The Wedding finished!
Control Freak
Tuesday, October 19, 2004
why is it that when you send out the 'time frame' of the wedding day people that are in the wedding feel the need to 'give their input'. did i ask for their input... no. do i care... no. i did care about, oh, a month ago when i asked it and got no response. now i send out the actual schedule of photo times, etc. and all of a sudden people have an opinion. and funny thing is it's all the married people that have the opinion. hello! maybe they forgot how stressful this all is or maybe they were such jackasses to their own significant others on their wedding day that they could careless about other peoples feelings as well.
my day
Tuesday, October 19, 2004
2 of my 3 bridesmaids aren't talking to one another right now. They are having big problems with their relationship and may not be friends any more. I keep telling them to never mind the wedding and to do what's right for them and their relationship first. But I selfishly want them to just get along already and go dress shopping with me.
Magpie Bride
Tuesday, October 19, 2004
2 months to go and bridesmaids are still not asking what they can do to help. I am about ready to put together a "to do" list and see how they react. I thought the purpose of having attendants is to take some of the stress of the bride. As far as I can tell their purpose is to complain about the bachelorette party and not doing what "they" want to do...dammit it is my day I wish people would start acting that way!
December Bride
Monday, October 18, 2004
Fiance and I made our invitations using a kit purchased from Staples and Microsoft Word. Had to buy a new print cartridge so the whole thing cost us about $160 (Canadian). They look freakin' fantastic!! I could not ask for better (okay, maybe if they were done by copper plate press but that's WAY over $$$) My mom is freaking thinking that our "homemade" invitations will look cheap and substandard. Probably because when my cousin married his bitch-troll of a wife, their invitations were also done on a word processor but they PHOTOCOPIED theirs onto regualar paper with a leaf pattern on it (can you say "ghetto"?). It was not nice card stock or even high quality paper, I'm talkin' about the paper you buy in packs of 350 sheets! If that is not bad enough, the photocopies were not even centered on the paper! They used a 8 1/2x11" cut in half and the words were all shifted to the left too far. Some were actually crooked!! I was in the weddiing party (2nd string bridesmaid) and had to help put these monstrosities together. I asked about the crooked ones and she said "who cares, we just won't send those ones to your mom or "groom"'s mom". Nice, how classy. To top off the nicely photocopied papers, a sheet of velum which might as well have been parchment paper cut to size (shit quality) tied with these ugly little organza bows (okay, ribbon was half decent). Yuck. Before anyone gets all "but that's what she can afford", she still brags about how much her dad makes (owns own construction business) and how they are paying for everything and what they won't "groom"'s parents had better...Okay, long story short. Mom thinks that our invites will look like bitch-troll's. Mine are wonderful & classy, not to mention better than hers! Na-na!
bride with ninja skills
Sunday, October 17, 2004
How come no one has volunteered to through me and my FH an engagement party. I also sense that my single friends put me on the back burner since I've been engaged. I need for people to be a little more excited about my wedding.
It's starting
Friday, October 15, 2004
I am spending my working hours working on a Project Plan for The Wedding which I plan to distibute to all concerned. It's not until November 2005.
Control Freak
London, UK Friday, October 15, 2004
I have a wedding to plan..I finally called about a place for the reception...time is running out...too much work..what is my problem...I want the perfect wedding..on my budget that is completely unattainable..where's the love?
zilla lovers sister
Hollith
Thursday, October 14, 2004
When my FH and I got engaged he said he wanted to help with the planning process. Even though I'm a professional event planner and I like things done a certain way I said ok. I mean it's his wedding too.
I gave him one job to do;book the DJ and gave him until the end of September to book them (he had 2 months to do it)
Did he book them yet? Of course not! The most he did was surf some websites and sent some emails. I mean is it that hard to pick up the phone and talk to a human voice!?!?
Since I called him on his procrastination, he complains that he hasn't played a big role in the planning. Well of course not especially if you were given one job to do and can't even do that. He said he may just get a guy he used to know to DJ the event because it would be nice to give the business to someone he knows. I asked if he's any good and his reply was "I'm sure he is, and he wouldn't do a bad job because he's doing it for me"
GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!
A lesson to all the brides to be out there: If your man offers to help make sure he does, or else your stuck finding your vendors and most of the good ones are already booked so you're stuck with the shitty ones or the unknown ones.
*Sigh*
Cut me some slack
Wednesday, October 13, 2004
To my friends and family: PLEASE DON'T OFFER HELP IF YOU DON'T PLAN ON ACUTALLY HELPING. Yeah, I'm doing this all by myself because most of you keep dropping the ball and/or $&*@! things up. Ugh.
Zilla from Manila
Wednesday, October 13, 2004
I've had my e-ring for 3 months, and nobody notices it, and it's huge over 3 ct. and its beautiful too, WHAT THE FUCK!!!
What the fuck??
Wednesday, October 13, 2004
The MIL's $8 dress was o.k. so I guess I prematurely panicked there. Everything was wonderful. But 10 guests didn't show up (and of course no phone calls). The only ones that really bother me is the couple that said "You're inviting us to your wedding, right?". Unfortunately, I thought I had to after that. Can I send just them a bill?
10/9bride
Tuesday, October 12, 2004
It seems like if you go to someone's wedding and buy them a really nice gift, they should come to yours and buy you an equivalent gift (if they have the means to do so).
I guess I'm greedier than I thought
Saturday, October 09, 2004
if there are any girls reading this 'just for fun' and aren't the actual bride, let me give you the best advice you will EVER receive in your life... if you are asked to be in a wedding for a good friend ONLY say yes if you plan to actually support your friend and not turn into a bitchmaid that is bitter because the bride is getting married first and you have been dating your boyfriend for x-years with no ring. it isn't the brides problem. you'd probably already have that ring if you weren't such a bitch girlfriend in the first place.
bitchy
Friday, October 08, 2004
i hate guest who dont bother to rsvp and then cancel onyou at the last minute usaually 5 minutes after the finaly payment for the reception has been made. do they think the rsvp is there for decoration? they can kiss my grits if they want to be that selfish and refund my $90 per head ive payed for each inconsiderate asshole. They better get me good presents.
Lu Lu
Thursday, October 07, 2004
A friend of Fiancee had a girlfriend I and every other female friend hated. So when wedding invite time came around I clearly excluded her name from her boyfriends invite. But she simply chose to invite herself and have boyfriend call fiancee to demand her special dietry requirements for the reception. I was furious (expecially at fiancee for not telling her to get stuffed.) I refused to let her come and called her boyfriend under the premise of asking if he could usher. I managed to weasel the conversation around to where he mentioned girlfriend and was coming. I put on a surprised appologetic tone and said "im sorry is she coming?" Silence on his end "I'm certain I didn't invite her, she's not on a guest list or seating plan, Is she on your invitation?" at this point he came back with the invitation and said no she wasnt' but he assumed............I cut him off and said "I'm sorry but there is no room for her then." Husbanhd was most upset when niether showed at wedding.
Lu Lu <email>
liverpool, nsw Thursday, October 07, 2004
I hate snipers on ebay who come through at the last minute and bid 50 cents more on an item you were trying to get for your wedding.
grrrrrrrrr
Thursday, October 07, 2004
i hate people who dont want to hear about my wedding, and i hate people who change the conversation when i bring my wedding up, fuck you i dont need you.
hater
Thursday, October 07, 2004
My FMIL has 2 things she needs to do for this wedding: plan the rehearsal dinner and show up to the wedding. It's less than a month away and NOTHING has been decided for the dinner. If I have to plan that, there's going to be hell (and a fat bar bill) to pay.
Zilla from Manila
Thursday, October 07, 2004
I'm really suprised not a lot more brides post as much.
Just me
Thursday, October 07, 2004
i've had enough! i have one month to go and i just don't know if i can take any more wedding crap. i have yet to hear from my one of my bridesmaids and it's going on two months now. i've tried to call with no answer. this is getting to be a bit of a problem. i am beginning to finalize a lot of plans now including a program with her name included and i would have better luck choosing colors with the blind (no offense to the blind). if it isn't one thing it is another. things were fine, normal, going well, everyone was in their little happy places. with one month to go it could possible all go to hell!
GOD, if you are listening...
Wednesday, October 06, 2004
Well, it looks like fate has given me my long overdue payback. I have a bit of a problem where I look at wedding sites at work instead of focusing all my efforts into my job. Last night I was at the flower shop choosing flowers with fiance and my phone would not stop ringing!!! I have to carry this phone 24/7 in the event of crisis (I deal with customer issues and in automotive EVERYTHING is a crisis!). This phone is what I like to refer to as the "electronic leash". I spent most of the time on the phone while my fiance and the store owner picked out the flowers. Boo :( Somehow it seems wrong that work is now invading my wedding time when it's supposed to be the other way around! Not fair!
bride with ninja skills
Wednesday, October 06, 2004
I have three days until my wedding day and I am freaking out, I just found out my crazy grandmother is coming, great! Then I just do not feel ready, between finshing school for the second time, taking care of a baby and trying to get everything ready I am going crazy. I just hope that my FH's mother does not show up, Please god hear my prayers!!!!
Almost there
Tuesday, October 05, 2004
i am making life hell for my fiance because i don't want to move to where he is ( 2 hours from where i live now) after the wedding. don't i have the right to not want to leave a good job, all my family and friends, and the only place i've ever known??!?!
he needs to grow a set, be a man and let me have my way and move to me!!!! grrr!!!!!!!
hmm... on second thought- this wedding might not happen after all...
june bride
Tuesday, October 05, 2004
Oh my God. Oh My God! My FMIL just arrived in town. She is all excited because she only paid $8 for her gown. She was really pleased to tell me that she got it on 1/2 price day at the thrift shop. And I thought my biggest worry was that she would get arrested for possession of marijuana at the airport.
10/9bride
Tuesday, October 05, 2004
I got a be-yoo-tiful sapphire with two interlocking white gold and diamond inlay bands (one for the engagement, the other custom made for the wedding). Absolutely gorgeous, unique, not expensive (we had a friend do the custom work) and something different than the standard ring that everyone has.
BeachBride
Monday, October 04, 2004
Holy crap. Why is it people who are supposed to be supportive and supportive (ie, FAMILY!!) turn into inconsiderate, obnoxious, selfish and bone-headed individuals? The closer this wedding is getting (it's like 10 months away, mind you) the more I am realizing that this wedding is all about my mother showing up her family and making sure they understand that her daughter(s) have turned out so well, her wedding is nicer than your kids' weddings, my mother of the bride's dress is flashier that yours was, blah, blah, blah. This wedding is turning into a dog and pony show for my mom. I hear the time-honoured phrase "but it's your day, I want you to have whatever you want" but in the next breath I hear "I just want you to have something nice. I want you to have the wedding I never had". For example, I want lots of different types of cakes instead of one big white nasty monstrosity. (I mentioned this in a previous post). Mom freaked about not having a wedding cake. So, I came across this cake in a magazine called a "croque en bouche" (ie, tower of cream puffs!) Yummy! It looked so cool and unique. This is actually a traditional French wedding cake. My mother was horrified! Too bad. It's a wedding cake and you didn't specify what it should look like! Ha ha! I'm a big, big bitch! Now I have this impending feeling of doom that she will order a wedding cake that she thinks we should have (big, white, crusty thing with fake flowers and birds hanging off it) and just put it out at the wedding. She would do something like that so I am a little on the apprehensive side. Not cool. Stay tuned for another rant regarding the mother of the bride and her totally inappropriate choice of dress for the big day! (Hint: she described it as a "me-dress", ie, low cut, glittery, "look at me, look at me" type of dress). Grrrrrrr!
bride with ninja skills
Monday, October 04, 2004
Y
Oh me oh my. I am not wearing white. I can't, I am to pale. Many people have said to me (mostly older) why not white? you are wearing white aren't you? NO it looks like HECK on me. I tried on a $1300 dress and decided against it even though I loved it. It's ONE day I wasn't spending a month's mortgage payment on it. DON"T worry. I promise you will shine. Maybe get some really nice flashy jewelry or ask for some beading. GOOD LUCK.
evee
Monday, October 04, 2004
I've really reached bridzilla status now. My wedding is four weeks away and I'm looking on ebay for another dress. I just don't think mine looks bridal enough. My fiance knows what I am doing and he says do whatever you want, which really isn't that helpful. And he hasn't seen the dress I have to wear. I went with the simple dress because I thought it would be comfortable and more my style. Plus it was about half of what I would have had to pay for a more bridal dress. Now I feel like the only way people will know I'm the bride is because I have a veil on my head. I want something more bridal. I have actually wanted a new dress for a while, but I could not return mine to the store (all sales final). My parents came to visit a few months ago, and I said I wanted a new dress. They said mine was fine and was beautiful. They also said I couldn't afford a new dress. My fiance and I (but mainly I am) are paying for the wedding. Now I want my dream dress that I was too cheap to spend the money on (it was $700 and I couldn't find one to try on in the stores or I might have bought it). I know it is insane and at this point there is nothing I can do. I think the person doing the alterations on my current dress would shoot me if she knew I was looking for a new dress. She has worked so hard on the dress and has come down on her prices on a few things so I could afford to get the dress altered. I just don't know what to do. I'm so unhappy. Oh and can I say a friend of mine didn't help by saying I don't know why you are wearing ivory when you are getting married for the first time.
oh me oh my I've lost it
Sunday, October 03, 2004
I shouldn't need validation but I do. My FH's (2 more weeks) family is taking up 40 of the 80 we have asked. I feel sad for my parents as they have only 5. My mother got really upset last weekend because of this and gave me a rough Sunday. I just looked over the numbers and really adding another $200 or so at this point (we have saved a lot of money by asking friends to do stuff in lieu of gifts).I haven't told my mother. I asked 4 of her friends to come partly because she gave me a hard time and partly because they are family to her. She thought it was too late to ask them but I called them anyway and asked them to come FOR HER and not to bring a gift. I explained that there was room and she would love it. was I wrong?
validation please?
Sunday, October 03, 2004
oh relax, I said OTHER sites, geez
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Saturday, October 02, 2004
that IS what bridezilla is for, if you dont like it, join the wedding forums!! jeez!
hello!!
Saturday, October 02, 2004
hmmmmm, and she wonders why she is banned from other sites... definitly not feelin' the love hehe
still rememberin' what's important
Saturday, October 02, 2004
reality?? this is bridezilla, if you dont like it, get the fuck out!!
angry fucking bride to be
Friday, October 01, 2004
Woah -- angry fucking bride - simmer down! Just repeat: serenity now.
reality?
Friday, October 01, 2004
im not even talking about those details, im just talking about the click they have, it makes me so sick, its like junior h.s. all over again, i hope they all get red ink on thier dresses the day they get married, God please forgive me!
angry fucking bride to be
Friday, October 01, 2004
Wedding talk sites exist to make the average bride to be feel inadequate. No, I am not doing OOT bags, no, I am not creating menus for each guest, no my invitations are not wrapped in homemade f**ing ribbon.
I am done with getting "ideas" from these sites, my wedding will be beautiful but there will always be someone who says "you should have done X" I say to them too bad.
December Bride
Friday, October 01, 2004
i love my wedding plans, they are coming along great, but i belong to this wedding forum that's so full of stuck-up bitches that do nothing but kiss each others asses, and if you are not like, "oh, what a great idea" then your not part of this stupid ass group, i still log onto it, but because im seeing how far i can go by telling these girls off before they out me, they can all kiss my fucking ass, i hate them all with such a passion, fuck you!!!
angry fucking bride to be
Friday, October 01, 2004
i am so sick of this "friend" i have, she's known i have always wanted to be married and have a good life. well, i met someone, and he proposed a yr. after we satrted dating, since the wedding plans she's been so self-absorbed and everytime i start talking about MY plans, get this, she mysteriously has a another call and asks to call back, which she never does!! i ahve a different life than hers, she is ghetto, why did i become freiends with her is because i try not to be a snob. well this has happened with several girls than cannot stand to hear about, my 17,000 engagement ring, or the BMW my sweetie bought me, you know what girls?? stick to your own class!! because otherwise you'll look like a snob to the ones who dont have the same lifestyle.
fucking bitches are so hateful!!
friends suck hairy assholes!
Friday, October 01, 2004
not going to your wedding, you are too cool!!
all about me
Friday, October 01, 2004
to post traumatic bridal syndrome, II LOVE YOU!!! and to all the girls who are keeping it real!! finally i have found a place where all the girls dont act like they are so fucking perfect!!
alll about me
Friday, October 01, 2004
groomzilla, your so dumb!! lol
all about me
Friday, October 01, 2004
how big is yours, size does matter??
its alllll about me
Friday, October 01, 2004
i hate everyone who has a bigger wedding than mine, i hate all girls with bigger engagement rings!! i hate these fucking girls from liweddings.com, they make me so fucking sick!!
itsallboutme
Friday, October 01, 2004
I wanted to say NO when she asked me to be in her wedding. But I just couldn't bring myself. Most women seem to feel it's a great honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid or MOH. But that is not how I see it. I see it as a HUGE debt. I see myself paying for an ugly dress, stupid shoes, airfare, gifts, a wedding shower. I love to attend weddings but I LOATH being in them. Thank goodness, this is my last single girlfriend. I can't afford any more "honors".
Evil MOH
Friday, October 01, 2004
picturecrazy: our photographer has offered to use two cameras, a digital and a normal one so that we can have a website and normal photos. Alternatively, prints from digital photos look pretty good these days.
too much stress
Friday, October 01, 2004
Bitta bride: you poor thing. How dare this other bride have a shower that doesn't revolve around your commute time?!? Maybe everyone thinks it's about her, not you? Does she have other family or friends that don't live 3 hours away? Guess what? I doubt anyone is making you go. If it's going to ruin your whole weekend, don't go. If you're worried about looking tacky, send a gift and an apology about not being able to attend. Either way, get over yourself.
10/09 bride
Friday, October 01, 2004
In the past weeks, I've purchased alot of wedding 'stuff' on a internet auction site and I told my so to be husband that "I will not go there any more and that I will start saving money for the BIG day" and here I am, checking some more wedding 'stuff' out on this auction site. Sorry!
KMP <email>
unknown, BC Thursday, September 30, 2004
My fiance and I are having a major argument over photographers. He wants the pics to be taken in digital whereas I want pics taken with a 35mm camera. We're both stubborn and now this has escalated into a full blown argument, with him threatening me with "not going through with the wedding" Help, what do I do?
picturecrazy
Thursday, September 30, 2004
I posted in here before about my fiance being deployed for the US Army for nine months and will not be home for our original wedding day. So we rescheduled it for June 17th, 2005! We are getting married in Las Vegas at the cutest chapel, Mon Bel Ami! And my advice, do what YOU and YOUR FIANCE want!! Don't listen to the whining from family or friends saying....WAH that's too far away, WAH I have too many things going on with the kids, WAH just have a wedding at home! From the very beginning of our relationship we knew what WE wanted for our wedding and no one was going to change our minds! I am so happy we didn't let their influence change our minds!!! We will have an awesome wedding and those who love us and want to share in our day will be there with us, and for those who don't come....that's fine we know where we stand with you!!! We are doing it OUR way and know that our closest family members and friends will be there! And what is most important to us is that we are there with those who love us!!! So my advice.....Do What YOU want!!!
Very Lucky Bride
Thursday, September 30, 2004
I was happily married last May and even though I had posted something about not wanting children at the wedding low and behold, THERE WERE CHILDREN AT THE WEDDING. Yeah, yeah, Ive heard it all My kids are so well behaved, Junior has to see his uncle get married.blah, blah. Be a better person than me and if you do not want children at your Adult Affair, stick to your guns. Im bitter AT MYSELF for not holding my ground. The day is for you and your husband-to-be; not anyone else.
And on a side note, Ive been invited to a wedding shower this Saturday for my husbands cousins fiancée. The shower is only TWO HOURS. It will take THREE HOURS to get there and THREE HOURS to drive home.I know she came to my shower, which was almost the same distance, but come on! Im gonna drive THREE HOURS for a two hour shower that begins at 5:00pm? My whole weekend is shot! And no, I dont want to stay with family Saturday night and leave Sunday morning, I wanna go home and sleep in my own bed! The only redeeming thing about this whole situation is that my husband will drive me, wait the two hours and then drive me home. And yes, I will probably suck it up and well stay over night with his family and leave Sunday morning. Im sorry, I just dont see the point. Im tired, I work all week and commute an hour plus to and from work everyday and I cherish my weekendsI wish I werent so bitta but I am!!!
Bitta Bride Needs Some Suga
Somewhere Town, PA Thursday, September 30, 2004
My parents live in a smaller city near a larger city where I live. My mom works in a small, boring middle-aged women's clothing store. She sees a lot of people she knows and likes to tell them about the wedding. When they ask about "the ring" (like it's just the most important thing in the world) she cannot seem to describe or even remember the words "platinum" or "princess cut". Apparently she tries to describe it as "square with a silver coloured band". I have no idea what people think (not that it matters). She tells me that no one knows why I wouldn't want a gold band. (I like to think of this community as a small, hick type of place having minimal concept of of style - I have seen recent weddings there where girls still have the wedding dresses with the BUTT BOW!!!) My response to mom's comment about the gold ring was "well, if you'd stop calling it "plutonium" instead of "platinum" maybe people would pick up what you're layin' down!!! Have I mentioned that my mom is by no means rocket scientist material. I think she is honestly getting dumber. Aren't I so mean?!?!
bride with ninja skills
Thursday, September 30, 2004
I'm always checking out other women's engagement rings to make sure they are not bigger than mine. If they are, I am depressed all day.
Size does matter
Thursday, September 30, 2004
Hello everyone,
I last wrote about a month ago, before my wedding. I was freaked about my dress and how the seamstress did a horrible job on it. I also wrote about being freaked about horrendously over-bearing in-laws, idiots who rsvp'd by saying "we'll try," and so on and so on - it was one horrible thing after another. Well, the wedding was beautiful, it went off without a hitch. It was perfect. But the entire month before the wedding was probably the worst of my life. Truly the most horrendous, stressful time of my life. No matter how wonderful the wedding was, it was not worth what I went through to get there. I kind of had an idea that it would be difficult, but I was afraid that if I didn't have the big wedding, I'd always regret it and think that I'd missed out. No. Had I but known what I was in for, I would NEVER have gone through with it. We would have gone to Vegas (as my fiance wanted) and done something small, cute, and fun. And save a lot of money in the process. Girls, here I am, speaking as one who had a BEAUTIFUL, PERFECT wedding and reception. Don't do it. Go to Vegas.
tracy
Wednesday, September 29, 2004
ok, so i have rougly a month and a half til my wedding and i think one of my bridesmaid a.k.a bitchmaid could possible just ditch the whole wedding thing just to get a point across. slightly bitter let me tell ya. (a little background info.): i asked my old college roommate to be my moh (we'll call her peg) because i also went to high school with her and she was suppose to graduate two months prior to the wedding, so she'd be around to help out a lot and be there if/when i'd go bridal. while at school,i met a good friend, lets call her red, and as much as i wanted her to be the moh i went with the other girl just because i'd known her longer and she promised to be around in the last months, well... i was under the impression that you could only have ONE moh, if i knew you could have more then one i probably wouldn't be making this post, but i didn't. so i have one moh and one friend that is pissed now (even though she said 'what's a title any how and said she was cool with everything) that she isn't the moh and the other girl is. so i try to right a wrong and have them both as my moh because i found out you could have more than one, well it's 46 days til the wedding and red has yet to accept the title or for that matter even reply to any emails at all. she has dated her boyfriend for six years with no ring and i dated my fiance for a year... not exactly my problem here. and she has said she is very bitter that it is me and not her getting married. then she sends me this really mean article about this girl that totally got screwed and asked to do too many things for her friends wedding (which is my wedding)!... and the only thing i've asked of her is to come in for try-ons and the shower. and now when i email to ask if her dress fits or if she likes it, i haven't gotten one reply back, not a 'i hate it' or 'i'm not in the wedding' or anything! and i had to pay for half the dress so i could send it in the mail to her to get it altered on her end... and i have yet to see that check in the mail. i could just call her up and scream. i have no idea what to do. do i just pretend like she isn't a bitch and just call and be cheery and ask how the dress fit and if she would do me the honor as one of the moh or do i just let her get a hold of me... which has yet to happen and i'm going on a month of absolutely no response here. i don't get how a so called best friend would become sooo jealous because her boyfriend won't marry her and i found a guy i love who will. her boyfriend has even said he didn't want to marry her, yet she still cuts out rings and dresses from magazines and tapes them to his stuff. she is such a good friend (or was) that i'd love to call her and just tell her to send me the dress in the mail and when i get it, she'll get the half of the money she actually spent on the dress and just find another girl her size. i have bent over backwards for this bridesmaid to make her feel so much apart of this wedding and then she pulls the jealousy thing. i give. i'd love to vote her off the island! (problem is i actually have a heart and would really like the best friend i knew to be at my wedding next to me)
46 days til the end of the crazyz
Tuesday, September 28, 2004
Looking at Laura's post reminded me of my own very small wedding 14 years ago. I wanted to just go down to the courthouse and have the judge hitch us - I've hated weddings ever since I was little and wanted nothing to do with the fuss and bother of a big ceremony attended by a hundred people I barely knew, followed by a horrid evening spent with those same people.
My husband wasn't much for a big wedding either, but he was afraid his family would disown him if we went to see the judge, so we compromised with a very small wedding at home. VERY small - his parents and siblings and their spouses and kids, my grandparents, and a handful of our closest friends.
It was such a relief, not to have to deal with Wedding Drama. I highly recommend throwing "tradition" to the trash and doing things to suit yourself.
Missy
Tuesday, September 28, 2004
laura, you are my personal hero.
louie v
Monday, September 27, 2004
I was just banned from the Ultimate Wedding message board. WTF? Just because I didn't start every post with "oh hun" or "hugs" and presented a different point of view, I get banned. They actually did me a favor. I couldn't stand the sheep mentality of those boards anymore. Freaking message board nazis.
banned bride
Monday, September 27, 2004
We cancelled all our fancy wedding reservations and bought two round trip tickets to Vegas 2 months before we were going to be married--before we sent out the invitations. It was the best thing we ever did. For $49 we were wed in a little chapel and had so much fun. The money we saved paid 20% down on a new house. OUr family and friends were fine with it. We had a party in our new home when we returned. None of my friends had to wear nasty satin dresses, no one got on a fight, we didn't want any gifts and we are so happy. Why doesn't every little girl dream of this type of wedding?
Laura
Sunday, September 26, 2004
I was married one year ago this november and it was lovely.
Since being married my H and I have moved and I have found a new job where one of the girls are getting married this year.
Now I have been at this job for a year now and everyone generally gets along. The B2B invited everyone from work to her bridal shower and hens night and expected gifts and everyone to pay to attend her hens night, however has only invited a few people from work to the wedding and reception.
Okay keep in mind I am a recent bride myself and I know the cost so my main grudge is that this B2B has not even asked thoes uninvited people to the church (which does not cost her for indivudual people to attend).
The other gripe I have is that she is being so secret with thoes who are invited that it is common knowledge who has recieved an invite. Now this B2B didnt even invite the other girl who works directly with her all day every day.
I say how rude and she can go **** herself. If we are good enough to invite to her shower ect and get gifts from us then we are good enough to invite to the wedding even if she came out and said look I cant afford to pay for everyone so if you would like to come I would love to have u there and your wedding gift can be you pay your own way to the reception, or even at least invite us to the church service for hevens sake. I mean like we are going to have to hear about this wedding for like ever and it is really hard knowing some ppl were good enough to invite and others didnt even warrent an invite to the church yet were good enough to recieve gifts from and pay their way to her hens nigth.
I don't know am I being totally b***** or do I have a point. What would you girls do about this??. Myself I invited everyone I worked directly with and others could pay their own way if they wished as our gift or they all could simply attend the church they were all welcome.
pissed off
Sunday, September 26, 2004
Bridezzilla.
What is your problem? I had no idea you felt that way about me. Why did you choose to bring out all your feelings over the past three years all of sudden? As much as I want to be there, I can't. If you hate me that much, how could you ever want me in the pics? I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOU. Gees.
WTF?
Wednesday, September 22, 2004
I've already had it up to HERE with my FMIL.... already not listening to me when I tell her children outside of immediate family are NOT invited. Especially since MY parents are paying for the event and no kids will be included on my side. I keep hearing the "well they won't come other wise.." oh, I'm sorry, I must have missed the passage in emily post that says that I must pay for all your friends and their children that you haven't seen in years....
frazzledbride
Tuesday, September 21, 2004
I mostly held my ground about no kids at our wedding. We had one wife of my hubby's groomsman that insisted they couldn't find a sitter (i.e. -She wouldn't let anyone but her parents sit the kids). She said she could not come to the wedding if they couldn't bring the kids.
I made this one exception because a) these really were the most well behaved kids you've ever seen and b) everyone spent the whole evening asking her "Didn't you hear about the no kids thing?"
She put me in an awkward spot, and in turn she got grilled by 85 strangers about her thoughtlessness. Priceless!
It's Finally Done Bride
Monday, September 20, 2004
To all of the Brides and Brides-to-be, PLEASE do not bow to those who wish to bring their kids to your wedding. I was a groomsmaid in my best friend's wedding in Oct. 2003 and I left my kids with a sitter in our hotel room and they had a ball and I and my hubby got to enjoy the wedding. As a parent and as a member of a bridal party I am imploring you to be brave and to be strong and to INSIST that children be sequestered elsewhere during your nuptials. You will be less stressed as will mom and dad. And if Ozzie and Harriet refuse to leave the Beave with a sitter, UN-INVITE 'EM! THIS IS YOUR DAY, NOT THEIRS!!
Groomsmaid from Oaktown
Sunday, September 19, 2004
I just printed 100 programs and thought they came out really nice. My FH wanted to see them. He thought they were great except that I put the wrong date on the cover. Now I can't stop crying. I only wanted programs in the first place so that my nieces (who really wanted to be flower girls) could have a job to do. I know this is a stupid thing to cry over but I can't seem to stop. Being a bride is like having long-term PMS; things that would usually be a small irritation become big,upsetting, f*&$ing messes.
10/9 ditzy bride
Saturday, September 18, 2004
I must confess that since the June wedding, I still hold a grudge against many friends and family.
We invited 275 adults. 150 said they were coming after we had to call 75% of the guestlist because they were RSVP deadbeats. Only 100 showed up! From the 50 no-shows, we never received a single gift, card, excuse, lie, or apology. Haven't heard from them since.
I had no idea our family and friends were so cheap either (I always thought I was!). From those that didn't come, we received 2 gifts. Of those that showed, we received "gifts" (including empty cards) from about 1/2 the guests. That was hurtful not to get even a nice card from a lot of family and friends.
Our registry consisted of only about 65 items. Only about 10 were purchased. I was totally shocked to find out that our avg. gift value was about $10-20. From a family of 4 that attended, we got an ugly $3 wall hanging from walmart. From a family of 6 that attended, a $7 towel! We paid for the wedding ourselves and went all out that was within our means--Save-the-Date cards, out of town bags in the hotels, nice favors, great entertainment, full dinner with open bar including champagne all night. Now, I wish we had the money we spent on the wedding instead. We found out lots of family and friends don't care about us like we cared about them.
Yes, I know I shouldn't carry the grudge but whouldn't you be hurt too? 8 of my closest friends spent $10 each on us when I spend >$100 on their weddings. We didn't get anything from most family members. It hurts a lot that some people don't even care enough about us to buy a 0.99 card and sign it. We felt used. I know some will wonder so I'll say that all of our friends are pretty much in the same financial bracket as us and most of our aunts and uncles are quite wealthy.
That's all. Just hurt and bitter.
Bitter
Friday, September 17, 2004
well its offical, ding dong the witch is ded, my FMIL is not coming but of course at the expense that my FH's brothers are not going to be in the wedding either. I am sad for my FH but happy that these assholes will not show up and try to ruin our day. The are all cowards that do whatever the mommoe tells them to do. I can't wait until they wake up and totally regret this. I know this crazy witch is going to call everyone up and tell them not to come to the wedding. Oh well, there is not that many that would actually listen to hear that I want there anyways. IT's going to be the best wedding ever!!! His brothers are all puppets and she is the puppetmaster!!!
On the verge Bride
Thursday, September 16, 2004
p.s. Exactly one month until the wedding...then I won't have to think about all this ever again!!!! Yay! I'm just so ready to live with my guy, and be domestic. That's all. Just him and me...and our puppy we get 2 weeks after the wedding!
still going crazy!
Thursday, September 16, 2004
p.s. Exactly one month until the wedding...then I won't have to think about all this ever again!!!! Yay! I'm just so ready to live with my guy, and be domestic. That's all. Just him and me...and our puppy we get 2 weeks after the wedding!
still going crazy!
Thursday, September 16, 2004
What is with people not sending back their response cards? Yesterday was the due date...and we are still waiting for about 30 cards. Is the RSVP date not big enough to read? I just knew this would happen...we even sent the invitations out a little early so all of our out of town guests would have time to find ways to get here. Because it is out of my control, the past month has stressed me out. This is the only part that I really haven't enjoyed...I'm giving these people until the weekend, then I am sending out the dogs on them! I have a friend that will call each and every one of them to know that they are late in returning the self addressed already stamped response!
I never thought I would say this, but I would have rather had a small picnic as a reception...this is so annoying! My parents would not have gone for that...but at least I would not have been waiting for these deadbeats to send a stupid little card back. How annoying! At least I feel better now that I've vented. Thanks for reading.
still going crazy!
Thursday, September 16, 2004
I think weddings are such BS. I cant believe that the most expensive dress Ill ever own is the only one that Im guaranteed never to wear again. Why are we buying dinner for 80 people and spending on average 5 mins with each of them? When we could take them out to dinner one by one and spend the whole evening with them? Why do I have to invite my uncle and aunt that I have met once when I was 8 years old? And finally, why oh why does my Mother keep referring to it as the most special day of my life? It isnt, there will be many special and meaningful events in our lives together. Plus, I hate entertaining because I get so stressed out and I know Im not going to be able to relax and enjoy the wedding anyway.
Reluctant Bride
Thursday, September 16, 2004
One of my best friends has got engaged and I am convinced that she is going to organise her wedding at the same place that I want. We haven't chosen our venue for sure, so everyone will think that it was her idea first and I am copying her!
If her diamond is bigger than mine I don't think I will be able to stand it!
Competitive Bride
Thursday, September 16, 2004
I got my save-the-date cards in the mail! I'm so excited. But, on that note, this total hick chick where I work was getting on my case "I haven't seen my invitation in the mail yet; it must've gotten lost, har har." What, like she thinks I'm going to invite her? First of all, I'm not inviting anyone from work. Second of all, even if I were, I don't even work in the same company as her, she just works in the building near me. Third of all, even if I were inviting everyone else in the building, I would not invite her because she is a total wreck of a person who I would not want at my wedding. Fourthly, even if I were deliberately excluding her, my wedding is not for EIGHT MONTHS and I wouldn't have sent out invitations yet, and isn't it just a TAD RUDE that she went and tried to invite herself to my wedding?? She is an evil person, one whom I shall call ZillaMaker!
yay! but still a zilla
Tuesday, September 14, 2004
I thought I was going to have a great wedding b/c fmil was not coming. But don't fear she called back the same day that she told my FH that she was not coming along with his brothers but decide that we could not have this wedding without her, oh yeah right we have planned everything else without your help. My FH's brother who is the best man still have not called him back the wedding is only 26 days away, what the hell is he going to do just show up at the wedding like nothing have happened?
Then to make matters worse, I went to try my dress on and it does not fit. MY boobs are too big? They said they could ordered another for $150. Hey I guess they think I haven't paid enough for the dress?
On the verge Bride
Monday, September 13, 2004
I wasn't the bridezilla, but I regret having the bridesmaids I did, because they made my wedding awful.
Not only did I let the two of them pick their dresses, and let their boyfriends sit at the head table, I also paid for most of one of their dresses.
I had a morning wedding, because we had family coming in from out of town that needed to be home by Sunday, so they had to be there by 8 for pictures, etc. Now none of us were morning people, but I figured it wasn't too unreasonable. They, on the other hand complained about it when they found out about it and for six months after the wedding.
My MoH about three months before the wedding told me she thought watching me get married was like watching a train wreck happen (because she didn't like my fiance, and didn't like the idea of marriage in general, her being a 'feminist' and all).
I offered to let her out of the wedding, because I wanted attendants who were supportive, and told her it was up to her. I should have booted her. Two weeks later, she had a third friend call me and ask me if I was still going to let her be in the wedding, to which my answer was 'if she wants to.'
By the time the wedding came along, my MoH was so irked by the wedding in general that she refused to smile in any of the pictures, and could barely be civil to my family and my husband's family. We had a dry wedding, because my husband's grandparents are super-Baptist and we wanted to respect their wishes, and she brought a hip flask to the head table.
The MoH never planned a shower for me (which was fine, I think showers are rather greedy), and then, because I had the temerity to mention to another friend that I'd like a more toned-down bachelorette party than the typical stripper/bar scene, she e-mailed me to tell me that she was too busy to plan it anyway and so I could plan it myself. She was on summer vacation from school and had a part-time job and I had a 40-hour internship.
Regardless, the worst part was still her refusal to smile in any of my wedding pictures. And the other bridesmaid's insistence that the dresses (that they picked out) were super-horrendous.
Clearly, they were.
In the end, my MoH went to Europe when I went on my honeymoon and came back telling me that she no longer wished to be friends. About eight months later my other bridesmaid got in a huff about my defense of another friend and is no longer speaking to me.
So pretty much, what I've learned from my experience is:
If you want a decent wedding, don't have attendants. Or if you *must* have attendants make sure you don't care a flying fig about them.
Irked by bridesmaidzillas
Friday, September 10, 2004
These damn guests are not buying the stuff on my registry that I really want, i.e., the towels, the gorgeous pots and pans, and the china. They're buying the filler crap--serving spoons and what not. The other stuff is not outrageously priced.
Haley
Friday, September 10, 2004
"Who knew that becoming a bride could make me such a tacky woman?"
Talk about tacky- the bride (who's an 8- I'm a 4) called last week to make sure I will be getting "sucky iny" panties to wear under my MOH dress! I guess I can't blame her... the past year she's been acting like she has been wearing a pair around her freaking head. Monster B*&*)T&
the smaller one
Friday, September 10, 2004
Help, my FH is the Groomzilla here! I want to run away to the beach with close friends and family, he is the one who wants a big, white wedding. I would delegate all the details to him but he would spend our life savings on one party. How do I change his mind?
Runaway Bride
London, UK Friday, September 10, 2004
Thank God I'm not the only one who can't stop looking at the online registry. I feel so guilty about this that only my FH knows and I've made him vow not to tell anyone. I didn't even want to register and now I can't stop checking and wondering who still has to go shopping. Who knew that becoming a bride could make me such a tacky woman? Thank you,Bride with Ninja Skills for making me feel less alone. Gotta go check the list again.
bridezilla-to-be
Friday, September 10, 2004
We're not officially engaged. (ie, no ring until later for $$$ reasons) We haven't told anyone we're getting married, but we have most of it planned. A date, the ceremony and reception location, my dress, a photographer. And it's been so easy. :) When we announce it, we're going to be like, this is when and where it is. It's all set. It's been the best way to plan a wedding. I highly recommend it. :)
super secret bride
Thursday, September 09, 2004
I peek at the on-line registry a lot. I think I need to add more stuff.
I hate tulle, tiarras and accountant-by-day-bridal-boutique-saleswoman-by-weekend types of people. They should stick to spread sheets and leave poofy white dress stuff to professionals.
I am harrassing my fiance about homemade invites or professionally printed, ecru or cream, square or rectangle, to the point I think he might take the ring back (once he pries it from my cold, dead hand).
I considered "retiring" and letting the Sales Guys at work plan the wedding. Fiance said no.
bride with ninja skills
Wednesday, September 08, 2004
You know what? Now I now why I am still calm about my wedding. Because the planning stages have not yet begun. We need to register our marriage first in a European country (lots of redtape) and the documentation part (which is probably the hardest) is over and done with. Now we are just playing the waiting game with the Registry. Once that is done, then we can start with our church ceremony and maybe then I will start tearing my hair out!!!!
gilamonster71
Wednesday, September 08, 2004
Well, its offical my FH mother's just called to say that she can't take it or I mean us anymore and that his three brothers don't to be apart of our wedding in excalty 32 days. Now we have not talk to this lady in a month except for a minute on Sun but only b/c she again realized that she has a granddaughter and sudden wanted to see her again. Everything was fine, I even had to see her ugly face and I was totally civil to that stupid bitch. But she must have brainwashed all of the boys into not being apart of our wedding. She also said that she was not coming, it was like God has answered my prayers, I am so happy. When she told my FH that she was not coming, he goes, "all right". She was like you don;t care if I don;t come, and he goes " If you don't come then you don't come. She was waiting for him to be like please mom, come come to my wedding. I know that it is easy for me to be happy b/c I have been trying for the past couple of months to piss her off to a point to not come and she did it all by herself. I think she took the blus pills today, who knows. She has a selective memory, tomorrow she will be like I never said that! When my FH called his one brother to make sure that he was not going to be in it, he said that they never said that?!!! Too bad, my FH already has his two best friends that should have been in it from the beginning but couldn't be b/c you feel olbigate to have your family in it. Which I think is bullshit. His family has not been there for anything, like their brother, their niece, anybody but themselves. All they do is what ever their crazy mother tells them to do!!!
Thanks for making me wedding even more perfect!!!
Happy thanks
Had it
Tuesday, September 07, 2004
I feel so wicked and fake....cannot stop crying and thinking really mean thoughts about my friends and family. For example "why are you not asking is there anything I can do to help" why are ye not being extra nice to me instead of wondering stupidly why I am so stressed out....I am v disappointed in some people and have quietly decided to rid myself of them from my inner life from the day after the wedding
two weeks away bride to be
Tuesday, September 07, 2004
Ok here is the deal, my Mr and I are planing on having a small wedding in a resort and are only inviting our nearest and dearest, how ever as you all know guest lists like to balloon... I have Famly back east I only see these people mabey every 4-7 years they are all peeed off they are not invited. you know that if I invite them i have to invite my Mr's relitives from back east and now the guest list is plus 20.( hope to have total list of 50pp max) thats BS I say. so to keep the peace I was thinking as it is a pain and costly to come out for this wedding I could sent invites realy late like a month before and then mabey the wont come because they didnt have the time to save or the time booked off work. that way I look like a I was good to invite them but they cant come. so smart?
cheep bride
Friday, September 03, 2004
I'm actually feeling ok about the planning thing. Now that we have a site and an officiant, as long as we pick someone to do food I really don't care much about the rest. And can I just say that all of the parents have been GREAT?? Both mothers actually said that we (my fi and I) should take *their* friends off the invitation list first before we took any of our friends off! I feel so lucky. I hope it lasts!
actually pretty happy
Friday, September 03, 2004
I am a bad, bad wife to be. I lied to my fiance. I told him I found a wonderful dress (yay, he was happy), then I told him the price tag was $1500 not including alterations (hmm, not yay, more of a grimace). I guess when you can rent a tux for less than a hundred bucks, $1500 does seem like a lot of loot. Then...this is really funny...I told him I found a beautiful, simple yet gorgeous veil. This was surprising him because I am so anti-veil. He asked how much it cost...here's the whopper...I said "it's included with the cost of the dress". Uh, it's actually like $350. That will be paid for in cash and on a seperate bill and no one will be the wiser....I hope.
bride with ninja skills
Thursday, September 02, 2004
To REGRETFUL...I am so sorry you feel that way. If you truly feel you regret marrying him, there are ways to change things. It may seem impossible now but you sound like you are truly, truly unhappy with someone who does not care for what you feel. Forget "traditions" for a minute...your feelings don't obey traditions. If you end up alienating them, who cares? You said they didn't really care for you anyway, so why do you feel you need to prove something to them by staying? It gets harder the longer you stay, and there are people who can help you and your child. Even if that just means talking to someone like a therapist, alone or with your husband, you can try to move on from your regretful wedding and try to make the most out of a marriage with a rocky start. Best of luck to you...
Not Even Engaged Yet
Tuesday, August 31, 2004
Remember the shower that I told my sisters what to do? I told all my friends at work that they were invited. I thought I was doing the right thing so that they wouldn't have a party at work and then be invited to my family shower and feel like they had to buy 2 gifts. But they did have a surprise shower at work and told my sisters. My sisters took them off of the invitation list for their shower (thinking like me that it would be rude to invite them to 2 parties). But because I already told them to save the date months ago, they called my sisters looking for their invitations. I thought I was doing the right thing but now I feel like an ass. Take warning:this is what happens to brides who feel like they have to be in charge of everything!
bridezilla-to-be
Tuesday, August 31, 2004
Groomzilla-if your future bride has specifically told you that your setting foot in a strip club for a few hours before your wedding has 'ruined her wedding', run far and run fast b/c SHE'S the one with the issues. and it'll only get worse once it's legal.
louie v
Tuesday, August 31, 2004
I hated my wedding. Everything about it was wrong. I had it out of state because the grooms family were out of state and they wanted everyone THEY KNEW to come. I cant say anything about that because in our middle eastern traditions, the groom and his posse get to invite as many people as they want because they're the ones paying for the whole thing. They spent over 25,000 on a huge reception for 400 of their closest friends and family (of which I only knew about 30 ppl) and once it came to dishing out money for my dress, he gave me $600! In our tradition, this is the most important thing he has to pay for, I should of ended things right then and there but I was stupid young and felt I needed to please my family. His sisters were all dressed to the nines. The dress I dreamt about in my mine since forever was a desig by St Pucci abou $6000. He told me to take fabric to a seamstress his sister knows who will make me one just liek it, it turned out horrible!!! Just terrible! On top of that frm all the stress, I wasnt eating and lost a lot of weight and it was like 2 sizes too big by the time I wore it. It was too late to get another one, and by that time his money had run out and his parents were not plannning on helping since his mom never liekd me anyway. I wore it, I dont know how I did it, I just cringed and wanted everything to be over so bad. 3 years and 2 months later, we have a 2 year old boy, I still give him a hard time about it and tell him I want to take picures. Since I dont like any from the wedding. He caved in for me at that one, but I dont think thats my only problem, my problem is that I regret not leaving when I had the chance, I regret not fighting more for my rights (all my friends and his relatives had more say in their weddings) I just didnt know any better, they say oh well this is how its always been done and I believe them. I regret everything.
Regretful
Tuesday, August 31, 2004
When I was getting my hair done, I swiped the brand new copy of a wedding magazine they had left out for the customers. It was the fall issue and I ran off with in before the end of August.
Magpie Bride
Tuesday, August 31, 2004
Hi Groomzilla,
My god, poor you!!! i don't mean to sound mean, but did you have a good time??? Seriously though, your bride probably had a good reason as to why she did not want you going there. Its not that she doesn't trust you, its the people around you that she doesn't trust. Many guys on their stag night end up doing silly things that they live to regret but from what you have written, it sounds that nothing happened. I feel that you really should try and reassure her. She is going through an emotional time now and probably needs your love and support more than anything in the world. An apology to start off is always good though!!! I on the other hand, hope that my FH has a great stag night, hopefully his friends will bring him to a strip club or something. Not because of anything but i want him to have fun before, during and after the wedding cos thats the kind of fun i would like to get up to as well. Good luck and i hope all works out for the best!!!!
gilamonster71
Monday, August 30, 2004
Jesus, I feel horrible about it, but lately my fiance has been more than just a bit annoying. Seriously, I can have a great day at work, come home, be totally relaxed, and then when he gets there an hour later, he'll drive me crazy! It's not with anything specific either; he just always manages to be annoying. It's stupid too because I know it's just because I'm nervous about the wedding.
evil
Monday, August 30, 2004
I went to a strip club at my bachelor party even though I knew my bride didn't want me to. Now she is incredibly upset and I don't know what to do.
AAaaaah!!! Why did I just not go???
I love her so much and now I've ruined the wedding for her!!!
GroomZilla
Monday, August 30, 2004
To Not Even Engaged Yet, I know what you mean about the MOTBzilla syndrome. A friend of mine (only child) had the same problem. She wanted to get married on a beach in Hawai, her mom wanted the whole big church deal, so she told her mom "OK. I'll do this your way on one condition. You plan it. A to Z, just tell me when and where to show up and I don't even want to be asked my preference on flowers or food. You do the whole thing, and we'll honeymoon in Hawai." She stuck to it too, every time her mom came to her to ask her opinion she said she didn't care, whatever her mom wanted. So the wedding was fine, no major disasters, then bride and groom went to Hawai... and had a second wedding on the beach to start their honeymoon.
Also not engaged yet...
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